He said he doesn't want to let go but he has to cause I been hurting him too much. What do I do?
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He said he doesn't want to let go but he has to cause I been hurting him too much. What do I do?
Stop hurting him.
How do I do that? He gets so jealous even when my guy friends tweet at me and I reply then. I want him so bad but I don't know how to prove to him.:( please help it's a long distance relationship.
How does he know about your guy friends tweeting?
He's on twitter too. I mean they are my friends am I just suppose to ignore them because he gets jealous? I feel it's not right.
Do you flirt or just have fun? Is your boyfriend jealous for a good reason?
I don't flirt on any websit. With any one my guy friends. He has my password to twitter which with that at least he knows I have nothing to hide. Well I did tell him a couple of weeks back I was drunk and slept over at a guy friend's place since then he's been so insure. But I want him so bad. He feels he's wasted his time blah blah.
Now I'm unsure of your faithfulness and feel like I am wasting my time responding to you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
Obviously, you know what to do and how to behave. Twitter isn't the problem at all. Getting drunk and "sleeping over" is -- and definitely not how to encourage trust in a boyfriend!
I know it isn't. I made a mistake and I'm trying to change that. I did hurt him and no one Is prefect I want to fix things:( please help me. P.s he says I need to prove to him if I really care about him and I want to be with him but what could I possibly do to prove to him?
You prove you are trustworthy by BEING trustworthy. No parties and getting drunk. No kissing and flirting with other guys (so they laugh about it on Twitter). Study hard in school and do your chores at home. You don't have to be a nun, but you do have to avoid the appearance of unfaithfulness. And I know you know what I mean.
If that cuts into your idea of fun, then you should not be in this relationship. You are too immature to be in one if you want to flirt and kiss and get drunk and sleep over.
Early this week I wrote him 27 messages about how much I still wanted him. He read and ignored me I still tried to talk to him. I finally succeeded. I was at a friends birthday party everyone was partying and I got carried away. That was just it.
Twenty-seven messages is so over the top, so immature and so needy. Stop that kind of communication. Words mean nothing if behavior is immature and slutty.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
Drink Coke or Pepsi or Seven-Up. Do not drink alcohol.
Lol thanks I actually thought this whole thing was suppose to make someone feel better not worse. Thanks anyway. U barely even know me and yet you call someone slutty *high five*
Well, then tell me that you have been faithful and trustworthy. Drinking so that you get so drunk and then sleeping over leaves all sorts of ideas in one's imagination.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
And if he were doing this behind your back without you there -- going to parties, getting drunk, touching and kissing girls, laughing about it on Twitter -- how would you feel?
I haven't gotten any bad ideas in my head that you haven't put there. He's gotten the same ideas from your behavior.
I know. But please I'm just asking would I ever get him back.. If you were in my shoes what would you do?
I never flirted or kissed anyone. FYI. Do you think he would ever have known if I never told him? Think about that. And if I wasn't been honest would I even have mentioned I messed up to him. I may have been the bad person but I'm hardly the bad one. I just need advice I want to keep him.
Are you a Leo lady?
First, I would stop acting so needy with frequent emails, texts, calls, etc. about how much you love him. Prove it by not getting drunk and not being every guy's buddy and flirt friend. In fact, get off Twitter and stay off. When you text or email your boyfriend, talk about school classes and texts and teachers and silly things that happened during your day with the family dog or hamster or cat. Tell him what you ate that day and how good the pizza was. Stay away from talking about guys and parties and alcohol. Do fun things with him. Write a story together, with you doing one sentence and then he adds a sentence. Talk about books you are reading (you ARE reading books, right?). Be normal, not Miss Chatty Cathy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
Why would you tell him if you did. You have whetted my imagination, and I'm sure he is suspicious too.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
I am Scorpio, full of fire and passion -- and truth and justice and integrity.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
so you are saying I should never have been truthful to him?:oQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
No, I am saying you should never have put yourself in that position in the first place.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
Oh wow! U did sounded like a Leo but Scorpio isn't a fire sign ?Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
You never messed up miss? Like ever?Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Nope. I have never gotten drunk at a party nor have I cheated on a boyfriend or acted untrustworthy. When I had a boyfriend, he was the center of my world and I behaved myself.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
Thanks a bunch I will surely stick to what u've said. But as of now he isn't even speaking to me. I feel I should give him some space.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
And stay off Twitter to show him you are serious. He will begin to see how you really feel about him and that you value him.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
It's 2:40 a.m. here, and I am going to bed. Sweet dreams (and no Twittering!).
