We went on a break and now we are back together but...
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years, and our relationship had issues lately that caused us to take a break from seeing or talking to each other for 2 weeks. Mainly I noticed that she was starting to distant herself and she seemed very unhappy.
Some background information she has two siblings one in college and one in high school, her parents live out of the country and she has to take care of her brother and sister, my girlfriend is 25. This situation started about a year ago and we spend most of our time running errands and taking care of her siblings. My girlfriend has to cook every night and tell her little sister to do homework and go to bed, basically she has to play the role of their mother.
I have tried to help her anyway I can by helping her with chores or trying to give her a back rub whenever she feels very tired just trying to cheer her up when she is down.
The night we started our break she told me that she was not happy with our relationship and career. She said that she found that we are not so compatible. She said I wasn't as ambitous as she would like, I didn't have a great interest in news/current events and that she did not like my sense of humor. I try to tell her I though that the stress of having to take care of her siblings everyday and her career dilemma was causing stress on our relationship but she explained that if 2 people are compatible we can be doing anything and still enjoy each other.
So we agreed to take a break, and during that time I realized that I was too centered on her life and that I needed to get my own life back but I also realized that I love this girl and I want her to be part of my life.
So we talked and I explained to her what I said above and she shared with me a bunch of things we need to work on our relationship and we decided to work on it together instead of just having no contact.
Its just recently I find out from a mutual friend that my girlfriend felt that she was settling with me, that she know she should not focus on the flaws she sees in me and focus on the good but she feels that is just giving up. That if she can do that what is stopping her from having a relationship from anyone? She said she is just really confused right now that her head and heart are not in same place.
I don't know what to do, especially since I love this girl. I feel the distant still between us and it hurts like crazy. It has only been 3 days since we decided to stay together and take things slow and I know I should give it time, I don't know if we should keep working at this or just walk away.
Is my girlfriend pregnant?
My girlfriend told me a few days ago she is scared she might be pregnant. This is because she has had irregular periods two months in a row. In February she said her period was pink and in March she described her period as "dry", I guess as in the blood was brown.
We have always had protected sex, I use a condom and pull out every time.
In Feb and March we have only had sex 2 times, once each month. The time in March was the night she told me she though she might be pregnant.
What are the chances she is pregnant and is it too early to take a home pregnancy test?
I need help with my girlfriend not communicating
My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years and recently she got angry with me. This was about a week ago. To this day I have not figured out why she was angry with me because she goes into the silent mode. She will be cold to me and barely speak, you know the type.
So I try to get her to speak to me about it by asking what's wrong? Are you mad with me? She would say no, and no I'm not mad. So I learned that I usually need to ask more than once so I texted her when I dropped her off at home and said "if you have something bothering you, you should share with me so we can work it out" She texted me back saying I was being needy and that wasn't her type.
Ok so I had no idea she felt that way or that I was acting that way but I got the point and I left her alone, only problem was we had planned a weekend trip out of town and this happened 2 nights before the trip.
So she acts like nothing happened but still cold to me until we go on the trip we were with her family. Things were getting better until we got lost on the drive out of town and she was giving me directions while I drove and she told me to turn left, but I couldn't get over into the left lane and make the turn and she said in a negative tone, "what are you doing why aren't you doing what I told you" I just told her sorry and I will just turn around, I didn't listen well trying to drive and listen at the same time.
So I was pretty upset she got so offensive about it and when we got back to the hotel I let her know that "I am sorry I didn't listen well and I miss your directions but please you dont have to get so upset and talk to me that way."
She got defensive and said I didn't talk to you in a bad way, I as frustrated that we were lost not at you. I just said well then you don't need to use such a negative tone and say it like that, you could say oh that was the turn, make a u-turn and turn there, not why are you not listening. She just kept being defensive and didn't think she did anything bad, that she wasn't mean to me. At that time her mom walked into the room so we couldn't finish our talk but I didn't know what to say anymore anyway so I went to sleep.
Next day she apologizes for last night and to not let it ruin my trip so we had a good time the next day but during the trip back I do not know what happened since she drove and I was asleep but when I woke up she seem upset again and acting cold to me again and when I woke up we were home so I leave and she just said bye.
So I don't know what is going on, I wish I did cause I want to try to save this relationship, but how do I not come across needy or if I am even being needy? How do you get a silent person to open up without them getting annoyed at you for trying to get them to talk?