Break up a serious relationship over porn
First of all, I'm not againts porn, I do watch it too. My boyfriend does it also. Problem for me is when he watches it right next to me, in my own bed, while I'm asleep. I've seen a dozen of times porn sites, and clips of sexy dressed women, in my computer browsing history. I've confronted him once I woke up in the middle of the night and he was on his side of a bed with a bunch of porn going on. I've told him I do not want him to watch it while he's with me in my bed. He can watch it at his place when I'm not there. Otherwise we'll watch it together. He became defensive but promised it won't happened again and he'll reduce the amout of watching it.
Since the trust was already low in our relationship, thanks to his mistakes, I needed him not to break this promise. Just today, right after he woke me up to have sex, and we had it, I found out he watched it again. I confronted him again and he said it was just a few sites, no biggy. I've told him it's about the trust and all, and he just said I'm overreacting. He could've deleted the history but he didn't want to hide it from me. He said he didn't actually watched it, he just crossed over them in a few minutes.
I'm sick of this. We've been together for 2 years and he still does the things that he knows they annoy me. Is this a valid reason for a breakup? And should I do it, even though I love him and he says he's trying and is sorry.
Help please. Is he an addict? He says we have a great sex and there's no lack of it.
My boyfriend complains about the way I look
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First of all, I'm pretty, there's nothing bad or wrong about the way I look, dress, do my hair or whatever. I used to be very self-confident until my boyfriend starting making coments about almost everything about my appearance.
It's not that I never wear dresses, skirts, high heels and so on, it's just that I dress like that on a night out, and during the day while I'm bussy, it's easier to wear jeans and shirts and little or no makeup (as I'm young and don't really need it). He wants me to wear sexy things all the time. Just today, he complained about the color of my nails!
No matter how much I try, he always says something like, oh your hair looked better on that picture. I mean, it's soooo annoying and he knows it. He can't help himself.
Could he be gay or something? I honestly doubt it, but clothes and make up is such a fetish for him that he tries my stuff on, he tired my bra! He has nothing againts me getting his nails done! Omg! He said if he was a woman he would wear and change in the pretty clothes all the time.
Even though I am good looking, I sometimes feel ugly or not good enough because he's never satisfied with me whatever I dress. He compliments me, and than says I could try this and that next time.
Help, I'm going nuts, and please don't laugh!
No sex due to trust issues
Long story short. He broke a promise, the one he's already broken. He just forgot about it. What's behind the promise is not important for now.
However I can't trust him after that. It's been two weeks without sex and it's the longest time in two years we hadn't have any. I just can't as I don't find him that attractive anymore. Left alone I do have a sex drive.
He told me he can't even masturbate anymore and he's always had a very high sex drive. Must be we're both feeling guilty.
Should we "force" love making? Maybe things'll get better like that. For the last half month it feels like we're friends and there's a distance between us. Any suggestions please?
No sex due to trust issues
Long story short. He broke a promise, the one he's already broken. He just forgot about it. What's behind the promise is not important for now.
However I can't trust him after that. It's been two weeks without sex and it's the longest time in two years we hadn't have any. I just can't as I don't find him that attractive anymore. Left alone I do have a sex drive.
He told me he can't even masturbate anymore and he's always had a very high sex drive. Must be we're both feeling guilty.
Should we "force" love making? Maybe things'll get better like that. For the last half month it feels like we're friends and there's a distance between us. Any suggestions please?
(I'm sorry I've posted this in a wrong topic before).
He doesn't understand I want a breakup
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Lately I've been having many issues with my boyfriend. Most of them turned out unresolved because of the lack of communication. I've always tried very hard to talk things out and he's never felt comfortable during it and always run away from me.
I've wanted to talk about why my trust in low in him and wanted to solve it and create a bond between us again, but he again didn't take it well, and just didn't want to talk about it. It made me cry for a second, but then I firmly decided I wanted a breakup. I tried everything but he wasn't opening up to me and I've just had enough. I've told him I didn't want to be with him anymore.
Afterwards I felt great, I felt reliefed and I was being happy we could still be friends, because we did get along great, but after all what he did, it's just killed all the love and romance in me, and I've just lost that feeling.
I've told him I didn't feel happy with him anymore, and I didn't know how to tell him that. I didn't know what I wanted. He told me he knew and saw it all in me so I didn't have to say anything. I went on how I wish I was strong enough to be on my own without him completely, meaning no friendship, no contact. He asked and I agreed that he had to be the one that's strong and just step away from me.
As we were talking I was sad because it was two years being together, but also very excited about the new page I'm finally turning. And glad we didn't ended it in a fight, or pronologing the breakup.
I confesed to him how I got drunk one night, which was a year ago, and how I was unhappy even back then because of something he did, which hurt me, and how I met s guy in a bar. How we talked and how I fell apart in front of him (I'm not making up excuses but drink was a big contributor to it), and how I told him everything about our problems. How he held my hand like a friend and I felt good to have a male company to listen to me, as I couldn't talk with my boyfriend. As I continued talking, my boyfriend thought I was going to say I've cheated on him. I did not of course! He's just missed the point of the story.
I don't know how it happened, but I've just eneded up having sex with my boyfriend after this talk and we're still together. He said he should let me go if I'm not happy to be happy with someone. But he is not letting me. Or is it me?
I'm totally confused and just want any kind of advice. It all happened just yesterday. Thank you.