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  • Dec 14, 2011, 09:40 AM
    DownandOut25
    Arguments -- make up as usual or not?
    My boyfriend and I have been together almost 5 years and always get into arguments, but always make up for it by not talking or we have sex. This time I really pissed him off. We're not broken up, but I have to go home for a while. Do you think we should work it out this time, or should I save it and go home?
  • Dec 14, 2011, 11:30 AM
    TrueFaith
    Can't give you any advice. Until we know what the fight is about

    You can't just say I pissed him off can we work it out?

    Work what out?

    Oh if you cheated then forget any sympathy.
    And a no on the working out
    :)

  • Dec 14, 2011, 01:58 PM
    talaniman
    Not much to go with here unless you wanted this moved to the psychics forum.

    More info please.
  • Dec 14, 2011, 09:51 PM
    DownandOut25
    Never defends or takes my side
    It's the things I do to him to piss him off

    My boyfriend always take everybody else's side and protect and defend them but when I tell my side of the story he doesn't want to listen and hear me out nor take my side or protect and to defend me and I'm his girlfriend and I'm pissed off what should I do
  • Dec 14, 2011, 10:00 PM
    talaniman
    Such as?? Come on, what's the whole story??
  • Dec 14, 2011, 10:47 PM
    brokenheartpain
    I think that you have been in a long relationship with your partner and after a while you lose sight on what you have. Remember it is hard out in single land to find someone who you love and trust so if he stands by your side and respects you I think you owe him the same because if you do decide to end things for no real reson you may regret it later and never get a chance 2 prove that you love him
  • Dec 15, 2011, 12:04 AM
    DownandOut25
    Quote:

    Such as?? Come on, what's the whole story??
    Call or text numbers that be in his phone, check his phone records, write girls that want him as his friend in Facebook.. I'm trying to stop and change but I don't know what to do...
  • Dec 15, 2011, 12:05 AM
    Wondergirl
    Why do you feel so insecure, like you must supervise everything he does? Are you worried about losing him?
  • Dec 15, 2011, 01:15 AM
    DaniCalifornia
    You should talk to him and ask if there's a reason for this. Who is it you argue with?

    X Dani
  • Dec 19, 2011, 09:02 PM
    DownandOut25
    Now he doesn't want to look or talk to me! Ever since my accident I just feel that we can't go anywhere romantic and just hang out to have alone time. Instead he'd rather hang out with his friends and then say they're more important than I am! I understand that he doesn't hang out with them all the time. I just want his attention and some alone time with him, that's all I want! What am I doing wrong? Now he says he doesn't know if he wants to be in a relationship and doesn't want to say "I'm breaking up with you"... all this stuff that's going on, I'm trying to change and he doesn't see that... everything that happening to me is moving so fast!

    Wonder girl I am afraid of losing him
  • Dec 19, 2011, 10:32 PM
    Wondergirl
    What will happen to you if you lose him?
  • Dec 26, 2011, 07:27 PM
    DownandOut25
    Sex & a Cell phone
    Ok this morning me and my boyfriend had sex and it was hot and intimate as usual! Then all a sudden his phone vibrates and he checks and it's a text message! I was like can you like not do that then he tells me I do that and I said no I don't and he says yes you do,and I was like whatever! I was mad when you have sex with the person you love and that you've been with for a long time it makes no sense for a guy to answer his phone for a call or text,because when a guy does that it just ruins everything... I wanted to break his damn phone... I almost cried, why do guys do that s&#$..?
  • Dec 26, 2011, 07:35 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Women do it to, it is a person thing, not a guy thing
  • Dec 26, 2011, 08:07 PM
    DownandOut25
    Yeah but u guys do it like all the time NON STOP!
  • Dec 26, 2011, 08:46 PM
    Wondergirl
    None of the guys I'm ever with do it. Maybe it has to do with how much he respects you and values his time with you.
  • Dec 26, 2011, 08:51 PM
    odinn7
    Yeah... uh... I don't do it. So with that said, I'm thinking you are judging all guys based on this one guy who doesn't seem to respect you as much as he does his phone.
  • Dec 26, 2011, 10:47 PM
    DownandOut25
    Uh huh OK
  • Dec 27, 2011, 11:58 AM
    talaniman
    Can't you guys set some boundaries of good behavior that works for you both?

    Like don't have sex until all the phones are off?? Then at least you won't fight about that subject. Not during sex any way. He is one who seems to live through his phone.

    It's a big red flag when a couple only have a good time during sex, and even that's rather shaky. Besides the sex, what is good about this relationship?
  • Jan 1, 2012, 08:34 PM
    DownandOut25
    What's best for our relationship?
    I recently came back into my hometown to focus on me. Me and my boyfriend argue a lot and he says I'm smothering him and he needs his space! I just didn't want to leave him alone but maybe leaving to him and me was the best thing to do to better our relationship. Now I'm worried about the things he does since I'm not with him anymore. I trust him and he told me millions of times he'd never cheat on me... it drives me crazy knowing who he's on the phone with,which he's texting... etc! I don't know what to do & I need help..
  • Jan 2, 2012, 06:43 PM
    talaniman
    You came home to focus on you, so focus, and stop worrying about things you can't control. I frankly don't even see the point of being with someone you can't talk to, or worse, afraid to trust. Maybe you do need help, but what was the agreement before you left? Are you on a break? Still together? What?
  • Jan 8, 2012, 11:50 PM
    DownandOut25
    Facebook dilemna
    Privacy & social networking

    I have been in a relationship for 5 years and me and my boyfriend both love each other very much but there's a problem... I wants to tell my boyfriend that I've been on his FACEBOOK page, but afraid to tell him, and don't know what the consequences are or what will happen!


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  • Jan 11, 2012, 11:53 AM
    DownandOut25
    Clubbing and bumping and grinding
    Last Friday was me and my boyfriend's 5 year anniversary and I'm happy we are still together after all we been through and I'm happy I feel lucky that I have a great man!

    Late last night/early this morning we had an argument and what really pissed me off is when I told him when you go to the club I don't want girls bumping and grinding on you, feeling on you touching you, and I wasn't happy! Then he asked me when I go clubbing that I am dancing on other guys, and I told him no, I don't I don't do that!

    Then he says he's going to do whatever the f**k he wants and he's not respecting my wishes when I say I don't want no women dancing on my boyfriend, even though we live in different cities and, we manage to keep this relationship together for so long!

    I'm so upset and p***ed off they he would say that and right now, I don't even know what to do, and I'm angry, mad, upset. What should I do ?
  • Jan 11, 2012, 02:48 PM
    talaniman
    Your relationship is going down hill, and getting worse. 5 years is a long time, but is this really a happy healthy relationship? Now its long distance, and getting worse not better.

    Time to rethink things because nowhere in anything you have ever written is this a healthy loving relationship. And nether of you knows what to do, so take a break why don't you, since you can argue, but not talk.

    Clearly invading his privacy, and making all kinds of demands that he doesn't agree with, is an example of how fast things are going down hill despite your pie in the sky claims of how great things are.

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