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  • Jul 27, 2009, 02:06 PM
    Broken2001
    How am I going to get a girlfriend if I can't drive a car?
    How am I going to get a girlfriend if I can't drive a car? I can't pass the test to get my permit anyway and my Doctor says I can't drive due to poor Judgment so How am I going to get a girlfriend?
  • Jul 27, 2009, 02:12 PM
    Justwantfair
    Sounds like you have bigger issues then getting a girlfriend...

    Can you elaborate on why a Doctor would tell you your poor judgement is going to keep you from getting a license?

    How old are you?

    Have you taken Driver's Education? I don't recall a test to get your permit, but if there was one, it was prepared for in Driver's Education. Where do you live?
  • Jul 27, 2009, 02:58 PM
    liz28

    If a girl doesn't want to be bother with you because you don't have a car then guess what? You don't need her.

    You must have did some stupid stuff for a doctor to tell you what he told you.

    Also, Justwantfair in New York you have to take a written test to get your permit. Then once you get your permit you have to enroll in a 5 hour class(5 hours about driving safe). Then you can schedule a road test or go to a driving school if you need to. At least that is the way it is in the City.
  • Jul 27, 2009, 03:02 PM
    J_9
    Broken, how old are you?

    Justy, here in Tenn the kiddos take a computerized test to get their permit, they drive for a year then take the road test for their license. Drivers Ed is offered here, but not through the schools like it used to be, and is extremely expensive.
  • Jul 27, 2009, 03:32 PM
    Alty

    Same here, computerized test, then at least one year of supervised driving.

    Drivers ed isn't a necessity but your insurance premium will be lower if you take the course.

    I'm confused about the diagnosis your doctor gave you. How does someone test for poor judgement?
  • Jul 27, 2009, 03:38 PM
    s_cianci
    What kind of "poor judgment" is your doctor referring to? And why can't you pass the test for your permit? But, all of that aside, you'll just have to have your girlfriend do all the driving in her car lol! But seriously, no girl who's worth the time of day from you is going to care whether you have a driver's license. You can attract plenty of women, even without a driver's license.
  • Jul 27, 2009, 03:51 PM
    Silverfoxkit

    You sound like you are probably young, permit age is generally 15 - 16, at least around here, so I'll let you in on a little hint.

    The stuff you see on T.V. shows, where all high school girls think driving is sexy and a man that can drive is so much hotter, it's just T.V.

    For most girls it really doesn't matter that much and like Liz said if the girl does only care about a car then why even bother?
  • Jul 27, 2009, 07:00 PM
    Broken2001
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by s_cianci View Post
    What kind of "poor judgment" is your doctor referring to? And why can't you pass the test for your permit? But, all of that aside, you'll just have to have your girlfriend do all the driving in her car lol! But seriously, no girl who's worth the time of day from you is going to care whether or not you have a driver's license. You can attract plenty of women, even without a driver's license.

    Poor Judgment means I do not have the ability to make a Quick Decision poor Judgment also involves Distance negotiating while driving down one way streets with cars parked on both sides I might hit one of them I can't stay focused on Driving cause you can get easily distracted.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    Same here, computerized test, then at least one year of supervised driving.

    Drivers ed isn't a necessity but your insurance premium will be lower if you take the course.

    I'm confused about the diagnosis your doctor gave you. How does someone test for poor judgement?

    it's a Doctors objectivity they know if you may be able to drive a car or not.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Justwantfair View Post
    Sounds like you have bigger issues then getting a girlfriend...

    Can you elaborate on why a Doctor would tell you your poor judgement is going to keep you from getting a license?

    How old are you?

    Have you taken Driver's Education? I don't recall a test to get your permit, but if there was one, it was prepared for in Driver's Education. Where do you live?

    I have mild mental retardation does this answer your Question?
  • Jul 27, 2009, 07:47 PM
    KISS

    I'm not sure that mild mental retardation is your problem cause it sure doesn't show in your posts, but what do I know.

    Other skills can be lacking like co-ordination.

    My suggestion. Video games, pure and simple. Just don't give up. A little each day.
  • Jul 27, 2009, 07:52 PM
    N0help4u

    Are you out in the rural areas and have no other way to get around?
    Isn't there anything you can get involved with like social groups or hobbies where you could meet girls.
    Not all girls need a guy that have a car. Some girls will even be willing to drive you.

