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Sooo, I've been with my fiancé going on 7 yrs and he always comments on how great my body is and suggest that I strip for money or become an online nude model and perform sexual acts for online viewers. I tell him that I have a high amount of respect for myself and it's not within my character. Why would he try to influence me to try those things?
If he's not joking then the answer is that he is a disrespectful pig.
He wants a take of the money he thinks you would make. That is pretty tacky.
I think he would normally be called a PIMP, a very low life form.
Why would you have to come here and ask our opinion. Have some self respect if you were considering it. Run very fast
@Tickle... obviously I did imply that I do have a high amount of respect for myself and would never expose myself in that type of manner, I just wanted to know other people's thoughts on it of course I have my own view also.
That's what I was thinking too, he is kind of a greedy munipulative person & sometimes takes others for granted. Thank you for you input .Quote:
Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
He needs to be your ex.
You do the dirty work, and he gets the loot... a pimp! And maybe that's how he wants to get his rocks off.
You wanted to have our input on what we thought of him; I still don't get your point of wanting to know. This would be a forgone conclusion with me, and would not have to seek other opinions on this scum bag.
The words would not be entirely out of his mouth and I would be out the door !
You obviously had an after thought, was it the money ? Him praising you about your body and you thinking, mmmm, maybe... let me ask other opinions.
That is not something a respectful man would say! If he really likes you he won't tell you to go strip for money
I really don't understand why you're even asking this question.
You say that you have a lot of self respect, and self esteem. I find it odd that someone with so much self respect, would stay with a man that has absolutely no respect for her at all. .
Tell him to do it himself.
I like what you said.Quote:
Originally Posted by chrissysno
It made me laugh.
This is exactly what I would have told that guy if it was me.
Because he's a pig and a jerk and has no respect for you? Because he thinks it would bring in money that he's already spent in his mind? Because yourself respect means less than what he has in mind to use you for?
I think you should change what you call him from "fiance" to "pig ex boyfriend mistake" and move on. He sounds like a total jerk.
If stripping for you is OK, then go ahead. I don.t know what cause you to even ask this question, what kind of cultural background you have? Or you have gone totally blind in love? Before its too late, dump this ?(guy) and never look back again on him, ever in life.
@tickle.. yea I had an after thought... about him that is. I would never even consider that not in a million years... & this is a web page for people to ask questions/advice/ and point of views...
If you learn how to read, you can clearly see that being a stripper is not within my way of being.. and I don't know what cultural backgrounds have to do with stripping!? I didn't asked this question to get judge on my cultural background or if I have self respect. If you don't know why I asked this question then maybe you shouldn't have answerd it.Quote:
Originally Posted by smkanand
Lol I did and he actually went to the audition.. but never went through with it. I think he got intimidated when he saw all those buff men... at the end of the day no one can force me to do anything I don't want to do.Quote:
Originally Posted by chrissysno
You don't know me to question myself esteem & self respect. And him making a stupid suggestion is not the worst thing in the world it's not like he's abusing me now a man that does that is not being respectful. We been together 7 yrs and he has respected me. So please don't judge me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Alty
I simply wanted ppls thoughts and opinions on the comment my fiancé made. But all I'm getting is bunch of stupid people criticizing me, my life style, and my background. I don't know what the phuck my race has to do with this. And I'm getting a few people that are saying "i don't know why your asking this question" if your to phucking stupid to answer or give a proper response the don't answer at all . Serious answers only .
You're a pet expert stick to that!Quote:
Originally Posted by alty
You asked for suggestions and opinions, and you got them and the snark isn't necessary. Of course you don't have to agree with everyone. We all have our own perspective.
Yea but don't judge me either cause that's not part of my question!Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
You can't dictate who or how anyone here answers your question. I would think that you have had enough, and read enough of the answers to know our opinion now.
No one has judged you, just asking questions to fill in the blanks, as who here can understand why a self respecting person of high self esteem puts up with this pimping crap? I sure don't.
So add information not snark, or are you that sensitive not to see what we all see?
First, when you ask a question on a site like this, especially a question like that you open yourself for different types of comments. You opened this door and you can't dictate what people choose to comment.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jennie22
Second, in my opinion a person with self-respect would not remain the fiancée of a person making such a suggestion. So comments to that affect were valid and natural. Your response was way out of line.
Especially your response to Alty. While some people are experts in one area doesn't mean, they can't have knowledge and expertise in other areas.
When you ask a question on this site, anyone can answer. Being an expert in pets, doesn't mean I have no clue about relationships, or people. The fact that you became so angry about what I said, speaks volumes. I must have hit the nail on the head.
I say, go with your gut. The guy sounds like a creep. You've been with him a while. It might be time to rethink your future with him or tell him you will not do what he suggest and don't bring it up to you again. If he does, leave him. I think he might have desires to do this himself for the money an you're the next best thing.
Attitude aside a woman with self respect, which OP states she has, wouldn't be asking the question.
No matter what his reason the fiancé (of 7 years) is a loser - and still the fiancé - ?
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