Hey, just needed some advice on where to go next..
My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. We initially decided that it would be a good idea to just meet up , get to no each other like Dating rather than in a relationship so when he said ' I told my mum we were going out ' I was kind of shocked but happy, so I said to him 'are you asking for a relationship?' he said 'yes' so that's how it went.. things were great for about 2 months however now every time I would go to kiss or cuddle him now he would turn his head away, he's showing no real relationship type affection and it's hurting me more and more to the point where I asked him if I was irritating him via Text.
I got 2 replys to that message, the first was
'im just afraid of getting too close, I see all the signs n I don't want you nor I to get hurt baby :) x x x x x x x '
the wnd message was
'i mean you saying that you miss me nall kind of freak's me out a wee bit just yano :) x x x x x x x '
However, what I don't understand at all was he was the one who decided to take the relationship from dating to serious. He was also the one who told me he 'Misd' me 1st...
even though this 2nd message hurt , I decided to reply anyway stating what I have just said above, that he stated he missed me 1st and he also asked for the serious relationship. I got a reply saying :
'Thats what I'm like, I'm a mess hun. I just get cold feet babe because I'm hot den I'm cold , I'm up then I'm down :) I'm a gemini '
I explain in the next message that 'Gemini's confuse me, what does the gemini I'm talking to want'
he asks me to ring him about 15 minutes later so I call and ask what he needs and he says ' it doesn't matter, you go on to bed and ill see you tomorrow , I forgot you had work' this was at 1.30am
Today, haven't heard one thing from him.. not one . I don't no what to do?
if I stay with him how do we get through this problem , what do I need to say ? And if you guys think it'd be better to get up and leave how do I get tell him this.. I want to explain why I'd be doing it but I just can't get the right wording also I would want to say it to his face and I don't have a clue on how I'm even going to ask for that without 'freaking him out ' abit.
Im not a pushy person, if he doesn't want to be with me then fair enough that's his decision, it will hurt however there's no point in the relationship dragging on and me getting hurt more...
What do you guys think?