Hey everyone!

Yes I know that it is a while until the 9nth of June but still I would like to get her something really great!
Yes I know she isn't my girlfiend and I should just move on... but I still love her and she is moving to a town VERY close to the one I moved to when we broke up.

So here is the thing...
I want to get back with her and I am palning to spend some time with her this summer to you know... let us both fell how we really feel for each other and the see what happens.
So for her graduation from high school (wich is a very big deal for her) I want to get her something special.
But since I isn't her boy friend (she is single by the way) I don't want my gift to say "I LOVE YOU! LETS START OVER!" And still nothing boring or stupid like a book.

So what do you guys and girls think?
Do you have any great gifts that you know have worked or just are great gifts...


She loves tourism and foreign languages!
Specially france, spain and italy...
She also loves to hang with her friands and also very much with her family.


Thanks!

Is she going to be attending college in the Fall? Or will she be working? I don't want to sound like an ad for FindGift, but they have a pretty neat website - Graduation Gift Ideas / Gifts for Graduates

For example, there is a college survival kit or the working woman's survival kit - little necessities all packaged up and ready to go. Gift certificates are always nice - if she has favorite store. Does she have a favorite television series - that has come out on DVD?

Hey all tips are welcome hear with great warmth! :)

Yea ill check that out!
But those survivaltips seem quite dull to me acctually... not personal...
Yea her all time favourite is friends!
BUT she already bought that :P

Ill deffinatley think about the gift certificate thing! :)
Thanks!

Glad I could help, even if for only a little. You could make up your own survival type kit for her - I have done that for friends and co-workers and just tailored them to their own tastes. Just an idea.

She loves tourism and languages... is there a language she wants to learn yet? Buying a DVD of one of her favorite countries with a matching language instruction? Look for something she would not treat herself too. An example, a gift certificate to Bath & Body Works (which she can use online, if no store near her). A Mrs. Field's gift package, of which there are many many kinds of options there, is a really nice treat. I get their catalog and am always impressed with how they put things together.

You mentioned a book would be boring - what if you found a first edition copy of her favorite book or by her favorite author?

Wow you are really great with gifts! :)
Thank you so much!

Well she is a collector of the swedish ELLE magazine!
I acctualy thought about getting her a copy of the first one ever made..
But I have had a hard time finding one...
Any sugestions? :P

eBay? That place seems to have something for everyone. I bought pieces to complete my Mother's Spanish dinerware. While some pieces got a bit pricey, for me it was worth it. Now that I have the whole set for twelve - do I use it? No, cannot afford to have anything break. Lol. But it looks nice in the china hutch and I wash every piece faithfully once a month.

Also there are other online auctions. I know Yahoo! Has one and there are several others. If you could contact ELLE magazine and ask for their assistance. I know that is a long shot, but sometimes those pay off. What a treat that would be if you could find that!

Good luck to you! If I ever run across something like that, I will let you know.

Thank you so much for the help! :)
I will go on a hunt for the magazine! :D

A GIFT WILL NOT HELP, YOU Don't THINK Too much ABOUT IT. I WOULD JUST GET HER A CARD AND SAY CONGRATULATIONS. IF YOUREALLY WANT TO GIVE HER SOMETHING TELL HER TO COME OBVER AND COOK HER A NICE MEAL FORDINNER A SURPRISE!! BEATS ANY GIFT YOUCAN BUY. BELIEVE ME IF YOU WANT TO WIN HER BACK COOK HER THE ROMantic meal tell her she's done a gret job at uni and give her the card. When she's finished the meal have some desert and then call it a night. Don't become clingy and try and keep her around tell her yourve got something to do but if she wants to you guyscan catch up when she's got time and make her leave.. IF YOU PUSH HER OUT THE DOOR SHE WILL WANT TO COME BACKL FOR MORE. THI IS YOUR CHANCE . COOK THE ROMANTIC MEAL AND SEND HER HOME.

Im thinking the proper gift to give would be SPACE!
You ever took a second to notice the unique architecture of the letter " X "

Thanks everyone for you advice!
Getting interessted in the advice mckenzie134 gave me.
Seems reasonable and correct considering everything I've learnt on these forums.

Just wondering...
Say I just give her a card and a dinner and it gows as planned.
What then?
Wait for her call or call her?
I mean if I "push" her out the door yes she will get time to think over the experience and think she had a great time. BUT won't she also start wondering about the quick ending of the evening? Like why I didn't want to spend more time with her? Won't that be negative?

Thanks!

She is your ex, you should respect that. Are you two still in contact? Friends even?

If so, then think about the gift.

If not, then no gift is necessary.