    Hope you can come up with something to help your situation
  • Jul 27, 2009, 07:57 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Same way kids dated long before cars, or find a girlfriend with a car.
  • Jul 27, 2009, 08:19 PM
    0EntitY

    First of all I would ask for a rational doctor and next I would have someone tutor me on the driving test. Who told you that you have to agree with the doctor? You are you, an individual, and can observe and decide things for yourself. You can make friends who have a car and double date. I would never go out with a girl that thought I had to have a car to date her. Find a girl who likes you for being you and could care less if you do not own a car...
  • Jul 27, 2009, 11:51 PM
    jenniepepsi

    My husband has moderate mental retardation(the non-specific type. No specific disorder or dysfunction)

    He has never gotten a license. And due to poor judgement and bad 'quick decision' skills, he probably would also not be able to get a license (though he has never tried, nor does he want to)

    And he managed to catch me ;)

    Driving is not everything. If a woman won't date you because you can't drive, you are better off without her, and she is not worth your time.

    Also, remmeber, the chances of you finding a life partner at this time in your life are slim. Focus on having fun and being a kid. The love and romance can wait till later ;)

    And remember, I totally did not mind picking my husband up in my car when he was my boyfriend. And when you find that right special girl, she won't mind either :)
  • Jul 28, 2009, 11:21 AM
    Broken2001
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Justwantfair View Post
    Sounds like you have bigger issues then getting a girlfriend...

    Can you elaborate on why a Doctor would tell you your poor judgement is going to keep you from getting a license?

    How old are you?

    Have you taken Driver's Education? I don't recall a test to get your permit, but if there was one, it was prepared for in Driver's Education. Where do you live?

    he's worried that I'll get into an Accident or accidentally hit a parked car.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 11:23 AM
    Broken2001
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jenniepepsi View Post
    my husband has moderate mental retardation(the non-specific type. no specific disorder or dysfunction)

    he has never gotten a liscense. and due to poor judgement and bad 'quick decision' skills, he probably would also not be able to get a liscense (though he has never tried, nor does he want to)

    and he managed to catch me ;)

    driving is not everything. if a woman wont date you because you can't drive, you are better off without her, and she is not worth your time.

    also, remmeber, the chances of you finding a life partner at this time in your life are slim. focus on having fun and being a kid. the love and romance can wait till later ;)

    and remember, i totally did not mind picking my husband up in my car when he was my boyfriend. and when you find that right special girl, she wont mind either :)

    Right on that's why my Doctor won't let me have a license poor decision skills aka not quick enough to make a Decision Judging Distance and other things.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 11:25 AM
    Broken2001
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    Are you out in the rural areas and have no other way to get around?
    Isn't there anything you can get involved with like social groups or hobbies where you could meet girls.
    Not all girls need a guy that have a car. Some girls will even be willing to drive you.

    Hope you can come up with something to help your situation

    me too.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 11:26 AM
    Broken2001
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by KeepItSimpleStupid View Post
    I'm not sure that mild mental retardation is your problem cause it sure doesn't show in your posts, but what do I know.

    Other skills can be lacking like co-ordination.

    My suggestion. Video games, pure and simple. Just don't give up. A little each day.

    it's so mild that if you talked to me in person you wouldn't even notice it.
  • Jul 28, 2009, 11:28 AM
    J_9
    Broken, how old are you?
  • Jul 29, 2009, 04:46 PM
    Broken2001
    I'm shy when it comes to introducing myself to the female hot Russian lifeguard
    I'm shy when it comes to introducing myself to the female hot Russian lifeguard what should I do what's your advice?
  • Jul 29, 2009, 06:17 PM
    friend4u178

    A little bit more information would be helpful!
  • Jul 30, 2009, 06:29 AM
    jmw0713

    Don't over think the conversation. Go up to her with NO expectations. Talk with her and look at her as a possible friend instead of a possible GF.

    Be confident.

