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  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:02 PM
    Herzdieb
    What does it mean when a man says this?
    What does it mean when a man tells a woman he greatly appreciates her company? A guy I like said this to me and I'm hoping that maybe he likes me?
  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:07 PM
    jjwoodhull
    It sounds like he likes you
  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:07 PM
    Torrid13

    He might like you, but I'm really not sure. I've never had a man tell that he "greatly appreciates" my company before.

    Sorry I couldn't be of more help. :S
  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:18 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jjwoodhull View Post
    It sounds like he likes you

    Really? That would be super...




    Torrid, I've never had a guy tell me that either... so I thought I would ask. I didn't know if that term was just used for friends or people they like!
  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:30 PM
    snow124
    Sounds pretty formal. I think it depends entirely on what he's like and how he talks. You could just ask him.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:33 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by snow124 View Post
    sounds pretty formal. i think it depends entirely on what he's like and how he talks. you could just ask him.


    He's a good ol southern boy. Haha.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:34 PM
    jenniepepsi

    Sounds like he greatly apreciates your company ;)


    Ask him :) ask him what his feelings are you know?
  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:35 PM
    makapuu

    I think he likes you as a companion. In other words, it sounds like he doesn't mind that you keep him company. If he begins asking you to spend more time with him, then maybe it would mean he likes you.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:40 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jenniepepsi View Post
    sounds like he greatly apreciates your company ;)


    ask him :) ask him what his feelings are you know?



    I've never asked a guy something like that before... is it the same as asking them out?
  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:41 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by makapuu View Post
    I think he likes you as a companion. In other words, it sounds like he doesn't mind that you keep him company. If he begins asking you to spend more time with him, then maybe it would mean he likes you.

    A companion like... just a friend? Well... at least he doesn't mind me being around then, I guess!
  • Jul 10, 2009, 09:42 PM
    jenniepepsi

    no. its not the same. Basically you would say 'so.. do you like me? More than a friend?" and see what his reaction is.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:01 PM
    Survivor07

    Wow... I dated a good ole southern boy, too. He used to always say just about the same thing. "I really enjoy your company". At the time we were just getting to know each other on a "friend" level. I'd say he means just that. He enjoys your company and is glad you spend time/talk with each other. Time will tell. Best wishes.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:04 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jenniepepsi View Post
    no. its not the same. basically you woudl say 'so..do you like me? more than a friend?" and see what his reaction is.

    Ooooh okay I get it. And if he says no?
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:06 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Survivor07 View Post
    Wow...I dated a good ole southern boy, too. He used to always say just about the exact same thing. "I really enjoy your company". At the time we were just getting to know each other on a "friend" level. I'd say he means just that. He enjoys your company and is glad you spend time/talk with each other. Time will tell. Best wishes.

    So do you believe it's a positive thing? Like, that he is on his way to liking me, too?
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:10 PM
    Survivor07
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Herzdieb View Post
    so do you believe its a positive thing? like, that he is on his way to liking me, too?

    It certainly isn't negative, if he's being sincere. If you are interested in more than a friendship, there's nothing wrong with you making the first move and asking him out. Then you'll know.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:14 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Survivor07 View Post
    It certainly isn't negative, if he's being sincere. If you are interested in more than a friendship, there's nothing wrong with you making the first move and asking him out. Then you'll know.

    Oh wow. That's honestly scary to me. I've never done that before. I don't even know how.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:16 PM
    jenniepepsi
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Herzdieb View Post
    oh wow. thats honestly scary to me. ive never done that before. i dont even know how.

    If you are afraid to take the first step, then your only option is to wait it out and see if he makes the first move. Good luck hon.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:21 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jenniepepsi View Post
    if you are afraid to take the first step, then your only option is to wait it out and see if he makes the first move. good luck hon.

    It would be easier for me if I actually knew how. Sooo I say 'hey, do you like me?'
    'yes I do purty thang'
    'ok I like you too'
    'wanna go out?'

    Why do I feel like I messed that up. Haha.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:22 PM
    Survivor07
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Herzdieb View Post
    oh wow. thats honestly scary to me. ive never done that before. i dont even know how.

    If there's a place you like to visit or a restaurant you enjoy, you could ask him to "accompany" you. Something simple to get to know each other better.

    OR continue to keep him company and wait for him to ask you out. Flirting wouldn't hurt... Maybe he's scared, too.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:26 PM
    jenniepepsi
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Herzdieb View Post
    it would be easier for me if i actually knew how. sooo i say 'hey, do you like me?'
    'yes i do purty thang'
    'ok i like you too'
    'wanna go out?'

    why do i feel like i messed that up. haha.

    Lol. Inexperianced, yes, messed up, no :P

    Your still learning. Just take it slowly and take it as a learning experience. You would be amazed at how many guys find that inexperianced fumbling, stuttering, mumbling kind of question very sweet and endearing. Who knows, this guy might think its cute :D
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:27 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Survivor07 View Post
    If there's a place you like to visit or a restaurant you enjoy, you could ask him to "accompany" you. Something simple to get to know each other better.

    OR continue to keep him company and wait for him to ask you out. Flirting wouldn't hurt...Maybe he's scared, too.

    How did your good ol southern boy flirt with you? I've never really been around one enough to know how they flirt. :/
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:30 PM
    Survivor07

    Well, I'm guessing the southerners are not ALL the same... but mine would compliment me or find a way to touch my hand or arm.. he'd smile at me and look in my eyes when he talked. Very polite... you know, that southern charm.
  • Jul 10, 2009, 10:40 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Survivor07 View Post
    Well, I'm guessing the southerners are not ALL the same...but mine would compliment me or find a way to touch my hand or arm..he'd smile at me and look in my eyes when he talked. Very polite...you know, that southern charm.