Gradually he will talk to me?:( thank you so much. U ever been in a long distance?Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
You too.:) thank you so much. Here it's 9:42am:p. talk to you hopefully soon. Haha.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
The issue is that most long distant relationships don't work, and most end with couples breaking up. The reason, long distant has to move to real like local at some point. So what is future plans, how many years for it to happen. Is there local meetings some times.
Yup. My boyfriend was back home in western New York and I was in college 600+ miles to the west in Chicago. I came home only three times a year for a few days. I worked at the college during the summer. And back in those long ago days when dinosaurs roamed the earth, there was no texting or cell phones or computers for email. Long distance calls on rotary phones (my dorm had one on the wall for 200+ girls to use) were very expensive, so he and I wrote letters to each other.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
The drinking age in Illinois was 21, so no wild, drunken parties were held on campus or off (at least none that I knew of). If you were in a relationship with someone, other guys (or girls, if you were a guy) respected that.
You don't know how good you have it!
How cute. :D. anyway we got talking he told me to tell him something
I'm afraid to say how much he means to me cause of maybe my incapabilty of showing it. I have been off twitter for the past 21 hours now. He did speak to me today normally.:D
Now, see how well that works -- building trust! Keep it up! Be coy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nab28
:d
Our anniversary is in a few days time. I want to do something but it's a L.D.R. any suggestions please for what.Apart from Skype.
What time? First year?
Lol its not up to a year yet just the 9th month.
It's no big deal then. Nothing is called for except a nice email saying, "Happy nine-month anniversary."
Lol, thanks.
And being well-behaved and trustworthy.
I never did understand the month to month anniversary thing. Celebrating an anniversary every month makes it less special and meaningful.
I'd wait until you actually hit a milestone, like one year, before doing something special. The 9 month point doesn't even require an acknowledgment, just another day, another month, nothing special, not yet. Not unless that 9 month mark coincides with the arrival of a child, then you can celebrate. :)
Lol thanks wonder girl and I shall remain trustworthy:)! And no more twitter gaga .Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
wanting sex but unavailable
He's never mentioned he wants to have sex for the past 8 months. I mean that's really a while. I'm far from him. I don't know what to do I really want him to have sex. But I'm unavailable. And suggesting something else might seem like I actually don't Care about him.
So let him have sex with someone else if it is bothering you that much?
But seriously so he has not had sex, he can masturbate, men go months and years without sex with another person, he will survive.
Has he been making or saying things to make you feel bad ? Is he trying to make excuses to allow sex with someone else ? Are you ?
Oh wow. I didn't think men could survive for now without sex. No he's not making me feel bad at all. And he's said he can't have Sex with anyone he doesn't have feelings for. I once asked him if he masturbates once he told me NO.
Distance
I met him online, we Skyped a few times we text everyday. We are so far apart. This summer I went back to visit my family. He was suppose to be back by the time I was there. But he's school work didn't let. He's there now while I'm in school. Like he will be out before I get to go back there next year. It doesn't seem like we will end up meeting I don't know what to do. I really want to meet him.
How about meeting someone who actually IS where you are... There are plenty of available people that ARE local to you that you can get to know. Instead of fantasizing about someone that isn't.
It isn't to let go. But I guess I will have to ASAP. I guess we might never meet up.Quote:
Originally Posted by smoothy
The problem with distance relationships is you both dream things up about each other that aren't true because you aren't there to know differently... its something you can't avoid doing.
Then when you finally ARE together you find they aren't what you expected them to be. Both people do this.
There really is no substitute for actually being there early into a relationship.
Some things just aren't meant to be... just because you CAN do something doesn't mean its wise to actually do it.
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