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I don't know what to do, I don't really have many good friends, and I dated this girl for a year and six months, she was my first real girlfriend, and she wanted to marry me, and then she ended about 6 months ago, she is creeped out by me now, and I wish she wasn't, and she was the only person I can trust everything with, people tell me time will heal everything but is it this painfully?:(
You can't turn back the clock and you can't turn off the pain.
You can just keep moving forward and be the best person you know how to be. It's hard to imagine right now but she was your first real girlfriend, but she will not be your last.
Good luck to you and God bless.
Thanks man, it just so hard I still want to get back with her, but yeah it is true what u said, thank you, God bless man,Quote:
Originally Posted by Justwantfair
Time heals all wounds. 6months is not a long time. I'm on 5months and it still hurts for me. Its was your first relationship and you had high expectations and the feeling of disappointment is hard to deal with.
Are you still in contact? If you are cut it, this will help to heal your heart.
Many people feel like they want their ex's back, but the reality is the chances are low.
Some times we talk, but I have had other girlfriends, but like I said she was the first one to really care for me and I know their not that high chances to get back with her, I just have a small hope of grain,andthank u.Quote:
Originally Posted by MiSSsy111222
Aw man I'm in the same boat I just broke up with my first real girlfriend too. We planned to get married and all and she was my first everything, kiss, girl etc... its really hard man but I don't think you will ever forget about her because she was your first love. First loves are usually the hardest to forget and get over.
Its been a while now, I don't know from how I see it is that you still want to be with her. People might not agree with what I have to say but 6 months have been a long time. Have you ever brought up that possibility to her to reconnect recently? Tell her how you still feel about her? I don't know its up to you dewd. Do you think its time to move on? Sometime its for the best but I think you should let her know about your feelings or you might end up regretting it for the rest of your life. At least she knows how you feel about it and if she doesn't really care there is nothing more you can do.
No Contact is the best way to heal and eventually you ll start to feel you don't need her in your life anymore. How do you feel about her? Do you really believe your love for her is worth fighting for? If you do so, than I think you should fight for it and she might reconsider in the end but if she doesn't you will know at least you tried your best. Im still fighting for my first love but its really painful but in the end it will be worth it if we have our happy ending but if not all this pain would be for nothing but at least I know I won't live my life in regret. All I can say is that to follow your heart, you only have one chance to live man.
The more I think about it, I'm not sure about NC anymore or if I should fight for love but what people say about NC makes sense about how it heals you and saves you the pain. Yet I still do believe in fighting for someone till the very end. Im still confused man but here are some things to think about. Good Luck
That first relationship is a glorious event in our lives we never forget, but unfortunately, that first break up SUCK to high heaven, and hurts more than anything we have experienced.
Time does heal, be patient, and busy, with your young life.
Yeah I do believe for fighting for it, cause yeah she made me a better person, change me for the best, and I did the same for her, I do believe I should keep on trying but I'm going to keep on given her some time and hope for the best.Quote:
Originally Posted by none12345
Yah that is the best thing to do right now. Give her some space to think about things over but also notice that if you give her too much space she might forget about you but if she truly loves you than she won't.Quote:
Originally Posted by shypenguin
But yah it would be more helpful if you explained the situation more detailed to us because right now its pretty vague and we need to know more details to know what really is going on before we can say anything because every situation differs.
I'm still hurting also and its been a year now but we were together for 4yrs and something.im at a praying stage asking god to show me the way.I think you should do the same.
That what I've been doing, I have a close friend who tells me pray to God and he will tell you what to do,and she tells me to leave it alone and god will fix it, just let him do it, and I strongly belvie in my relgion so yeah I don't know what to do, I just pray for friendship in the end, I hope that will happan but doesn't look well right now,to many bad rumors got started,Quote:
Originally Posted by ibrown
Since you are a person of faith I would ask you to turn this over to God.Ask him to take this burden from you.
While your faith sustains you ,you must also take action to make your life complete.
Give to others,volunteer your time and you will be rewarded not only by the help you give but you will have less time to dwell on your personal suffering.
Many Blessings
That's the problem you have to not think about what's going on just give it all to him and let him do his thang... he might not come when you want him but he is always fixn things on time!
That true I'm going to sign up to help my commuty out, it always fun to help out people and I going to Let God help them hopefuly he will help,Quote:
Originally Posted by artlady
That is true one of my close friends who talks to her say it just needs a long time to heal. That it is still fixable, which made me happy hahaQuote:
Originally Posted by ibrown
That's a good sign... your friend must know something you don't... Good luck... IM STILL TRYING TO GET OVA MY DUDE BUT ITS HARD CAUSE ME AND HIS FAMILY IS CLOSE ME AND HIS MOM TALK EVERYDAY.
I wish you the best of luck and yeah, but I understand why she is upset at me, my fault when she broke up with me I trusted the mom with a thing I asked for a picture of her father and her, since her father passed away when she was very young I always got her prayers and nice things to put for her father that she always loved, but the mom told her which I thought I could trust her cause I was very close to her family, but yeah my fault I'm going to have to wait for it to cool off, which it seems like it is starting to,Quote:
Originally Posted by ibrown
Yeah the time we had togathr was a bonuse in life and we were always togather even when we went throu hell, I would help her with her problems and she would help me with her problems,Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
You will see as you heal, and clear your mind, and soul, there will be many opportunities, and options, in your young life, and you will deal with them in a much more mature way, as you grow, and learn.
