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1. Volunteer
2. Take a class in something you're interested in
3. Learn a foreign language
4. Read a book on the best seller chart
5. Take up a sport (with friends is best) like Bowling or Golf
6. Call old friends and family members
7. Play some video games
8. Watch some movies
9. Join a gym
10. Learn how to speed read (good software is rocket reader)
11. Learn how to cook
12. Get a library card
13. Start a new savings account and make a bet with yourself on how much you can save
14. Take on a new project at work
15. Update your resume
16. Buy some new clothes
17. Buy that CD you've always wanted
18. Change the layout of your furniture
19. Go for walks
20. Answer questions on this website

Some great suggestions
Lets add to it

21. Make some plans for YOU for the near future
22. Book a holiday, everyone needs something to look farward to
23. Get closer to friends who have been on the 'fringe'
24. Go swimming
25. Make a myspace site and fill it with photos of time before/after the ex. Pump yourself up on the site, 'self love'

Anymore suggestions?

26.) Make a list of all the bad things about the relationship when you are reflecting on the breakup. All too often, for the one left behind, he or she focuses too much on the good things.

27.) Write a letter to your ex but DON'T SEND IT>>Purely for your own healing.

28.) (Related to #21.) Set short term goals (run a marathon, or a mile if you've never run before, finish that book, save up six months' rent, get a 3.8 or higher GPA this semester, an A on the next exam, etc.) and concentrate your energy on achieving that goal.

It will not only distract you but you will feel sooo great and such a sense of accomplishment when you achieve it.

Number 1 for me would be to work out your part in why the breakup happened so that you do not repeat the same pattern in the future.

Also lets add take a day to pamper yourself, watch a movie, go out to lunch with friends, write in your diary, love yourself.

Just a day to pamper yourself!?
I've taken almost a year now lol ;-)

Have a thick, cold, chocolate milkshake.

Cry as much as you want, male or female, it's OK to, just don't wallow!

I guess this is where you guys left the list:

29) Travel to near beach on the weekend, rent a nice bugalo, surf all day, sleep all night.
30) Play tennis until the balls explode, then please re hydrate yourself!

LIVE FOR YOU!! Do those things that you couldn't do before. Enjoy life. Don't wallow in self pity or wonder "what if." Take the time to be YOU.

Go NO CONTACT!! Yes you know you want to. You do! Go on :)

One thing I did in my brakeup was to use it as an impetus to change my outlook on life. It certainly gave me a kick up the to do the things I allways wanted and instead of saying no so much say yes. This past year has been the most life changing experience as of yet! The worst and best :)

So treat yours as a kick up the to go and live life!

KICKBOXING!!

I started it within 2 days of my ex boyfriend splitting with me and it's the best thing I've ever done!

Buy a ps3 :)

Learn the salsa!

Turn on the Lifetime channel and search for happiness at the bottom of a carton of ice cream.

Cry... I've found crying to be the best of medicine for anything... so yea... just sit and cry... THEN GO AND PARTY WITH SOME FRIENDS AND HAVE SOME LAUGHS!! ^.^ always helps!!

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1. Volunteer
2. Take a class in something you're interested in
3. Learn a foreign language
4. Read a book on the best seller chart
5. Take up a sport (with friends is best) like Bowling or Golf
6. Call old friends and family members
7. Play some video games
8. Watch some movies
9. Join a gym
10. Learn how to speed read (good software is rocket reader)
11. Learn how to cook
12. Get a library card
13. Start a new savings account and make a bet with yourself on how much you can save
14. Take on a new project at work
15. Update your resume
16. Buy some new clothes
17. Buy that CD you've always wanted
18. Change the layout of your furniture
19. Go for walks
20. Answer questions on this website

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The best thing I can say is to have fun. Life sometimes bring heartache, but it makes the happiness and joy in our lives so much greater! Have fun and enjoy yourself

I agree with you Kelly, it's good to get out and remember that you have a life. Go out, find something that makes you happy (that is a HEALTHY way do cope). Spend some cash on yourself, do something YOU want to do.

Have a picnic with yourself.
Get a punching bag, sticky tape your Ex's Face (ONLY IF THEY HURT YOU ENOUGH) and Thump it.

Oh another fun game me and my friends came up with!! (it doesn't matter if you're good at drawing or not) get some marker that you could put on a mirror and wipe off. Draw a pic of your ex on the mirror. Get a cup of water and some toilet paper and make paper wads. Dip them in the water and throw at the picture! This is a fun game that if done with friends can relieve stress, hurt, and even though you are throwing them at a drawing OF your ex it will make you not really think about them... unless you are like me and my friends and throw the wads at different areas and discuss how he/she would react if they got hit there. It's great fun!

