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I almost feel like I don't want to get over my ex. We are on and off. We admit that we will always love each other, but he never shows it. When I make the tinyest mistake and he gets mad at me, I beat myself up for it. I love him, but he'll almost never be the same, but I still want him in my life...

He's stubborn. But you really love him. Sometimes your unrequited love. Hummm... This is complicated. OK, the following steps:
1. do anything that might show that you really love him. Just as you ask your friend who is also a friend to tell your boyfriend your complaints to him. Maybe he'll realize how much you love her.
2. second, learn your character's girlfriend in detail. What makes him smile at you? Do the things she likes.

Time to get over him,hoping someone who doesn't allow you to be yourself and who can't love you for who you are,is going to change,is futile.

You deserve better,so start healing by going no contact with him.

Read the stickies at the top of the relationship page for more advice on how to handle a breakup.

It's not healthy to be walking on thin ice all the time.

Unless there is progress in repairing the relationship, why continue to torture yourself?

Yes we all know it's hard to leave someone you love.
But if the relationship is unhealthy you need to stand up for yourself and break up.
Go NC. Love is not supposed to hurt.

This isn't love, and if you are not a masochist you need to leave this farce of a relationship as fast as you possibly can.

This is not healthy.

Thank you everyone who answered! Your thoughts are greatly appreciated! :)

You're welcome-I hope you're feeling better.
Take care.

Why keep repeating history, when you could be doing something a lot more fun than breaking up.

Agrees go no contact, if at another date you two come together once again, and you feel things have changed, then you could make a decision then to make this work. But right now you two are just going to keep repeating the same cycle on breaking up. A relationship can't work when only one person is putting in any effort

He texts me, but either volluntarily or involluntarily, I don't reply... I can't be there whenever he feels like it

Good job! Don't be someone's doormat.

You deserve better than that.

Keep up the good work and NC. It's hard, but it'll be worth it in the end.

Remember - You don't want to live your life with constant verbal abuse. It would be a miserable life and would destroy your self-esteem.

Good luck!

So true! He walks all over me, I'm done with that. But it sucks cause I miss how he used to be :(

Its okay to miss how he use to be but trust me, you won't miss how he is now, or how you are now, because you will grow beyond it, and him.

So true, it just kind of sucks. You know? Cause he is in my thoughts. I don't really talk to him and am slowly getting over him but the memories can get to me.

Yea we all know how it is to get through those memories. Just try to stay busy and every time those thoughts haunt you, just know they will pass.

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soo true, it just kind of sucks. ya know? cause he is in my thoughts. i dont really talk to him and am slowly getting over him but the memories can get to me.

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Try remembering the BAD things about him , that'll make it go a bit quicker ;)

Write down everything that was wrong in the relationship and read through it whenever you feel low.

And allow time to work for you.

Good luck.

It takes a long time to get over someone you love. Just pace yourself and I'm sure that eventually it'll all get easier. He will slowly and painfully slip from your thoughts and you will be happier in the long run. You do not want to be in this type of relationship where if you slip up at all you get screamed at for it. No one wants to be treated like that. Hope it goes well.

When I think about the bad things it really helps. Like when I think about who he is currently. Its just that his memories come sometimes too. When he was the one supporter of my life. You know?

Those memories will fade with time.
Focus on you and moving forward.

Quit telling yourself not to get over him. And just do it.
It may be tough, but in the long run it's good for you.



If you love something, set it free... if it comes back it was meant to be ;)

He's not the same person he is today as before. So in fact, you're thinking about someone else.

I'm going to go against the current though.

Instead of thinking about good or bad things about him, why not think about something completely different? Distract yourself from thinking about him.

The problem is, if you're thinking about good or bad things about him, it will lead to other good or bad thoughts. Maybe when you've completely healed from the break up, you can reflect on the relationship again. But for now, any type of thoughts only prolongs the recovery process.

There's got to be better things to do with your time rather than dwelling on the break up.

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This has happened many times.. I hate him when he does this. But then, he always comes back to me after. I'm a rebound girl. I need to get over him. But I cant. I really... try though.

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this has happened many times.. i hate him when he does this.

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He's not doing anything. You are allowing it. You are ignoring your own power.

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but then, he always comes back to me

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Because you always accept him back.

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im a rebound girl.

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While start seeing yourself as girl that more then that.

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i need to get over him. but i cant. i really...try though.

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I have a scab I keep picking. It needs to heal but I don't stop picking at it. Can you help me?

Take control of your own life and don't allow him to treat you like crap. They always say that people treat you how you let them treat you.

You don't deserve this jerk in your life. You deserve a guy that loves and respects you.