She left and came back but something is still wrong.
About 6 months ago my girlfriend broke up with me to pursue this long distance relationship. After about 4 months she came back to me, with a lot of work on my part. We are back together but she still is talking to this guy, and is going on a family vacation with his family and her family. Their fathers are good college buddies. Should I be able to trust her to go on a trip with him and come back to me still? Should I ask that she sever all ties with this guy? Also when we were broken up we were having sex all the time and now that we are back together she is not interested in having sex. What could this mean? IF she is not having sex with me is she getting her fill from someone else?
What the hell is wrong with her?
Ok so here is the deal, if you had read my last question you should kind of know what is up with me. If not here is the run down. Met a girl we dated had a great time she went on vacation and cheated, Twice. Came back broke up with me tried a long distance relationship with the other guy but was still F-ing me. She broke up with the other guy and we got back together, Then we stopped having sex and she said we were nothing more than best friends. Now we have been broken up for two months. I was sending her texts and she said that it should stop and we should not talk for a while before we can be friends again. So I did and then not more than a week had passed and I get a random text from her asking what I am doing. Immediately my phone rings and I answer it is her. We exchange words briefly and then she quickly hangs up. She then sends me a text apologizing for the quick hang up. I slide it off and say its OK. I then get a text saying that it really upset her to have talked to me on the phone and she doesn't know why. I slide it off with no response. Then two days after that call she sends me another text asking what I am doing and then saying she miises her friend and wants to hang out. SHE MISSES ME? What the hell is that once I begin to move on she comes back in and misses me. So I agree I hang out with her for like two hours and things are fine by me but she can't focus and just have a good time and talk to me. She was doing her laundry and cleaning her house, didn't know that's what hanging out was. I leave. Still not really thinking much about it. I send her a text asking if she wants to hang out. No response. Now my question is should I even be playing this stupid little game, And why am I still doing this. What could she possibly want out of all this I would like to know. What should I do? Be a d*ck and tell her to get lost or hang around see what happens? That's all I got help me please.
This feeling won't go away. Why not?
My girlfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago. A lot of things went on between us. She cheated on me once, but we worked through that. Then we got back together, things seemed OK. Then she stopped having sex and being intimate with me. When she was little she was sexually abused by a family member from the time she was 11 till she was 18. She says she is not in love with me and that there is not hope of it happening. I still think of her daily and she was my best friend. I believe that there was something between us. It was love. I also believe that due to her being abused that it has caused her to not become intimate with anyone, even herself. She just does not know who she is. She is 22 and I am 25. The thing that is odd was the other night after we have barely spoken she sent me a text message at 3:00 Am saying that she could smell the sea air from her window and then we talked more much like we used to do. It was nice and I didn't want it to end. Unfortunately it was really late and she fell asleep. I awoke the next day and sent a text to her asking if she had fallen asleep. The response I got was anger, she said I was annoying and that she never wanted to speak to me again. I thought this behavior was odd. My questions I gues to all of you are. 1) Do you think due to her trauma that she does care she just doesn't know how to deal with what's going on. 2) why can't I let it go and why do I keep trying to fight for her back. I would love to be friends with her, after all she was my best friend. There is a feeling I have that makes me feel uneasy and sad. What can I do about these feelings, and what could I do to get her back or let her go?
Please help if you can.