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My husband recvd a text message from a friend of ours saying that she had a dream about him, he asked what about, and she said nothing, all good, yummm yummm!!
Is that OK?
Why would she message him in the first place to say so? Why make a point of it... Unless there's a hidden meaning!
Sounds to me like she is flirting with him and needs to be put in her place.
TOTALLY inappropriate. She's making advances on your husband. He needs to tell her to knock it off.
TOTALLY inappropriate. She's making advances on your husband. He needs to tell her to knock it off.
The good news... he told you. (Just guessing since you know the message was sent and his reaction to it.) Got to love a man who brings it home.
The bad news... she's hitting on him. Whether she says it's a joke or whatever... she's fishing. Lucky you, he didn't bite!
I'd say something to her, I wouldn't come off as mad or jealous--that only gives her the impression that you're threatened by her. I'd make it seem like you and your man took it as a joke. 'So you had a 'yummy' dream about XXX, too bad his 'bakery' only get's cookin' for me! *wink*'... ' If she has any sense, she'll feel a little embarrassed and she'll know you and your hubby have a relationship that's based upon trust and loyalty. If it weren't he'd never have told you.
Yeah exactly roby , totally agree!!
Great he told you, what a b***
Give that response to her she will be mortified!!
Well he said this happened a few months ago!
She lives far away and we don't see her very often anymore!
My husband agrees that its totally inappropriate and wonders what the hell she is playing at!
You could always take it as a compliment - you have a wanted man. :D
Also as we don't see her much, shall I message her or email her?
Or let it go!
But then again I want her to know I know because my man told ME ;)
Well my husbnad told me he told her to call him to ask her what the hell she is playing at, her response on text was - I cant, my husband is home!Quote:
Originally Posted by Wildcat21
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Originally Posted by Krs
The poor guy! LOL! He told you, even if it did happen a while ago. Some men don't know what to do with stuff like that. He was probably a little freaked out by it, plus he was probably a little freaked out by how you'd react. Face it--depending upon our moods and what day it is... we women can be sort of reactive about things. If he finally told you, he did so because it's bugging him.
If you don't see her often, all the better for you. But I still say let on that you know about it. Actually it's even better that it happened a while ago, you make a joke about it now and it comes off as not being so important that you 'call her out' on it right away.
Give your husband a big kiss and a hug and let him know you love him and you love the fact that you have a good enough relationship that he can tell you thngs... And let him know that you understand why someone else might think he's 'yummy'--because you do too.
As I don't see her often shall I mention it on email or text? As I will use the exact words you said because that's awesome I love it x
I do love him :)
and ill tell him again tonight
in most circumstances this would be inappropriate. I say most because I do know a couple who joke about things like this with friends and I could easily see either spouse getting something like this from a friend and it not being threatening.
since your husband seems to be upfront about this...
have him text her back, if it ever happens again... he should write her back, giving her YOUR phone number to send messages to.
you sleep with him. Any sultry deeds will be done by you.
=)
If you talk to her by e-mail or text do it that way. I'm sure you can figure out a way to 'work it into the conversation'... LOL! Maybe tell her you thought you'd drop a line to say Hi, it's been a while and you and husband 'were just talking about you the other day... we were laughing about that text message you sent him!'
She'll know he told you, that you both thought it was funny... and she'll feel like an idiot.
It's a compliment that your husband is attractive to other women, but more than that--he's got to be a really great guy to have told you something that probably wasn't easy for him to do. Your 'friend', on the other hand... wow, what a jerk--imagine how her husband must feel being married to someone who would do something like that.
So so true
OK will do that first thing tomo morning and I promise ill keep you posted!
THANK U XX
And shall I inform my husband about this email? Or no?
Good for you! I'd love to see the look on her face when you do it though!
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The look on her face when you pull out the rug: PRICELESS! LOL!
If he told you, you should tell him what you did.
By the sound of it--when she did this, he called her to ask her what the heck was going on. Would make me think that he didn't appreciate it much either.
I wouldn't tell my husband to call her and tell her what she did is out of line, makes it look like he got busted and was made to do it. If your husband has a sense of humor he should be cool with it. Guys do like that their women love them enough to get a little ticked at stuff like that too. He knows you appreciate him enough that it bugs you a little.
Just text her back and tell her... "Silly rabbit, text messages are for kids..have you been drinking??"
or "been there, done that" [with him]
=)
I would say something - like what was advised above.
But she defintely was fishing.
And I love the fact your husband told you.
Thanks wildcat I appreciate what you say about my man especially coming from you being the relationship expert.
I will email her! Hehe LOL
CATFIGHT!!
I just wanted to say how cool it was for you husband to tell you. We men get put down all the time for lying or hiding things and that was not the case there. That is definitely a man who respects you and his relationship.
