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My exboyfriend and I dated for a month only then he broke up with me. I chose not to stay friends.Then few days ago he texted me asking me if we can stay friends. We got a chance to talk on msn and the next day we met. We hugged and kissed but he didn't say anything to me. He bumped into his friend on street and he told me to hide:mad:. What does he mean? Does he want me back or what?
I'm guessing you know what 99% of us here are going to tell you.
How old are you??
Why on earth would he tell you to hide?
Only a month in and he broke up with you? Now he wants to be back together, but doesn't what his friend to see? Sounds to me like he is using you as an option.
Edit: I Just noticed you already have an open thread there: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...ck-471012.html
Please don't open multiple threads for the same question/topic.
He doesn't want you back, if he wanted you back he wouldn't hide you from his friends.
And ex and I broke up after only a month and a half and the first time we hung out after the breakup we hugged and kissed.. I feel it happened because it was something we were use to when seeing each other.
I say forget about this guy and move on. If he is hiding you while you guys are just friends... there really is a problem.
Yeah can admin delete the other post please? Because I have no idea how come it's under the teen topic. Sorry for the doubling posting. Thought the thread will be more viewed in this section
Are you a teen? Are you in school? How old are you? It was moved to give you age appropriate advice.
Hugging and kissing is fine, but you need to ask him your questions to get answers. That's my advice. Talk to him and find out what's on his mind.
I am not a teen. I am 20+
Hi CindyQuote:
Originally Posted by cindywang0905
I would say because you originally posted in the Teens section that's where it was moved to.
We will get it moved back to Relationships for you.
Hey cindywang!
I was kind of in the same dilemma as you, but me and my ex dated for 2 months then she wanted move in and broke up on our anniversary.
She wanted to be friends, I took everyone's advice and did no contact cause it hurts just to talk to her. And she txted me saying she misses me and all that BS, she said why am I not fighting for her and all that Cr*&p. I just stopped all contact with her, realizing things were not going to get better, and things are not going to change even though we get back together.
She was using me to fill the void of emptiness she has inside. And what your ex is doing is the same thing, He miss having someone there to talk to and kiss, but doesn't want to do anything with you but just that. Just for him to hope that you will do friends of benefit.
Only a month woow just move on with your life and enjoy that his only a history, his not worth it and you deserve someone better. Trust me on this we all deserve someone better.
Sounds like he just wants some action, i.e. friends with benefits, booty call.
If he wanted to pursue a more serious relationship, he would let you know and not lead you on like that.
But to be sure, why not just ask him to clarify?
No way that he's wanting back with you. Sounds like he wants to be friends with benefits to me.
I'd cut it off right now. Any man that tells you to hide so no one sees him talking to you is a jerk.
Since you older than teens, he wants you as his secret thing, and that's something to be wary of as he may have another that his friends know about.
Either way run fast from him, and his buddies
Yeah I agree with you guys too. But the thing is, I never have sex with him and he knows I am not going to have sex with him because I am still a virgin. So does he still want to be friends with benefit?
Friends with benefits doesn't have to only include sex. If he only wants to kiss and make out with you, without the label of boyfriend and girlfriend, isn't that friends with benefits?
Bottom line is, if you want something, don't settle for less. If you want a serious relationship, then ask for one. If he can't provide it, then walk away.
He said he always has a shield up to protect himself. So I always keep silent with the things I am not happy with, I don't want to hurt him or bother him. But then I am unhappy
Not your problem anymore , remember he's your Ex so you don't hold any responsibility for his feelings , he certainly doesn't seem to care about yours.Quote:
Originally Posted by cindywang0905
Bottom line is he doesn't want to be with you but he's quite happy for you to be hanging on with some hope that he may want you back. That does you no good and just stops you from starting to heal and get on with your life without him.
Your unhappy because you want to believe he cares, but deep down, you know he doesn't.
Leave him alone or have your feelings used against you because he KNOWS you care, and may be weak for him. You have proven that by your past actions.
I am meeting up with this guy to clear up everything. Anyone can suggest me what to tell him?:S
Good bye!
Yup like what talaniman said just say goodbye, easy. He can't give you the relationship you want and need. So why settle for just being a friend of benefit, if you can do something better. Find a man that can give you all that you wish. Just be careful his going to charm talk you.
Just simply tell him you do not want a "behind closed doors" relationship. If he can't even be seen with you in front of his friends you don't need to bother with him. You do not have to protect his feelings because when he told you to hide did that not bother you? He didn't even consider how that would make you feel he just wanted to protect hisself. It was only a one month relationship, it won't be too hard to get over and move on with your life.
Yeah, this guy is Not worth your time at ALL, why?
1. you dated for 1 month and than he broke up
2. telling you to hide
Tell him good bye and be done with it. If he wants to be friends expect him to have a hidden agenda!
I would stay away from this one if I were you! When things go bad that fast it only a sign that its... well BAD.
I talked to him and he said we are just friends. Then I was like I don't want to be friends with benefits. He said I have blown it out for proportion
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Originally Posted by cindywang0905
I think he has pretty well answered your question for you , so if your happy to be just friends all good.Quote:
Originally Posted by cindywang0905
If you still have feelings for him and want him back I'd suggest going NC and not seeing him until those feelings are gone.
Yeah I guess so, but then somehow I don't feel respected so I don't want to stay friends. Even though his explanation is, he didn't prepare a sentence for me to introduce me to his friends, so he told me to hide.
How hard is it to say, hey this is my friend cindy. If the friend asks how you met. We dated a while ago but decided were better as friends. Why did he need to prepare a sentence? If your friends, your friends!Quote:
Originally Posted by cindywang0905
He broke up with me few months ago and met again few weeks ago. We made out as well. I let someone pass him a birthday gift(not a fancy one), but he remained offline forever on msn and never said thank you. How the hell can he be that insensitive, I now have him in my thought constantly and this is making me exhausted. What should I do? I want him to feel how I feel. Though I know this is so wrong. Shame on me:(
It's quite clear that he doesn't want to get back with you and you can't make him want you back.
You made out with him so you let him use you , you probably thought this would work but it obviously doesn't. Until you go complete NC you'll be stuck with all the confusion.
Yeah NC is what you need to do and you need to get him out of your head!
From your new post it is pretty clear that he doesn't want you back. If he did he would have contacted you. So if you see him again (either turn around and walk the other way or just walk right passed him) cause like I wrote in an earlier post. He isn't worth you time!
Threads merged
I finally decided to go NC with him, blocked and removed him from msn account and blocked his email too. Tomorrow I am going to go call the cellphone provider to block his text or incoming call.
HOWEVER, I kept adding him back on msn and tried to see if he's online or not:rolleyes: then I kept removing then adding back then removed:eek:anyone can tell me how do I stop this?
Well you have not really gone no contact.
How can you stop doing it. Shut off your computer and go outside. To the mall, to the store, hang out with friends. Resist going on the computer.
COMPLETELY erase the msn contact and email addresses then you will not be able to do anything anymore.
You can stop by stopping. When you're about to do it you have to literally walk away or do something else.
Self discipline is difficult but you HAVE to do it. Don't try. Do.
How long have you been with him? What went wrong?
Do you need a cyber slap up side your head or what? Just stop doing stupid stuff.
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