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Does he love me?

Hi everyone! I'm new here and I have a very big problem. I have just discovered my homosexuality some months back. I met someone one week ago on Facebook and we became very good friends. We both are boys and finally we fell in love!!

It's the first time that I am in relationship with a guy. I love him very dearly but the problem is that I'm not sure if it he loves me equally. At first, he made all he could do to meet me but now he started working and he seems to be forgetting that I exist. Sometimes his mobile is switched off and I can't join him sometimes for ONE whole day. For me it's a lot. I miss him very very much and not hearing about him makes me suffer a lot!!

But then the following day he calls me and explains that his mobile was out of battery and he did not have his charger to charge his mobile as he was in holiday at his aunt's place. I explained to him how much I endured when I missed him and he promised not to do it again. Now since yesterday it has been the same! His mobile is switched off! I can't join him neither on his mobile nor his home number. It is really killing me inside!

Now I reach my question, does he love me as I do love him? Does he endure the same pain that I do when I did not get a sound nor a glimpse of him? Does he miss me when I'm not here? Finally my most great question is DOES HE LOVE ME? Thank you a lot for your help.

You sound very needy. You are smothering him. Give him some space before you totally turn him off.

Now, for the important question. Is he gay too? How old are the two of you?

Dude you met this guy a week ago. What do you mean you're in love?
You are probably smothering him and you sound way too needy.
Let him contact you if he wants to.

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Originally Posted by J_9

You sound very needy. You are smothering him. Give him some space before you totally turn him off.

Now, for the important question. Is he gay too? How old are the two of you?

Yeah!. he's gay too!. im sure I love him very much!. I know its been only two weeks but I love him a big deal!. I cannot stop thinking of him!. I miss him a lot!. but does he feel the same?. I'm scared of suffering because I remember those days when I didn't get to join him and I suffered a lot!. this made me lose taste in everything!. what should I do?. if one day he leaves me I will be completely destroyed!.

You are too needy and insecure. This is some intense stuff for knowing someone a couple of weeks.
I'm sure this guy's feelings are not the same as yours as he is not all over you like you are with him.
Step back and take a breath.
If he contacts you, fine. Otherwise give him some breathing room.

You can't LOVE someone in two weeks. It takes time to develop actual love.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

you are too needy and insecure. This is some intense stuff for knowing someone a couple of weeks.
I'm sure this guy's feelings are not the same as yours as he is not all over you like you are with him.
Step back and take a breath.
If he contacts you, fine. Otherwise give him some breathing room.

Yeah, I have once done it. I mean that I have once waited for him to contact me on his own, but it continues on one day, TWO DAYS and even 3 DAYS!. then I can't resist, I call him on my own but then he explains to me that his phone was switched off and bla bla bla.. pfff!. I believe him because he seems sincere... then he do it again and again... when I get to talk to him he says he missed me and all.. when I asked him if he was sure, he says yeah completely!. we got to talk this morning and he said that he has been preparing for his cousins' wedding and he don't get the time call me!. he said he will call me after the wedding... what to do?. should I believe him?. the thing is that I can't take him out of my mind!. if I try to forget him, this really hurts me inside!. help me please!.

You are obsessed. Are you this way with everything?
Let the guy call you when he can. If you don't hear from him, it will be because he does not want to talk to you.
Desperation is not attractive. Do you have friends, a life?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You are obsessed. Are you this way with everything?
Let the guy call you when he can. If you don't hear from him, it will be because he does not want to talk to you.
Desperation is not attractive. Do you have friends, a life?

Yes I do have friends.. I even have lots but they aren't that close to me, so I don't have faith normally on them... no one around me know that I'm gay...
Only me and the one I love is aware of that... it is also the same for the guy I love...
I trust him completely and he always advice me to do so... I have always been in relationship with girls before and now you see, its different.. I know what love is because its not the first time that I feel this way... I have love guys before but I was also aware that I this love was not possible, so I tried and I dug this love deeply away!. now it's the first time that my love is possible and I'm even with the person I love... so you understand me?. and losing him will be an immense suffering because I've already experienced that and for that I'm really scared!. I don't want to suffer!. I hope you understand?. if he don't love me and I'm aware of that now, it would be okay.. I would do my best to forget him.. but if he keeps on telling me that he loves me and my love for him keeps growing and growing, and if he leaves me or loose interest in me, I will be destroyed!. I love him too much!. so what to do?.

How old are you?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

How old are you?

I'm 16...

