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  • Mar 24, 2010, 06:33 AM
    rrakesh85
    I had a fight with my girlfriend, and she asked me to leave her alone
    I had a fight with my girlfrnd and she asked me to leave her alone for a while and also she asked me to not to call her until she calls me. What do I need to do in this case ?
    Will she come back to me?
  • Mar 24, 2010, 06:40 AM
    amicon

    We can't tell you whether she'll come back or not,

    All you can do leave her alone and go about your own business.
  • Mar 24, 2010, 06:51 AM
    Devorameira

    You need to respect her wishes. She's told you to leave her alone and not to call, so respect that and go NC.
  • Mar 24, 2010, 07:26 AM
    rrakesh85
    Dear friend thanks for your reply..

    I can leave her alone, but often I feel to speak to her and also I want to hear her voice, I can be like this, I am hurting myself... I dono what do do,
  • Mar 24, 2010, 07:34 AM
    rrakesh85

    I want her in my life for ever, I love her so much... I can't be live without her, I feel alone now...
  • Mar 24, 2010, 07:36 AM
    talaniman

    We have told you what to do, leave her alone! If you can't let her cool off, and see how she feels when she stops being mad at you, you will show a weakness, and disrespect to her, that she will despise in you, and that will make things worse.

    Don't tell me you can't be a man and find something else to do besides cry in a corner, and want your mommy back? How old are you any way?
  • Mar 24, 2010, 07:39 AM
    rrakesh85

    I am 26,
  • Mar 24, 2010, 07:41 AM
    Romefalls19

    Respect her wishes and leave her alone or don't be surprised if cops show up at your door with a restraining order
  • Mar 24, 2010, 07:44 AM
    hungtoronto

    Keep your mind distracted by going out do something. Keep yourself busy, workout is a good idea. Sit at home and think about it won't help.
  • Mar 24, 2010, 07:46 AM
    rrakesh85

    Dear friends,

    I really respect your answers, as per all of your wishes I ll leave her alone until she call me, am I rite..
  • Mar 24, 2010, 07:55 AM
    hungtoronto
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rrakesh85 View Post
    Dear frnds,

    i really respect ur answers, as per all of ur wishes i ll leave her alone untill she call me, am i rite..


    Not per our wish but per your girlfriend wish. Go and find something to do to keep your mind off her "An Idle Mind Is The Devil's Workshop"
  • Mar 24, 2010, 08:01 AM
    rrakesh85

    Yup I am going to divert myself
  • Mar 24, 2010, 08:08 AM
    Devorameira

    I know it's tough, but you've made the right decision to go NC. It WILL get easier with time.
  • Mar 24, 2010, 08:13 AM
    rrakesh85

    I have to friends,
    Friends ours is pretty diff love story, we never meet face to face we both are from diff country meet in chat and had a phone calls, we liked each other.. we used to speak more than ten times a day, but now not even one time, I feel like I fall in dark, I love her a lot, I trust and respect our love,
  • Mar 24, 2010, 08:24 AM
    amicon

    Time to go out and meet some local people-see friends and family.

    Get busy-do things you enjoy.
  • Mar 24, 2010, 08:27 AM
    Lucky098

    Are you broken up? Or is she just extremely pissed at you?

    If you're not broken up, and she hasn't said anything towards that direction, just let her cool off and think about whatever it is that you did. If she loves you, she'll forgive you on her own terms and start talking to you again.

    She'll come around.. Don't worry
  • Mar 24, 2010, 09:25 AM
    rrakesh85

    Sure I ll wait for her no matter how long it going to be, also I feel she ll realize my love and she will come back..
  • Mar 24, 2010, 09:31 AM
    talaniman

    Dude, get a real relationship with a real person, why dontcha?
  • Mar 24, 2010, 10:20 AM
    rrakesh85

    You she is real, I ll wait for her, going to let her free for a while until she realize my love and affection.
  • Mar 24, 2010, 10:29 AM
    Imabadman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rrakesh85 View Post
    i have to frnds,
    friends ours is pretty diff love story, we never meet face to face we both are from diff country meet in chat and had a phone calls, we liked each other.. we used to speak more than ten times a day, but now not even one time, i feel like i fall in dark, i love her a lot, i trust and respect our love,

    You didn't fall in love. You became infatutated. No offense friend, get a life. Get off your butt and go out and meet an actual woman. Hold her hand. Look into her eyes. I think you'll find the WHOLE situation A LOT more stimulating than your current date of a mouse and monitor.
  • Mar 24, 2010, 10:43 AM
    kp2171

    If letting her cool off after a fight makes you a puddle on the floor... I have serious concerns about what would happen if you actually lived with a p!ssed off mate.

    Sounds like you are way too off balance here.
  • Mar 24, 2010, 11:12 AM
    Violaename
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rrakesh85 View Post
    i had a fight with my girlfrnd and she asked me to leave her alone for a while and also she asked me to not to call her untill she calls me. what do i need to do in this case ?
    will she come back to me?

    It's a tough time to go through...
    Okay,you had a fight with her and she told you to stay away till she calls you.That is her wish. It is true that you have to respect her wish.But... but,love being what it is,you are craving to talk to her and share those moments.I can't tell you what is going through her head or if she will call you back.But I can tell you that you should not fail to make her know how you feel before letting her alone.
    If I were you,I will send her a text and express how I feel.Atleast,it's a text... not a call.When you have done this,then you can let her be and see what happens.If after hearing the sorrow of your heart,she doesn't call you,then maybe you really need to let go.
    I hope it works for you.
    Good luck.
  • Mar 24, 2010, 11:21 AM
    rrakesh85
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Violaename View Post
    Its a tough time to go through...
    Okay,you had a fight with her and she told you to stay away till she calls you.That is her wish. It is true that you have to respect her wish.But...but,love being what it is,you are craving to talk to her and share those moments.I can't tell you what is going through her head or if she will call you back.But I can tell you that you should not fail to make her know how you feel before letting her alone.
    If I were you,I will send her a text and express how I feel.Atleast,its a text...not a call.When you have done this,then you can let her be and see what happens.If after hearing the sorrow of your heart,she doesn't call you,then maybe you really need to let go.
    I hope it works for you.
    Good luck.


