Girlfriend wants a break.
So I'll start with the basics.
She's almost 19, I just turned 19 a bitago. We both have our associate degrees completed and she's finishing up her BA at a University. We've been together for basically three years. I sort of saw this happening. We talked yesterday and she told me she wanted a break for a few reasons.
1)Her mom was sort of a psycho and made a lot of things tough for her. She didn't really run her own life, so she wants to be independent and make her own decisions and support herself.
2)She told me she's 90 percent there completley in love with me and can see herself spending the rest of her life with me, but that I'm her first boyfriend ever and she just wants to maybe date just to experience it. She said once again how much she loved me, and that she knew she wouldn't find someone else as good, just wanted to date for the experience of doing it.
3)We're doing this break for three months, which is the end of the quarter. She wants to experience college life- hanging out with roommates, getting used to her schedule, going out on weekends, making male friends, maybe dating. She's not the type that would go binge drink or something and sleep around.
I get all of this and all of the reasons make sense. She sees two as the final step to getting her to fully committ to this relationship 100 percent. It sucks being her only boyfriend ever, but I understand wanting to date for a few months and meet other people to confirm her own feelings. Currently, we're still friends, we talked today, and next weekend, we're taking a weekend trip across the state for a bike ride we're doing and we're going to continue to be friends. We broke up a year ago so she could sort of see what it was like to date other guys, but lots of things happened in that time with her family and such so it didn't work out like that and we basically took a break for 5 or 6 months before we basically started going out again, so I sort of know what I'm getting myself in to. I've been in a few logner relationships, and this girl is definitely one I want to spend my life with. She's gone with me two years to Michigan to meet my family and I went all out this summer on fun things and romantic things. I guess I'm just trying to figure out what to do in the next few months until we sit down and talk in December. I got a job offer up by where she's going to school, so I moved out of my parents up here a week ago. Lastnight, I was devastated and wanting to get out, I drove 3hrs home only to not want to be there after 10 min and drove back. Now I've woken up and really don't want to be here. I'm in a tailspin trying to figure out what to do the next few days until I get an idea of what to do. We'll still be hanging out once or twice a week, just need to figure out what's good for me th enext few days. Sorry for the length and any typos, in a hurry, thanks!