    Oooh this guy does that too! He likes touching my hair a lot. I feel better after reading this. At least I know I'm not hallucinating and imagining his flirting with me! It gives me more confidence, too. But do southern boys like chasing or being asked out?
  • Jul 10, 2009, 11:45 PM
    IRISHSAINT26

    He likes you love
    Unless you own a company that he appreciates
  • Jul 11, 2009, 06:33 AM
    Survivor07
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Herzdieb View Post
    oooh this guy does that too! he likes touching my hair a lot. i feel better after reading this. at least i know im not hallucinating and imagining his flirting with me! it gives me more confidence, too. but do southern boys like chasing or being asked out?

    I don't think it matters what part of the country he's from, he would probably feel flattered if you asked him out. Some say men enjoy the chase... but who knows. I'd say go with honesty, don't play cat and mouse games. Leave subtle hints that you like him and let things happen naturally... OR like I said, just ask him. No harm done if he says no and you gain some experience. My bet is it won't be too long that he asks you. Sounds like he is interested. Enjoy
  • Jul 11, 2009, 07:02 AM
    s_cianci
    When a guy says something like that to a girl, it usually means he likes her.
  • Jul 11, 2009, 08:30 AM
    liz28

    Since the two of you like each other but nobody is making the first move then it is time for you to make it before someone else does.

    Simply ask him out some where fun like bowling, miniature golf, rollerskating etc. Some where the two of you can talk but have fun at same time.
  • Jul 11, 2009, 09:24 AM
    Herzdieb

    OK so we've been writing emails back and forth and he writes paragraphs normally. Well I wrote him one and I slipped in that I like him but kept the rest of it casual.

    But he only responded with one sentence. He was laughing about a joke I made. That was it.

    Did I blow it?
  • Jul 11, 2009, 09:32 AM
    jjwoodhull
    What exactly did you say? What did he say?
  • Jul 11, 2009, 09:32 AM
    Torrid13
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Herzdieb View Post
    ok so weve been writing emails back and forth and he writes paragraphs normally. well i wrote him one and i slipped in that i like him but kept the rest of it casual.

    but he only responded with one sentence. he was laughing about a joke i made. that was it.

    did i blow it?


    Hm. Maybe he doesn't know how to respond? I think just the fact he responded was a good thing: if he didn't like you at all, I think he would've left you hanging and never answered.

    And, he thinks you're funny. So, you've got that going for you.
  • Jul 11, 2009, 09:36 AM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jjwoodhull View Post
    What exactly did you say? What did he say?

    He told me that my name isn't wendy so he won't ever say anything in a angry tone to me. I said he was right and that the only wendy I might resemble is the one that sells the hamburgers. The one related to the fat guy.


    He said... lol... fat guy.


    :/

    I had also said... I hang out with you because I like you... and finished the sentence with normally.
  • Jul 11, 2009, 09:39 AM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Torrid13 View Post
    Hm. Maybe he doesn't know how to respond? I think just the fact he responded was a good thing: if he didn't like you at all, I think he would've left you hanging and never answered.

    And, he thinks you're funny. So, you've got that going for you.



    I feel stupid.
  • Jul 11, 2009, 09:39 AM
    talaniman

    He likes you say take it as a compliment, and see what happens. What's the hurry?
  • Jul 11, 2009, 09:46 AM
    N0help4u

    To me it sounds like he enjoys your company but I wouldn't read too much into it because he could mean anything from I'd like to get to know you better to just friends to maybe we could get a relationship going.
  • Jul 11, 2009, 07:41 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    He likes you say take it as a compliment, and see what happens. Whats the hurry??


    I don't know if he likes me that's why I'm asking to see if maybe its going in the right direction. No hurry I just want to know.
  • Jul 11, 2009, 07:42 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    To me it sounds like he enjoys your company but I wouldn't read too much into it because he could mean anything from I'd like to get to know you better to just friends to maybe we could get a relationship going.

    Your right...
  • Jul 11, 2009, 09:40 PM
    Torrid13
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Herzdieb View Post
    i feel stupid.

    Aw, Sweetie. Don't feel stupid. We've all been there. But don't feel stupid yet! He answered, right?

    Just because you feel stupid doesn't mean he's not interested in you! I agree with talaniman; just wait a little bit and see what happens. I know you want to know RIGHT NOW (I'm in the same position; I want to make sure a guy likes me, too!) but let's be patient, okay?

    If someone is telling you they greatly appreciate your company, I think you're getting somewhere! Especially if it's a guy! Just wait it out a little; you'll know soon enough! :)

    Good luck.
  • Jul 11, 2009, 09:51 PM
    kaseyatim

    Seems to me like he is trying to respect boundaries an take things slow but there is the possibility of a next level... kind of depends also did he enjoy your company talking at his desk at work or at the library all depends on the setting... good luck
  • Jul 11, 2009, 11:45 PM
    cleaninglady81

    Yes it mean he likes you and wants to spend more time with you
  • Jul 12, 2009, 06:48 PM
    Herzdieb
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by kaseyatim View Post
    seems to me like he is trying to respect boundaries an take things slow but there is the possibility of a next level ... kinda depends also did he enjoy your company talking at his desk at work or at the library all depends onthe setting ... good luck

    I don't mind taking things slow... slows good. Why does the setting matter? What's the difference between work or the library or the movies?

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