I am basically speekin on my own experience. I am only 38 an haven't reached the record setting number of ex's quite like my mom. I am still young an won't stop trying. Although if my ex suddenly sent me a gift it would be very creepy feeling. In developing the well known status of EX involved a basically simple conversation. We are done. Regardless of who's idea it was, the fact is the relationship is clearly unwanted by one or more persons in the relationship. Having that wealth of knowledge,why would I go back to a situation where I was unwanted, risk my valuable time an heart ache on a clearly stated decision made with this other person? Seems obvious to me now, but I can admit I have been in similar situations in life where my all knowing mind can manipulate insanity into logical reality basically in seconds. I am also the loud mouth that expresses how intelligent people are that " fall in love " with married people. Create a relationship with a proven cheater an expect things to be happy ever after makes me laugh a long time at the mind games we play on ourselves. I truly had no intentions in my first answer to be viewed as malicious or hateful. It was simply put to me that very same way.The hopes I shared with a very close friend. They didn't upset me with any thing they said to me, because I just don't take words or opinions in a negative. Manner. They gave the obvious truth of the situation I was in. How can you be upset with that? I just needed to have the seed planted an come to terms with that silly one letter word, no matter how much I tried,I will always be that one letter word. Weeks later I happened across a 3 legged cat and named him Elizabeth. Haven't dwelled on her since. Funny thing about the cat is, he doesn't know a bit of difference his name is a former girly I dated. Keeps me laughing.

I've got a few questions...
-How long have you two been broken up?
-Why did you two break up?

If the breakup was messy and it happened recently then I think you should prbably give her a little space. Maybe a card or something but you don't want to look creepy. BUT, if the breakup was simply because of your move or something else to that nature and it wasn't just like within the last month... I think the magazine would be a great idea.

I Am So With You Crusty!!

Okay here we go!

Yes she IS my ex and I know I have to give her space and I have!
It was half a year since we broke up.
And we broke up because I moved away from her.
We both still loved one and other.
We dotn speak reularly like everyday or anything but then again me and some of my best friends from home have spoken for several months so... its quite the same.
She has become my friend but there is deffinatley tension between us still...

Reason I want to get back together is that after summer she is alöso moving and is going to be stationed 20 minutes with train away from where I live. Plus we can spend the entire summer together...




DocWill...
Don't really undertand what you are saying :P
Not the best at english...

Ohh and one more thing...
I love this girl. I love her!! If I don't tell her how I fell and let her decide... then ill juts wonder for the rest of my life what would have happened.
Wouldn't that be an even bigger pain?
Ye sof cource I have to give her space but then please answer when is the time to tell her how I feel!

SO what you guys think?

It's been a year and a half? If you do decide to get her a gift, don't spend too much money on it. It's been so long I think you have both changed and you annot expect to pick up where you left off... don't expect too much from her or you might be in for heartbreak. Good luck!

No no :P
Its been half a year!
Quite a loooong time to but...
Ohhhhhh I don't know...

I guess maybe I should just it all and move to mars...
Anybody know when they are opening up? :P

Wake up your turning into a wuss bag!!

What's this crap about when is the right time to tell her how i feel!!

In about three years when she tells you she is in love with you and wants to spend her life with you that's when you tel her you love her and not a second before wussy boy!!

Maybe while your bending her over the kitchen table in about 6 months or banging her one night after a big night on the piss you can say umm i love you baby doesn't have as much affect she probably won't believe it butshe will like it!!

This girl is not keen on wusy boys like you who have to tell her how they feel. Who cares how you feel keep that o yoursaelf, you know you love her don't letherknow that .

Wat you do need to let her know is that you're a fun guy to be around make herlaugh make her feel like her life is not as good when you are not around. This is done by not being around all the time simple... wussy.

You seem likeyou want to hangwith her all the time welllet me give you a reality check wuss boy not wonder boy!! When you are in high school younormaly hang with the same peopleeach day what do you callthese people friends!! That's right so why do nt you hang with your girlfriend each day and you know what you become friends that's right friends.
What happens is she doesn't miss you she needs to feel lke she needs you around this doesn't mean you stay around. You hae to find other things you enjoy doing. Maybe sport. If not go to the gym 3 times a week at night this means 3 times she will be waiting for you se will want you more this is guaranteed!! guaranteeeed getbusy and see her 3 times a week that's right 3 times not 7 3!! Havre another interest have youever noticed girls like to say i love... whoever but never see him his so busy!! That's right his got a life that's what you need to do!!

Don't ever say i love you so much you are my dream!! that's a load of crap no girl is your dream only wussies have there dream girl aftera few months it takes years to feel like that!! 1

Get busy involved in other things you won't evenrealise it but she will be missing you!!

If you want to buy her a gift , then do it. Buy her something you know that she likes. Not anything to expensive. She will know that you still care about her. Then it is up to her to to take the next step. In the mean time live your life... doing the things that make you happy. You can't make someone love you, either they do or they don't. Good Luck

Just go to build a bear something cheap and neat

Wasn't trying to be mean just saying how this is unfolding. You cannot make he your nimber 1 priority. Just do more for yourself and see her a bit less. Put itthis way only see her when she wants to see you don't go ru nning make he wit a bit. If you were actuall busy then she would be waitning to see you. So get busy enjoy yourself and enjoy spending tim with her win win situation!!

Thanks everyone!

I will give her a gift.
After all it is her graduation, its time for her to cellebrate.
So I will just get her the gift and then carry on with my buissnes.
If she wants to keep seeing me shell have to make contact.
Hwo knows... maybe this summer we will meet at a party and hit it off.

We will see!


In the mean time.
Thank you all so much!
This is the best forum in the world! :)


Ohh and mckenzie... I think I needed a few harsh words.
No worries!