I thought you were about that age.
You have taken what I assume is your first relationship way too serious.
Ease up some, give this guy some breathing room. Enjoy your life, it does not begin and end with him.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I thought you were about that age.
You have taken what I assume is your first relationship way too serious.
Ease up some, give this guy some breathing room. Enjoy your life, it does not begin and end with him.

Yeah!. I think you're right!. I will do that!. thank yOu very much for your help!.

Good luck. I wish you well.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Good luck. I wish you well.

Hey!. this morning he sent me a message on Facebook telling me that he miss me a lot and that he still loves me!. I didn't reply him! And later on, he sent me another one saying that he misses me a lot and he wrote some sweet words which touched me!. I felt him like before he was!. what's happening?. this has awaken the love I had!. so I replied him back saying that I missed him a lot too and that I was happy that he wrote me those sweet words and to contact me when he is free as I have been retaining myself from calling him since the past 5 days and as per your advice, I gave him some space!. till now he has not called me!. I have been waiting for him to come online since morning and he didn't come, so I think he might not yet have seen the message!. so what do I do?. wait for him or call him?. should I continue leaving him space after seeing the message he sent me?.

You gave him the opportunity to call you, so just hold your shorts and wait.

You give him the chance to call you or respond. Don't smother him. That is desperation and desorption is not attractive.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You give him the chance to call you or respond. Don't smother him. That is desperation and desorption is not attractive.

Okay!. Thanks!. I'll do that!.

Should I reveal that I'm gay?

Hi!. I am gay and its been three weeks now that I love a guy and we are together... I went out with girls before and now its my first experience with a guy!. his name is K... with all the girls I went out with before, I didn't experience true love and this time I love k deeply... No one around me know that I'm gay and it's the same for K.. when he proposed me, I asked him that it should be kept as top secret and he liked my request!. During the past 3 weeks I've been feeling comfortable and now I'm sure that gay is my identity!. I don't know how to say it, but this feeling gave me the courage of accepting that I'm gay when my friends bully me!. what shOuld I do?. I am a christian from the assemblies of God church and my parents also... I'm sure they would not like it and I live in country where homosexuality is treated badly!. should I continue to hide it or reveal it to my parents and my surroundings?. please help!

how your parents treat you when you tell them is up to your relationship with them.

The Assembly of God Church teaches that being Gay and homosexual is a serious sin and not within Gods will. You will not have any leadership roles in the church and your parents may assume need to repent from this.

All fundamental Christian faiths do not accept homosexual behavior as acceptable. They may love you as a person but will feel you are not saved and are not living within Gods plan.

I do not believe in living a lie and that hiding or lying to others about who you are and what you do is not an acceptable thing either.

How old are you?
I don't think at your age you need to label yourself because you have had one relationship with another boy.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...me-690977.html
You have become totally obsessed with this relationship. I think you need to give yourself some time before you start labeling yourself. You went way overboard with this boy, don't go overboard with this too.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

How old are you?
I don't think at your age you need to label yourself because you have had one relationship with another boy.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...me-690977.html
You have become totally obsessed with this relationship. I think you need to give yourself some time before you start labeling yourself. You went way overboard with this boy, don't go overboard with this too.

No, it's the same guy which I mentioned before!. what I feel is really strange!. when I try to forget this relationship, in 2-3 days, without contacting him, I feel a bit okay, but then when he talk to me, this love comes again!. and this feeling makes me want to scream loud and tell everyone who I am! And I don't matter what others think!.

Love does not come and go like that. You are infatuated.
I'm just saying don't label yourself because you have a super crush on a guy. This is not uncommon at this age and it does not necessarily mean you are gay.
Give yourself some time before you broadcast to the world.

After 3 weeks you know you love him? And he proposed to you? Come on.

You're messing with us, aren't you?

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Originally Posted by odinn7

After 3 weeks you know you love him? And he proposed to you? Come on.

You're messing with us, aren't you?

I'm sure of what I'm saying!. I'ts not the first time that I'm in love and I'm sure I love him!.

Believe me, you are young and infatuated. I'm not messing with you. Your behavior proves my point.
You do not fall desperately in love with some one after 3 weeks but you can be desperately infatuated with the first guy in your life at 16. He proposed to you? How old is he?
I was proposed to a lot of times by boys when I was in high school, Didn't marry either one and could not even tell you what their name is, they probably don't remember mine either. They were on to someone else the next month.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Believe me, you are young and infatuated. I'm not messing with you. Your behavior proves my point.
You do not fall desperately in love with some one after 3 weeks but you can be desperately infatuated with the first guy in your life at 16. He proposed to you? How old is he?
I was proposed to a lot of times by boys when I was in high school, Didn't marry either one and could not even tell you what their name is, they probably don't remember mine either. They were on to someone else the next month.

