We broke up because he said he needed time to think. But now he's agreed to fix things
We started as best friends. And we went into our 15 month long relationship continuing to be that way and everything was perfect. For the last month or so I've been ( not knowing) putting allot of pressure on him because we haven't spent very much time together. Ive also been talking to another boy I had history with( but was only friends with) and that was the breaking point for us. Ive always thought of him as my best friend first, it always seemed to make us stronger that way. A few days ago he said he needed time to think and space because he has a million things going on right now, like roles in two plays and applying for colleges. I freaked out at first begging him not to do this to me but we have been talking allot and agreed first to be best friends again. Well let me tell you its been a difficult few days trying to go back to friendship. So last night we both agreed to clear our heads and give each other some space and try things again. We both promised to work on ourselves and fix what we were lacking the first time around. Where do I go from here without smothering him?
Do you think its really over?
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The minute he saw me he said he was hooked. He tried so hard to be my friend and get to know me. This was 2 and a half years ago. At the time I still had another love interest and I wasn't completely sure of him. Soon after we became best friends we hungout all the time and he seemed to think id never date him so he got another girlfriend and stopped talking to me all together. 8 months later he saw me at work and emailed me the next day asking to see me and things just progressed from there.
We dated for a perfect year and 14 months.. he wanted to marry me and have kids with me and grow old with me and he said he's never been more sure of anything in his whole life. The last month wasn't so perfect. Our relationship got too serious to fast and we both didn't realize it at the time. He went home mad everyday because neither of us were putting in any effort anymore. Once we got out of the honey moon stage we forgot we needed effort to make things last. 4 days ago we broke up because I made him really mad and he claimed for the last 2 days he had to force himself to say he loved me. Feelings like that just don't die over night. I think with all the things he's doing right now, school, two huge roles in two different plays and a relationship that was stressful he needed a break to get his stuff together and we would stay best friends then he said we could try again. Well the next day he said he'd been thinking and he doesn't love me anymore and he doesn't think he can get those feelings back.
But he still talks to me like nothing every happened, were taking pictures together at prom(because he's too busy to go) we hangout, still together on the bus, share a locker and sometimes eat lunch together.
And everyone says its written all over his face he loves me to death, and I still think he looks at me the same way and he brought my books for me all the way to the caffeteria when he knew I didn't have class...
Do you think he's just having a VERY early life crisis and he freaked out?
Please help me because I need him
Can I get the love of my life back?
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We were best friends but deep down he always wanted to be with me.
We were friends for quite a while, but when he first kissed me I drunkly said it didn't mean anything and he over heard it and we stopped talking for a while.(needless to say, he's sensitive)
He dated another girl right after that to try and get over me and it lasted a little less than 6 months. We didn't talk for 8, but we ran into each other and he asked me to hangout.
So we did and we became best friends again and on nov 7, 2008 he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes :)
We were always looked at as the perfect couple, always cute to one another and only argued once or twice through out our 15 month relationship.
He had been busy for the last few months of our relationship which sucked for me of course but I dealt with it.
Well I hung out with a boy I had history with(but it was very much over) and we talked quite a bit because my boyfriend was busy and I understood but still needed someone to talk to, so I confided in him.
One night my boyfriend my sister and her boy friend all drank together at my house and the boy I had history with asked if I would come outside and talk to him, so I asked my boyfriend and he said he was fine with it. So I went.
Well little did I know my boyfriend felt like I was choosing the other guy over him, and then next day he broke up with me.
He said he wasn't planning on doing it and he was just going to let it go but the more I bugged and asked what was wrong the more it hurt him.
Its been 2 and a half months and were best friends. We hangout, talk about important things, still hook up(which I know is stupid) and all that stuff. Its like a relationship without the label.
He's also asked me to live with him and called me beautiful a few times(which I know from experience only comes out of a boys mouth when they like you, otherwise you hear sexy or hot)
And when we hook up, he stays the whole night and cuddles with me..
But for the last week or so he's been really distant and I feel like maybe he's freaking out a little about this whole thing.
I have a gut feeling that it isn't over between us and I know he truly loved me and you can't just shut that off. I really hurt him and want to fix everything without further pushing him away.
Can someone please tell them what to do because I'd do anything for this boy. He's my whole world