    Ya sure I agree with your point, and also I have sent a mail today to her...
    Let me wait till she reads my mail..
  • Mar 30, 2010, 08:34 PM
    rrakesh85
    I need my berakup relationship back for ever.
    After a big breakup I started to speak wit my girlfrnd yesterday, but still she is speaking like a enemy,how can I make her cool & love me back and how can I make her to forget past, more than that I am out country now... help me..
  • Mar 30, 2010, 08:39 PM
    Kitkat22

    What caused the break up?
  • Mar 30, 2010, 09:45 PM
    amicon

    How old are you both?
    And why did you break up?
  • Mar 30, 2010, 10:00 PM
    rrakesh85
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Kitkat22 View Post
    What caused the break up?

    Our relationship was good till 2 weeks before,
    Suddenly she said that stop calling me for a while until she calls me without any reason. But I donot have patience to wait so I have called her again and again she used to switched off and disconnect the call.and said she donot want me any more becoze I am torturing her by calling her.

    After a week I have called her yesterday she pickedup the call and she spoke. Her voice is good but they way she speak is kind of still angry on me.. help me how to proceed with this...
  • Mar 30, 2010, 10:02 PM
    rrakesh85
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by amicon View Post
    How old are you both?
    And why did you break up?

    I am 25 and she is 24..

    Our relationship was good till 2 weeks before,
    Suddenly she said that stop calling me for a while until she calls me without any reason. But I donot have patience to wait so I have called her again and again she used to switched off and disconnect the call.and said she donot want me any more becoze I am torturing her by calling her.

    After a week I have called her yesterday she pickedup the call and she spoke. Her voice is good but they way she speak is kind of still angry on me.. help me how to proceed with this...
  • Mar 30, 2010, 10:03 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rrakesh85 View Post
    i am 25 and she is 24..

    our relationship was good till 2 weeks before,
    suddenly she said that stop calling me for a while untill she calls me without any reason. but i donot have patience to wait so i have called her again and again she used to switched off and disconnect the call.and said she donot want me any more becoze i am torturing her by calling her.

    after a week i have called her yesterday she pickedup the call and she spoke. her voice is good but they way she speak is kind of still angry on me.. help me how to proceed with this...

    What happened to cause the breakup?
  • Mar 31, 2010, 12:16 AM
    rrakesh85
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Kitkat22 View Post
    What happened to cause the breakup?

    Just a simple that I am calling her often. She thought I am disturbing her..
    She said that my call is irritating her.. this is the reason
  • Mar 31, 2010, 12:36 AM
    amicon

    Look,you need to back off and leave her alone-starting a new thread isn't going to give you different answers.

    You respect her wishes and stop calling her.
  • Mar 31, 2010, 12:46 AM
    the_original

    Yea give the girl space man. Women hate a clingy needy guy. Back off and do your own thing... how long were you two together?
  • Mar 31, 2010, 01:27 AM
    rrakesh85
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by the_original View Post
    Yea give the girl space man. Women hate a clingy needy guy. Back off and do your own thing....how long were you two together?

    Past 6 months
  • Mar 31, 2010, 01:44 AM
    dynocompe

    How do you get her to stop speaking like your enemy and be cool with you? That's simple! Respect her wishes and leave her alone, stop calling her! Every phone call you make to her, makes her more annoyed with you and perhaps dislike you more!
    You have to leave her alone.
  • Mar 31, 2010, 01:52 AM
    the_original

    At 6 months dude, just back off. In my honest (and maybe harsh) opinion, you guys owe each other nothing, as 6 months feels like a long time, it isn't in the grand scheme of things. Show her you don't need her, and live your life with... yep you guessed it... no contact
  • Mar 31, 2010, 04:34 AM
    Kitkat22

    Move on with your Life! Good Luck
  • Mar 31, 2010, 02:56 PM
    talaniman

    Too much drama, and trouble for an online long distance relationship. Geez guy you haven't even met her in person, I mean you act like she is the only female for you, but maybe try others, live ones even.

    Have you sent her money, or expensive gifts or something?
  • Mar 31, 2010, 03:38 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    To much drama, and trouble for an online long distance relationship. Geez guy you haven't even met her in person, I mean you act like she is the only female for you, but maybe try others, live ones even.

    Have you sent her money, or expensive gifts or something?



    I'm not a fortune teller, but I don't see a future for you with this girl! How do you fall in love with someone you've never met?:eek:
  • Mar 31, 2010, 11:17 PM
    rrakesh85
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    To much drama, and trouble for an online long distance relationship. Geez guy you haven't even met her in person, I mean you act like she is the only female for you, but maybe try others, live ones even.

    Have you sent her money, or expensive gifts or something?

    No I didn't sent any money and gift, even she used to say I don't want any gift , just I need you in her life.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by dynocompe View Post
    How do you get her to stop speaking like your enemy and be cool with you? Thats simple! Respect her wishes and leave her alone, stop calling her! Every phone call you make to her, makes her more annoyed with you and perhaps dislike you more!
    You have to leave her alone.

    You I agree with this, but unable to forget her also I feel to speak to her.
  • Mar 31, 2010, 11:29 PM
    eyo

    Do and respect what she said to you and immediately try to make yourself busy with your own business.She may come back to u but if not bear it up what so ever. Because u have to live first.

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