All us humans do, as they others have said. Everything happens in its due time.
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Been like 7 months since she broke up with me, haven't talk to each other in 5 months. I dated her for about a year and 6 monht, and dam it is so hard. I have tried everything, I've tried not thinking about her. It is just to dam hard, I don't know what to do, I would want to get back with her, but I know that won't happan, really did care for her with my heart, I don't know how to get her off my mind,
It's hard to forget about someone that means so much to you. Try and take up activities that you like doing to occupy your time. Go out with friends and have fun, don't talk about the situation though. Think of positive things, it will take time and you can't do it on your own. Spend time with your friends, it will help trust me.
Thank you,Quote:
Originally Posted by ConfusedandLost
No problem, this place is a great place to reach out for help. Just remember work on you, begin rebuilding yourself and all is well... she's not worrying or thinking of you as often as you are of her. You will emerge out of this a better person... time is on your side here.
Still miss her so much right now,Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
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first I would to say is this website has helped me out a lot. And I'm greatfull that people help everyone. I'm a catholic, a proud one to, just everysince last summer a lot of stuff has been going down hill for me, before my ex ened a year and six months reliship. My health wasn't very well during summer, I was always stress due to a summer class I was taking the only time I rember where I would feel peace was with my ex, in the moring I would take her to her driving lesson school, we would wake up early I would take her for breakfeast, everymoring, we would laugh and hug, then I would drop her off at the school, then I would head to my class, for about four hours everyday, I would pick her up at 12pm we would go get lunch sometimes with her mother, still have agood laught huge, and she would run towards me and say I'm glad God gave me a boyfriend like you and one I would want to marry. Many of our peers thought we would get married. We rarely fought if we did we would tell each other sorry and we would see if we could fix it, we would usely. But then I started having very bad nightmares. Of her been tourted and my sister as well, it seem so real sometimes, I would only get about 30min of sleep for about 2 or 3 months, I never told her cause I didn't want to worrie her and mess up her chance for college, she new something was wrong with me, but I didn't want to put a burden on her, since her grandfather was dieying at that time, may he RIP. I wish I could have been their for her more during that time, I would offer to take her food to the hospital, but I wasn't really myself now that I look back, I would have very bad days, like I would be grumpy, but I would tell her I was sory, that I was going throu somestuf, I was about to tell her about my knightmares, and some other problemds I was having, with my family that I had two close family friends about to die, I was under so much pressure that time, I didn't know what to do, and I didn't want to worry her, it was a mistake I made, then when she dump me I guess she thought I was stalking her, which I wasn't, I would bump into her at random, I didn't even know she was their, and she thoguht I was stalking her, I gave her space, but then my cpu went all weird, and sent her an email that made me look crazy a poem I was working on before we broke up. I was chaning it to make it look more as a friend thing, but them my cpu sent it to her on accendent. One day the mother called me and asked me if I was still datin her. I told her no, she ended it, the mother was shock, then she asked me if their was anything she could do that would help me, I asked her if I could get a pict of her my ex and the father, since her father passed away, I wanted to get her a crystal foto for her for xmas,I asked the mother not to tell my ex, but I guess she did. Then people started to spread talk that wasn't true, but my ex would still call me. Just to cheak up on me, she was worried once when she called, I really don't know what happan. Some one screwed me over, and now it has been around 7 months since the break up and we haven't really talk. I would want to talk to her but don't know what to do, I haven't really talk to anyone about this only mayb my two close friends and that is all. I would want peace between me and her, patty my ex is the one who holds all the cards it is up to her,
I need to vent some stuff out.
Well it has been ten months since the break up, and my ex started talking to me about two month out of the blue through myspace mail, I still love her,but I don't know if she loves me or cares for me, and we are talking in secret, that sort of gives me a little fear, cause I don't know how to ask her, why we are talking in secret, and how to tell her I still lover we dated for a year and 5 months, and we have been talking everyday through myspace mail. Can any one give any tips? Please and thank you. I've been praying for ten months for something good to happen between me and her.
Not to rain on your parade, but I wouldn't get my hopes up too much. I don't know why the sudden interest in talking to you again via myspace mail but I don't think it's because she wants to get back with you ; otherwise she wouldn't be doing it in secret and she'd want to see you face-to-face. 10 months is a long time to hope for something that's probably not going to happen. I say time to move on with your life.
10 months... man that is brutal. My advice would be to quit wasting time on Myspace and get out there and enjoy life.
I agree with the others, 10 months is a long time. Personally it sounds like she needs a back-up. That'd be you bud.
Cut to the chase with her. Next time you talk suggest going out getting lunch, dinner, or whatever as in a date. DO NOT say date just ask her out and see what she does. If she he-haws around you have your answer... NOT INTERESTED. If that's the case save your dignity and move on.
Thank you
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