Start working out, you not only are doing something to get her/him off your mind, but your getting into shape and healthy at the same time. Real ego/confidence boost.

Go to a pet store and hug a Dog:)

Jeez.. what I had to do was.. volunteer at a animal shelter and study my butt off in school... knowing I'm moving up higher and making my life better... oh and I wrote in my journal.. having a journal is a great way to write your feelings onto paper!

Yes.. it is.. I have been writing in my black and white notebook since I was 8. and I'm 21 now still writing away haha..

For me as a guy I never had a 'journal' id write poems or what not, but the first month post break up, I wrote everyday in a blue 100 page spiral till it was full. Now I just talk to people lol

I've been writing poems for 5 years (since I was 12) It really is very helpful and enjoyable. So you writing poetry helps a lot. Although... most of my poems turn out depressing >.<

29.)do something you hade never done before
30.) express your happiness on drawing, paitings etc. or listen to music
31.) do sometihng you've always wanted to do for a long time but this time have faith and believe this time you can do it!
32.) explore and see what life is like behind those walls which were blocking your way to the things oyu want to do.. in short.. HAVE FUN BUT ODNT RUIN IT BY adding sour to a sweet day :P

I think a puppy would pass the time well. A dogs love is unconditional, plus you may meet new people taking your dog out to the park. Another thing to do is join a gym. Getting yourself back in shape will rebuild your confidence and help put on back on the right track.

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Originally Posted by wontbez

Feel free to add to this list.


1. Volunteer
2. Take a class in something you're interested in
3. Learn a foreign language
4. Read a book on the best seller chart
5. Take up a sport (with friends is best) like Bowling or Golf
6. Call old friends and family members
7. Play some video games
8. Watch some movies
9. Join a gym
10. Learn how to speed read (good software is rocket reader)
11. Learn how to cook
12. Get a library card
13. Start a new savings account and make a bet with yourself on how much you can save
14. Take on a new project at work
15. Update your resume
16. Buy some new clothes
17. Buy that CD you've always wanted
18. Change the layout of your furniture
19. Go for walks
20. Answer questions on this website

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Take the long awaited holiday the place you have always wanted to go to and enjoy meeting new people and seeing things you would never have seen because the other half.

Travel somewhere where you do not know anyone at all and just enjoy yourself. Take up a class at a community college like cooking, art, etc. Meet new people and new friends.

First and foremost, focus on yourself, now is "Me Time". See where u could have improved your relationship and always be with one who is willing to work at the relationship as well a yourself. Never ever give your all to someone who can't return the love and the next time around it may work out better.

This is similar to what most people are saying about getting hobbies and doing new things... but maybe also become a fan of something that you enjoy.
Im a huge Cleveland Indians fan... I go to tons of games each summer and really get into following baseball. Im going through a break up now and I really hope that they can bring me out of my slump when the season starts next week.
I always really liked the one quote from the movie Fever Pitch. I don't remember it word for word, but basically Jimmy Fallon's character is explaining how the Red Sox never let you down. They're always there to play, every day at the same time. If it rains, they make it up to you. They can't leave you or divorce you.

I just wrote a loving goodbye letter to ex (that of course I'll never ever send anywhere). God, its amazing how good it feels to just get that all out. I highly recommend! It feels so much better to be down the loving happy thoughts rather than focusing on the pain and anger.

Rearrange your furniture or change the artwork on your walls. It will help you set up a space that is not imbedded with memories and you can find a way to make your place feel new and yours again... I've been having trouble coming back to my room, and trouble sleeping missing him beside me, so it helped somewhat to make my space clean and new again.

I know you're supposed to throw away all the photos, but I just found looking at an unflattering photo of him a bit therapeutic.

Have fun, listen to music.

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Have fun, listen to music.

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I agree. For me, music is one of the most powerful tools to help change my mood. With the right music, I can put myself into just about any mood I want - though I guess I'm a little more into than most. Playing the guitar (or any instrument I imagine) is another great way to become totally consumed by something for a few hours... it really passes the time..

A word of caution however: The wrong music can tear you apart, so be careful what you listen to :)

Yeah, god the "wrong music" can really screw things up. I never realized how almost every song on the radio seems to be about broken hearts. In my 30 years on this earth, I never quite understood them. Now, unfortunately, I do. Well, I guess everyone needs to get their heart broken at least once (or twice by the same person in my case). ; )