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How do I overcome missing someone I love so much"distance is killing me"
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How do I overcome missing someone I love so much"distance is killing me"
Did you guys break up? Or are you in long distance relations? The only way to overcome it, is to keep busy. I know you have probably heard it all before but its true.
You need to do something different everyday, meet a friend, go shopping, finish projects, have something new everyday of the week, fill your schedule as much as possible. :)
Could you come back with some more details please?
Yeah! It's a long distance relationship.would cheating on her be the best for me?
Why on earth would that be the best thing to do?
If you're in a relationship with someone how on earth would cheating solve anything?
If you can't do the relationship LD-you should break up-not cheat.
My roommate in school wants my girlfriend.although he has not told me about it but I can see it in his eyes.but he told someone about about his desire to sleep with my girl & I'av not asked him.what should I do.:mad:
A lot of people want a lot of things they never get. As long as you know and trust your girlfriend and know it'll never come to fruition, I'd just ignore it.
Tanx but how do I cope with sexual urge.am 23 and I don't masturbate.am nt a fan of prostitute .when I say cheating I really meant something like a substitute.
Better start masturbating then or else end it with this girl, there is no way you could love her "so much" if you are thinking of cheating. Long distance relations clearly don't agree with you, don't be selfish and look elsewhere, end it first and then only address your needs.
Why are you still with her when you have so many thoughts about replacing her?
Why do you even care? You're the one that's thinking of cheating on her
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I love her and I always want to be next to her.but lets not forget am a human being that have feelings and urge masturbating is really not going to work I know because I don't do it.may be I'll try the with the prostitute is that OK?
Can you really live with the guilt of cheating on your girlfriend?
Tell you girlfriend about your sexual urges and your plans to either cheat or use a prostitute.
See what she says and get back to us.
Maybe the girlfriend also has sexual urges and is either masturbating or considering "using" a (male) prostitute. Women have urges, too. That's not just a male thing.
This could be a very meaningful conversation.
Wonder if OP would be willing to record it for my listening pleasure.
This is an interesting thread. I would think the approach would be "I love and miss you so much but you're not here so I am going to cheat on you." Yes, very interesting.
Please do NOT use chat speak.
Type out the full word.
Otherwise, I will assume you are 13, and treat you as such--meaning, I will delete your post because you are on an ADULT board.
Is this the same girl you are wanting to cheat on?
I know you don't expect me to tell her.if I should do that it's going to curse serious problems in our relationship.I know her very well she's not going to agree to it.now am confuse really don't know if I'll use a prostitute or do the masturbating thing(ow!)but I think I can live with the guilt of cheating.am not the first.maybe I'll try telling her indirectly.
I feel sorry for your girl.
You SHOULD tell her. It SHOULD cause problems in your relationship.
How would you feel if SHE went to a prostitute because masturbation just isn't working to cure HER urges?
You're a jerk. Either masturbate or break up with this girl. She doesn't deserve the diseases you're going to give her just because YOU can't control yourself.
It all happened when she came around.I care a lot because I love her.do you think am being sentimental or selfcentred.
Sentimental?
Where?!
IF... it is going to cause (or curse) problems..? No if, just when and how big.Quote:
I know you don't expect me to tell her.if I should do that it's going to curse serious problems in our relationship.I know her very well she's not going to agree to it.now am confuse really don't know if I'll use a prostitute or do the masturbating thing(ow!)but I think I can live with the guilt of cheating.am not the first.maybe I'll try telling her indirectly.
Maybe if you get addicted to heroin or meth you can shed all blame and say "The drugs made you do it.
and add it was in conjunction with the devil " and then nobody will blame you.
But you will have to look in the mirror every morning knowing the truth and seeing a weak willed cheating person looking back may be unpleasant.
And just a reminder, masturbating is not cheating as long as you do it alone.
Seriously now , all sarcasm aside,
I suggest you get some counselling because your thoughts you have relayed about your situation and your possible solutions (even with the limited information you provide) suggest to me
You need some input from someone anchored firmly in the real world who can get with you face to face and be professional enough to help you sort through your situation which seems to have caused some loss of perception .
I have no idea what you're talking about.
I thought this was about someone wanting to sleep with your girl friend.
Your worried about your friend liking your girlfriend? You should be more worried that you wanted to cheat on her. Maybe your friend would be a better catch for her.
We have some good eyes here. Good catch Addy.
If your girlfriend is long distance, I would think your roommate has little to no chance on his desires coming to fruition.
Before you decide what to do, I strongly suggest that you look at yourself in the mirror. Can you tell us what type of person you want to be?
Why are you against masturbation? What is 'ow' about it?
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Originally Posted by Cat1864
With tongue firmly in cheek it's "ow" because, among other things, OP is a human being. (Masturbation must be something human beings do not do.) : "but lets not forget am a human being that have feelings and urge masturbating is realy not gona work i know cus i dnt do it"
I once had someone who was not US-born explain to me that he "couldn't" masturbate because one of his hands was clean (for eating) and the other was dirty (for bathroom purposes). He could not use the clean hand (his right, and he was right handed) for religious purposes and was "not very good" with his left (the bathroom hand). I don't think there would be any purpose in making this up so maybe OP's problem is cultural.
(This, by the way, was more info than I wanted to know.)
And somehow his PENIS would still be clean after going to a prostitute?
The problem may be cultural, but then the OP should just be waiting for marriage to have sex, as called for by his culture
If you're considering cheating then it's only fair that you let her know, so that she can cheat too. After all, if it's okay for you, it's okay for her.
If you're thinking about cheating just because you can't control yourself, then you should do the honorable thing and break up with her, let her find someone that actually loves her enough to keep his penis in his pants.
You do nothing, and you don't cheat on your girl either. If you cannot handle your needs, then you are not ready for an adult relationship.
What, you think you are the only one to find your girl friend attractive? Guess again, many probably do, and wish they had her. That's life,
We all have urges and needs, so talk to an older, respected, responsible man, and let him know your problems, IF you cannot HANDle them yourself.
When you start letting those urges control you, then you are asking for more trouble than its worth.
I tried masturbating last night and I felt useless because its not working.I called her and told her that I was missing her and I feel like holding and kissing her and making love to her.she was like"oh! Baby am missing you too and i also want to hold u close and kiss you then make love to you but is not possible now,you are far from me.dont worry when i come over" {in 2months time}i felt bad about what I was trying to do but 2 months! God help me.dont think I can hold on.
No... just wait for her. If you can't wait then you don't love her. How long till you get to see her?
That was a mistake.being sentimental or selfcentred that was for my previous question.hope he doesn't make an attempt.
If you won't tell her then obviously you know it is wrong and that her reaction would not be good.
Maybe something like chatting on skype with her with a web camera would help you?
That way you could masturbate, but she would still be part of it.
If you can't handle not having actual physical contact with someone then I think it's time to break it off.
Chidi, it doesn't sound like you are giving yourself a chance to explore your own thoughts and body.It sounds like you are going to have to change your perception of masturbation for it to work for you.
Masturbation is healthy-a lot more healthy than a prostitute. You are not taking anything away from your girlfriend.
Do you have fantasies or thoughts about what you want to do with your girlfriend? Build a fantasy world in your mind where you are with her. Let yourself get aroused. Explore what feels good like you would with your girlfriend.
I think OP is ready, willing and able to have an affair (or pay for sex) and nothing/nobody is going to change his mind.
He's looking for permission, not advice.
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Originally Posted by Synnen
It's not about his penis. It's about masturbation and clean hand vs dirty hand.
I don't know whatever else that particular culture allows or doesn't allow. I only know what was said to me. I will see where research leads me.
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