Ask Me Help Desk - Ugh how do I get ride of this feeling?

Ok So I Have This Ex Boyfriend And I Still Really Like Him And Every Since We Broke Up I Have Had This Whole In My Heart That Just Won't Go Away And Its Benn 7 Months Since And Ive Had 4 Bfs Since Then But I Just Don't Kno Wat To Do No Matter Wat I Can't Get Ride Of It And I Still See Him All The Time And Wee All Still Hangout So That Makes Things Worse When Ever I See Him I Just Remember The Old Days And I Just Don't Kno Wat To Do About Any Of This And I Told Him I Still Like Him And Hes Told Me He Still Liked Me But For Some Reason I Don't Think He Is Telling The Truth And I Want To Make Him Jelouse But I Don't Kno How And Ive Tried So Many Times To Let Him Go But I Just Can't Cause There's This Thing In The Back Of My Head That Still Haas Hope That We Will Get Back Togather But I Don't Know Wat To Do Please Help Me Please

Pull him to the side for a private little talk just you and him. None of his little friends to stick their nose in. ask him to tell you how he really truly feels. If you are still not sure about that being the truth. On the dl ask one of his friends if they know whether he likes you. What is the reason you two broke up in the first place is what I would like to know. :confused:

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Originally Posted by cutie08

Ok So I Have This Ex Boyfriend And I Still Really Like Him And Every Since We Broke Up I Have Had This Whole In My Heart That Just Wont Go Away And Its Benn 7 Months Since And Ive Had 4 Bfs Since Then But I Just Dont Kno Wat To Do No Matter Wat I Can't Get Ride Of It And I Still See Him All The Time And Wee All Still Hangout So That Makes Things Worse When Ever I See Him I Just Remember The Old Days And I Just Dont Kno Wat To Do Bout Any Of This And I Told Him I Still Like Him And Hes Told Me He Still Liked Me But For Some Reason I Dont Think He Is Telling The Truth And I Want To Make Him Jelouse But I Dont Kno How And Ive Tryed So Many Times To Let Him Go But I Just Can't Cause Theres This Thing In The Back Of My Head That Still Haas Hope That We Will Get Back Togather But I Dont Know Wat To Do Please Help Me Please

Honey, from reading your previous post, your ex boyfriend is no good. Don't subject yourself to any more of his mental abuse. You have to stop hanging around him because you will only end up getting hurt again.

You have been given some very good advice on the other thread you've started. I hope you read the comments and make the right decision.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/showth...0942#post60942

The thing you need to realize is, missing someone is not something you can just *POOF* get rid of. If you really want to leave all this behind, you need to stay away from him. You know that old saying "out of sight, out of mind"? Its really true. You sound latchy on this guy, and weather you know it or not, HE knows he's got you. You can ask him how he feels if you want, but I really think you are setting yourself up for heartbreak on that one. I would say, let HIM chase you... why not? Its more fun that way too. You sound like a young girl, you need to be having fun and not stressing out over this kid. If he wants you back, you will know... trust me. If you want to "get over him" then cut contact and DO NOT HANG Around HIM!! Why do that to yourself? Things get better and life goes on, Im sure there are other guys out there you like, just give them an honest shot. 4 guys in what 7 months? Sound slike you are settling to me. Don't do that, its OK to be single and wait for someone to come along. That's when you know things are right anyway, when you just "click" with someone. When you settle, you won't be happy. :p

How long were you with your ex boyfriend?

I was with my ex for 2yrs and after we split it took me nearly 2yrs to get over him and stop missing him etc. In that time I did see other guys but it was never the same. But once I got over it I ended up meeting a wonderful bloke called Pete who had been under my nose the whole time.

There are stages you have to go through after splitting up with someone and it does take time. You need to stop trying to win your ex over and accept things did not work out for a reason and concentrate on yourself. You had a life before you met him - so try and get that life back. This guy will always hold a place in your heart and you can hold onto fond memories but the feelings will fade.

You just need to concentrate on yourself - and give yourself some time. Time is always a good healer.

In a year or two from now you will look back and wonder what all the fuss was about; I know I do. (I am a much stronger person these days).

You need to ask yourself what is it about this one that makes him seem so special. After all, 7 months and 4 boyfriends later you're still carrying a torch for him. He's indicated that he has similar feelings for you, though you doubt his sincerity. Analyze your priorities and decide exactly what you want in a relationship. Go so far as to actually make a list, being as objective as possible, of everything you consider to be essential qualities in a boyfriend. Then compare your list to this guy and see how closely he matches up. If he still seems to fit your ideal picture then talk to him frankly and earnestly about your feelings. If he doesn't, then this situation will resolve itself for you. Good luck!

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Originally Posted by s_cianci

You need to ask yourself what is it about this one that makes him seem so special. After all, 7 months and 4 boyfriends later you're still carrying a torch for him. He's indicated that he has similar feelings for you, though you doubt his sincerity. Analyze your priorities and decide exactly what you want in a relationship. Go so far as to actually make a list, being as objective as possible, of everything you consider to be essential qualities in a boyfriend. Then compare your list to this guy and see how closely he matches up. If he still seems to fit your ideal picture then talk to him frankly and earnestly about your feelings. If he doesn't, then this situation will resolve itself for you. Good luck!

If s_cianci would not have mentioned your past, I would have started my post with exactly the same comment. At your age, and you did not tell us how old you were, you have had more boyfriends than most other young ladies within 7 months. Are you sure you have feelings for this one, or do you wish you would have stayed together so that you did not have to go through the other ones that did for some reason not give you the emotional or physical support/satisfaction that you are seeking. At this point, I really am not sure that you know what you want. Please give yourself a break from all men for at least a month or so, to collect yourself and think about your future and what that is going to look like for you if you constantly place men in the center of your universe. Yes, guys are great, but some can be real jerks and usually are at your age-group because they don't know what they want either. Do you enjoy being passed from one to the other, or like the emotional rollercoaster you are on? What is your life going to look like a few years down the road if you keep this up? Please concentrate on your education, career and establish yourself as an independent young woman first, then think about what kind of fellow you'd like on your side - believe me they will be more mature than the ones you've met so far. Don't let this hormone spurt drag you down and please give yourself a break and time to grow up.
For now, find a way to get rid of them all by just telling them you don't want anything to do with them, period. You don't need to give any other reason. Good luck to you and a healthy future.

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