Yeah he proposed and he is 16 also..

You guys are young. Don't take all of this too seriously. Your teen years are for having fun, discovering who you are. Don't tie yourself down to a person or to labels.

My boyfriend is bisexual.. should I fear?

I am gay and I just found out that my boyfriend is bisexual. I thought at first that he was gay but in fact he is bisexual. When he told me that, I was shocked and started to feel scared (maybe he can be attracted by a girl). I love him very much and when I told him that I was scared, he told me to trust him. He is a guy who is surrounded by lots of girls and now I have that great fear!. what should I do?. trust him?. is there possibly a way to know if he will not go out with a girl?.

He could just as easily stray with other men if he wanted to - right?
If you trust his feelings for you, you are being worried without any cause.

I feel for you guy, as this whole thread has been about you being overwhelmed by your feelings and wanting to do something about them. Do nothing without thought or some really careful considerations so you can stop scaring yourself, and enjoy this new relationship.

Be cool, calm, and collected and in control of yourself or you will freak everyone out, yourself and the new guy included. Be mature about this, you're 16 not 6. Learn to think with your head and not just your feelings, before you act or speak... especially to your parents and friends.

While honesty is best, I don't think it's the best time to tell any one your personal business. Or deepest thoughts.

SETTLE DOWN!!

You need to calm down, chill. You have been all over the place with your feelings about this boy.
Take it easy. Step back and think this through. First this guy was in love with you, proposed to you, now you find out he likes girls too. Step back from this relationship so you can begin to think clearly.

Have the two of you even met face to face yet or is this strictly an nonlinear relationship?

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Originally Posted by J_9

Have the two of you even met face to face yet or is this strictly an nonlinear relationship?

Yeah!. we have even met face to face!. several times!

What does he mean?

Hi everyOne... im gay and I just got to know a guy some days ago on Facebook and we even met.
Since that day, he started texting me on mobile and we used to talk a lot..
During opur first meeting, he told me about his past lives and told me that he likes having fun with guys. I asked him if he had ever had a love relationship and he told me that every time that he felt that it was turning to love, he stopped it... and for that I don't know why..
That day we texted a lot and we met two days later again... then two days consecutive..
During the second day, he gave me such a passionated kiss that I was mesmerized..
I love it.. I started dreaming about him and I think I'm in love with him...
When I don't text him, he keeps on sending messages to ask me what I am doing and all..
When I drive along with him in his van, he holds my hand and kiss me on and that makes me really happy..
Now the thing is that I love him and I don't even know if we are out together or not..
Yesterday I texted him and I told him that I love him and I want to get out with him but he just replied "haha" and told me to go to sleep.. and he said he likes me..
What does he mean?. help me please.. thanks

I guess he is not looking for a relationship but yes someone to have fun with...

Is this a different guy than before? Whatever happened with that?

You had better learn to get to know someone before you fall in love and the fact you fall so easily is an indication you have very little self control and cannot properly protect yourself from being hurt.

You fall in love after a few days? What happened to the other guy?
This guy is saying he likes you and that's it. You are probably bothering him. You need to stop opening yourself to people so fast. Get to know people. Stop looking for someone to love and love yourself

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Is this a different guy than before? Whatever happened with that?

You had better learn to get to know someone before you fall in love and the fact you fall so easily is an indication you have very little self control and cannot properly protect yourself from being hurt.

Okay.. so what can I do about myself?.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You fall in love after a few days? What happened to the other guy?
This guy is saying he likes you and that's it. You are probably bothering him. You need to stop opening yourself to people so fast. Get to know people. Stop looking for someone to love and love yourself

To the other guy, I have successfully followed yOur advice and I have been convinced by everyone I asked that he don't love me.. he just call me whenever hee wants.. sometimes after a week or two.And seeing his ignoring attitude made me stronger enough to forget him a little.
Thanks for this answer. But bothering him I don't think so because I did the same as you told me before, wait for him or let him breathe... and whenever I don't say anything, he calls me or text me asking again and again what I am doing and all and that also EVERYDAY!.

Ignore the first guy, and pay attention and see what the new guy is up to before you get all in love. Never assume others feel the same way you do, and have fun while you protect yourself and find out what's on his mind.