Well guys, I have mailed her :) used the approach robynhgl said, sort of :- thought id email you to say hi, then popped it into the conversation.. LOL
This was 4 hrs ago, still NO response!!
Mmmmmmm
Still nothing!! I'm soooo curious to read her reply thou!
You dropped a bomb on her, wouldn't surprise me if she takes a while to answer back.
This was her reply : - 'What text is this you are talking about? I don't remember.. I'm not sure I've ever been interested in his bakers dozen he he he'
What do u make of that??
LOL! Took her that long to come up with that one? LOL!
I'd just tell her the text she sent back in (whenever it was sent)... 'too bad you forgot--we've been busting a gut over that one for months (weeks--how ever long ago it was)!'
Then just drop it--she's been caught. She's been called out. And you've made her a joke--worse, she now thinks your husband thinks she's a joke. Her ego is bruised. Works for me! LOL!
Done :)
I will let you know her reply, if there will be one!
<<not sure I've ever been interested >>
@!!
Gosh drop this woman, how do you know her actually?
Her reply :- "I’m confused… seriously. What text?? What have you been busting a gut over?"
WHAT??
I know - disgusting!!Quote:
Originally Posted by rol
She is NOT sure she has ever been interested... nice!!
Your husband is one good man, he told you directly and at least you have no reason to think he is seeing her. As for this woman I would get her on phone and tell her either she stops contact or you will make sure her husband receives the text messages. That should put a end to her trying to cause trouble.
Did your husband talk to her on the phone when she sent the text message first or did he text back asking what she dreamt about?
Unless someone played a joke?
Yes he asked her to call him to see what she is playing at.
Well, she is still denying it, rather saying she doesn't remember!
Awfully weird if u tell me.
At that time her and her husband were going through a rough patch and separated shortly after my husbnad recvd this text from her, could u consider maybe it was her husband who sent this message? As he was suspicious that she was having an affair.
Im so confused.
You should call her, don't e-mail and ask what she was thinking. Tell her how inappropriate her behavior is and its offensive to your family values, she has none. Sounds like she is on the hunt and thinks your man will bite.
<,Yes he asked her to call him to see what she is playing at.
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Yes but did he talk to her directly?or was it all by stupid text?
Call her and ask her now I think.
Maybe it was her ex husband.
No she msged back saying I can't talk my husband is here
Sojunds like she's playing you. She knows darn well what text.
I'd just drop it now--she knows you know. No need to baet a dead whorse. ;)
Well she has dropped it, as she hasn't mailed back!
"well guys, i have mailed her used the approach robynhgl said, sort of :- thought id email you to say hi, then popped it into the conversation.. LOL
This was 4 hrs ago, still NO response!!!!!
mmmmmmm"
I don't agree with the getting in touch with her. You didn't take it too seriously... But her husband might - if he sees the message.
Oops! Sorry just don't agree with picking someone up on something they did long after the event. Maybe she did have a drink when she did it and regrets it.
Can't help feeling that this is like opening a can of worms.
When I said she needed putting in her place I didn’t realise you had not been in contact for some time.
No offence.
Dear Krs,Quote:
Originally Posted by Krs
I wonder how she had gotten his personal number and secondly, that she was that confident or bold to write that if she only knows him enough to say hello? I think people on here are too ready to judge and it sounds like to me, that he must have given her some indication that he might have been available and/or that this was acceptable. That happened to me once with a very attractive man who never wore a marriage ring and gave signals that he was interested in me whether he meant to or not and soon I ended up texting him without knowing that in fact he was even married - it does happen quite frequently between people.
I doubt very much that she would have done this knowingly without having balls of pure steel. I am on your side here, but situations rarely present themselves like this without some means of opportunity and no person texts another without there being something that preseeds the initial meeting between your husband and this girl. What she did was wrong I totally agree but doesn't sound accidental either. Clearly the best thing to do is to do as you did and to ignore it. She can't have anything with your husband if you and him are in a secure relationship and you both love and value each other strongly enough to not feel insecure by this woman's behavior. She has gotten the message and so she should not do it again if she is told by your husband that this is innapropriate and does not want her texting him again. If she continues despite this, then inform the police that she is harassing your marriage and they will deal with the matter further.
KRS, before I post an answer, and please forgive me if I missed it here, is this the same friend you were having "problems" with last year around this time?
I agree. What's the point? You and your hubby are fine, and there's no real need to get in her face about it. As someone suggested, she may not even have sent it, it could have been her husband playing games. Too much drama. Who needs it? Let sleeping dogs lie.Quote:
Originally Posted by bluerose
If this is the same friend she was having problems with this time last year, there is much more to the story. And understanding that story, the answers, I am sure, will be different than what she is receiving right now.
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