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Send her a message on whatever site you are on asking her if she would like to chat sometime. Wait for the reply. If she says yes, then find out how she would like to chat. Online messenger, phone, email, etc...

If she doesn't reply at all then you have your answer.

Hi, smdk!

Have you already spent time, in person with this girl, and why do you think that you don't have a way to communicate with her, please?

Thanks!

Yes I have spent time with her but that was a few years ago now she has a new set of friends as I said she has moved to some other part of town I cannot hve any way to talk to her...

Hi again, smdk!

Does she have a phone?

Thanks!

I asked her phone number she said no can't give you... I asked why she doesn't come online often she said its boring... now what do I do...

Secondly the website is Facebook.

Make new friends and move on.
Leave this be as she seems to make it clear that she doesn't want to stay in touch. .

If she doesn't want to give you her number, the word is aggravate, NOT communicate.

Find someone else who actually likes you.

Perhaps you are right...

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i asked her phone number she said no can't give you...i asked why she doesnt come online often she said its boring...now what do i do...

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You got rejected twice already. Do you really need a third rejection from the same person?

Make new friends. Find someone else who will feel the same way about you.

Guess you are right...

Rejection sucks, but remember, there are over 6 billion other people in this world. I'm sure you'll find someone who will feel the same way about you. Just keep meeting new people. You don't need to rush into a relationship until you found a good match.

Yes but I never really told her I like her...

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i asked her phone number she said no can't give you...i asked why she doesnt come online often she said its boring...now what do i do...

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Is this not enough of a rejection? Do you need her to come out and flat out tell you that she doesn't want to get to know you better?

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yes but i never really told her i like her...

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How much more rejection can you take? She won't even give you're her phone number. Do you really need to tell her that you have feelings for her too?

Actually let me tell you our complete conversation... I first asked her number she didn't reply so I told her "atleast say no" well she's said no I asked when she usually comes online she said she usually doesn't come online I said why don't you come online do your parents not allow she said no she gets bored... thats it now please tell me what I did wrong...

You didn't do anything wrong. She's just not interested in getting to know you better. It happens.

That's why we said to find someone else who's willing to spend time to get to know you better.

These things happen naturally. You can't force her to talk to you. It's her choice.

Yeah I guess...

Hi again, smdk!

I've asked lots of women out and have been rejected many times.

It happens... It's just a part of life when someone takes the risk of trying to get to know someone.

A person can try, but a person can't be friends with everyone.

Sometimes, that's a really hard lesson to learn.

Thanks!

OK I talked to her online today it seemed that she didn't even remember me... she was talking to me as though she was talking to a net friend... hmm she doesn't remember me maybe that's why she didn't give me her number before... so now what?

Threads merged

There is a girl I love but I know that I can never be with her now I am trying to forget her but I just can't get her out of my head... what do I do?

You move on.

You pick up some hobbies, do some volunteering. Focus on school, or work whatever might keep you busy.

How do you know you love this girl. Have you ever dated? If not then your not really in love. You say you can never be with her? She not like you the same way?

Lots of questions you need to answer.

We never dated but we were in the same school... I say I can't be with her because she moved far away from me and got many new friends in short she forgot that I exist... I don't think she even cares that I exist... I want to forget but am unable as a hobby I use FB but she is there so I constantly get reminded of her about school work I am in colege and scored 76% so I do pay attention to college work meet my friends daily in college and on FB...

Get a hobby other than Facebook-take up a sport if you're not already doing that.
Actively work to get over her.

Oh well I play cricket and videogames but every day I see her profile on FB and am reminded of her... wait I will delete her from my friendlist maybe that will help...

Good thinking,delete her then you won't have to be reminded of her.

Ugh I can't get myself to do that... trust me I tried :(

So long as you don't delete her the constant reminder will be there and it'll slow down your getting over her.

Yeah I guess...

But... how do I get her to remove ME from her friendlist?

Can't you block her?

I can but I don't have the heart to :) :(

It is,of course, up to you, but how long do you want to remain stuck in limbo,when you could move on?

If you remove her from your FB friends list, you're automatically removed from her list. But the question is, are you willing to remove her from your list?

I know that you're not ready to let go of your feelings for her. You still have some false hope. You still believe that you have a chance.

So take whatever time you need to realize that it's time to move on. Once you're ready to move on, follow the no contact rules to help you recover: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...qs-332732.html

Fight the urges to break the rules: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...es-351302.html

Well I still had hope so I occasionaly messaged her on Facebook and she started coming online every day we talked to each other every day on Facebook now I told a good friend of mine about all this... that was my big mistake because he went and told her everything I tried to explain her that he was joking but she won't listen(probably because he kept on messaging her) now the problem is she has blocked me on FB.but I still want to be friends with her what do I do?we have a common friend who knows everything... how do I become friends with her again?

At some point you have to walk away, and leave her alone. Not just for you, but after following this thread, and merging so many about the same thing, its getting obvious your going no where with her, and really do need to turn your attention to something else, at least for a good while. That's to let you have time to put this behind you, and stop this obsessive behavior directed at one person. You can always revisit this issue in a few months, and see where your at, but your stuck now, and need to get UNSTUCK.

I mean you have already spent more than a month trying to be friends, and it has NOT worked at all.

Take a break from this mess. You can't force someone to like you, and when they don't respond back in kind, its time to quite altogether, or make it worse.

You have definitely made it worse.

Repspread Tal. I completely agree with Talaniman.
Take a very long break from a mess that's going nowhere.

OK I guess...

We need to be realistic in life and this just isn't going to happen. Best move on and meet somebody else.

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We need to be realistic in life and this just isnt going to happen. Best move on and meet somebody else.

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Now, you're getting the "picture". Sometimes lessons are just really hard to learn...

Thanks!

OK but what do I do about my friend my friend didn't really mean to help me he was just playing a prank doing mischief.