    That's about it. Let your fear and anxiety work for you, not against you.
  • Jul 30, 2009, 06:30 AM
    Chey5782
    That was the most eye catching title ever. Please tell me it's for a book and tell me where I can go buy it. /drool. I'd be shy too if I saw a chick described like that. And I am a GIRL. Hahahaha
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:37 AM
    slapshot_oi

    Clearly, you've never seen "The Sandlot".

    Pay close attention to Squints in that film, it'll show you what you need to do.
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:52 AM
    excon
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Broken2001 View Post
    what should I do what's your advice?

    Hello B:

    Jump in the water and start floundering around. The two of you will meet in the center of the pool. It's going to be romantic, too because she's going to hug you right off the bat.

    excon
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:10 PM
    Broken2001
    What kind of Candy should I buy a 19 year old female?
    What kind of Candy should I buy a 19 year old female? I bought this person bags of Candy did I make a mistake? Please answer ASAP
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:11 PM
    Alty

    What kind of candy did you buy?

    Why did you buy her candy?

    Does she like candy?

    What's her favorite candy?
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:11 PM
    danielnoahsmommy

    Why bags of candy? That's pretty odd! How old are you?
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:15 PM
    Broken2001
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    What kind of candy did you buy?

    Why did you buy her candy?

    Does she like candy?

    What's her favorite candy?

    Skittles wild berry, some Regular Skittles,reese's pieces. That's what I purchased for this person did I make a mistake?
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:17 PM
    danielnoahsmommy

    Why did you buy the candy! I'm sure she will like it! Just not romantic.. if that is what you were looking for!
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:18 PM
    Broken2001
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by danielnoahsmommy View Post
    why bags of candy? thats pretty odd! how old are you?

    I'm 19 and she is 19 let me guess I made a mistake?
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:21 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Well if you are buddies and they wre hungry, fine

    If they are a girl you like and you wanted to impress them, Not unless you are 12
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:21 PM
    Broken2001
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by danielnoahsmommy View Post
    why did you buy the candy! I'm sure she will like it! just not romantic..if that is what you were looking for!

    oh thanks I feel worse than before. Just great
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:22 PM
    danielnoahsmommy

    So it wa supposed to be romantic? No not a mistake. She will take it as a sweet gesture! Never a mistake, you just may not get the reaction you are looking for. Add some flowers, don't have to buy you can pick your own! That would be very nice. You can put the candy in a nice gift bag!
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:29 PM
    Broken2001
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by danielnoahsmommy View Post
    so it wa supposed to be romantic? No not a mistake. she will take it as a sweet gesture! never a mistake, you just may not get the reaction you are looking for. add some flowers, don't have to buy you can pick your own! that would be very nice. you can put the candy in a nice gift bag!

    yes it was but in your opinion did I make a mistake?
  • Jul 30, 2009, 07:30 PM
    danielnoahsmommy

    Yep!
  • Jul 30, 2009, 08:20 PM
    COCADA

    Well, I thin it as nice sweet detail, mostly if she told that is her favorite andy or something like that. Candy with a little letter or card would aheve ake itbeter, honestly if the guy I like gave me my favorite candy just because I would really like the gesture.
  • Jul 30, 2009, 08:27 PM
    N0help4u

    Well you can probably fix the mistake if it was suppose to be romantic and she likes you back buy a basket and a stuffed animal and fill the basket. Take the candy out of the bags and put them around the stuffed animal.
    If she is your girlfriend buy those valentine heart candies with the sayings. Maybe even include some scented voitive candles.
  • Jul 30, 2009, 09:24 PM
    eremesu

    You can't just go to the grocery and pick something up from the aisle. Try something like a giant swirly lollipop or gumballs, maybe get her foreign candy like that aerowaves or asian ginger gum(I assume they have that)
  • Jul 30, 2009, 09:32 PM
    Alty

    Romantic? No. Sweet? Yes.

    You know her better then we do. Will she like it?

    Is she materialistic? Does she expect guys to spend a lot of money on her?

    Personally, to me, it's the thought that counts.

    But it's really not romantic.

    Send me the candy, buy her a stuffed bear.

    Fixed. :)
  • Jul 31, 2009, 05:42 PM
    jakester
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Broken2001 View Post
    I'm shy when it comes to introducing myself to the female hot Russian lifeguard what should I do what's your advice?

    Uhhh... who's "the" hot Russian lifeguard?

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