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How can u tell if the girl you are talking to is being totally truthful and faithful towards you about things going on in her life and if she's not what am I to do about it
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How can u tell if the girl you are talking to is being totally truthful and faithful towards you about things going on in her life and if she's not what am I to do about it
You have to be secure in your relationship and watch for many red flags before you determine she is cheating.
Too often relationships fail because the one accuses the other of cheating because of their own insecurities which can break up a relationship faster than anything.
Also you do not want to accuse because then they learn to hide their cheating better.
So just have trust but keep your eyes open.
If you're asking this question, you already have insecurity issues. You have no guarantee that she is completely honest and faithful, it's called trust.
Have her take a lie detector test... all of the gals I date must pass this first round of questioning before a dinner date is set.
Or, you could throw caution to the wind, be secure in who you are, and let the rest take care of itself (but that all sounds way too easy).
I think a better question is "how can u tell if the girl you are talking to isn't being totally truthful and faithful towards you about things going on in her life?"
You look for clues. If there aren't any, then you don't worry about it and just have fun getting to know each other. Are there reasons you think she might be lying or cheating?
If you started talking to a girl and something happened that she had to go away for a month but told u that she'll be back on this day and then that day comes and goes and you haven't heard from her in weeks what does it really mean is it over or what
Over? I am not sure anything even began did it?
So why do you think its over? The first time we talked, we were on the phone for hours on end, she was the first person that came out and said she see's a long relationship between the two of us. She shocked me by coming out first to say I love you. It was shocking to me to hear that.
Edited for chat speak, grammer and sentece structure................................this time.
One long phone call is not a relationship. Or am I that old?
I would be more worried that, after a simple phone conversation, a woman told me she loved me. I think you may have read a bit too much into this, and need to unattach yourself from whatever it is you classify this as.
So then what are my options and what should I do how do I get her to at least acknoledge me or tell me its over why are women always do things the way they do
Her actions pretty much do the talking... and by reading her actions you should see that there is NOTHING there, so go out, have fun and forget about her.
Move on hon. Don't waste your life wondering what could have been or what MIGHT have been
So you guys really think she'll never call me I really have wondered y its always the good guys that get hurt and always end up with the short end of the stick
What's are the signs that u know a girl is interested in you
Are we talking about girls that you know? Or girls that you just see somewhere?
Dr. Jizzle it's a girl I know
We need more info.
Is she a friend of yours?
How old are you?
What makes you think she may like you?
Have you asked her?
Eek... well, that can be difficult. The thing with girls that are also friends is that they tend to blur the lines between signs of friendship and the signs of romantic interest.
Do you two hang out often? Or at all? When you do, is it YOU arranging the hanging out? Or is it her?
When she is around you, do you feel that you have to work for her attention or is she naturally drawn toward you in or for a conversation?
When she looks at you, does she lock eyes with you? Or advert her gaze elsewhere?
Does she laugh at jokes you make? And when she does, does she touch you (slight brush on the shoulder/back if standing.. leg or knee if sitting)?
Does she ever refer to you as just her friend? If so, what kind of look does she have on her face when she does?
There can be so many and they can be so subtle... and they can be often misinterpreted. But if you start to learn the idiosyncrasies of women, it can be quite obvious...
You will waste a LOT of your life trying to "read" these creatures when you may not be equipped to do so... yet. So don't waste that time.
If you're interested in a girl, make it clear. Don't make her have to "interpret" you, let her know. Ask her out. Be specific, not creepy, invite her to something specific.
I think the #1 sign is when you ask her out and she says "yes". Can't get much clearer than that. And look, you didn't have to "interpret" anything. Win-win.Quote:
Originally Posted by Eng299
You don't know what she will do, neither do we. The message is don't get carried away by your feelings, no matter what a female says.
Whether you're a good guy, or not. The same goes for the good girls too.
I would like to know why my girlfriend is acting the way she is because she hasn't answered my text messages or phone calls in a week I would like to know from another females perspective why my girl is acting the way she is I talked to her the other day and she told me that she would call me soon but never called me since that day I talked to her so if another female could help me that would be great
How long have you been together and how old are you?
Chances are she wants to be left alone for a bit- I'm not too sure but I'm sensing you're a little clingy.
Sarah
A little more info would be helpful.
Ok first, I'm a guy and you are way too attached to this.
You told us nothing important other than her not calling you is annoying you and playing on your insecurities, and you are having a hard time coping with the situation. My advice relax, and just ask her what she's been up to next time to see her/ talk to her. Be casual about it though.
Maybe she is sick, or a family member died, or she lost her cell phone, grounded off the phone, is confused about how she feels about you, likes some one else (such but it's a possibility.), needs time from you, is just busy with other things, planning something for you to surprise you, doesn't want to be your GF any more, or any number of reasons. Take your pick.
None of us here, male or female, could give you an accurate idea of what she is on about that would be worth considering. We know nothing about her as an individual, in a public setting, on an intamite level, or other wise. How would any one know what she is up to, or thinking with out knowing her?
Sorry to say, but you will just have to wait it out, and talk to her when you can. Good luck, and try to relax. (If you say you can't then you are only fueling the fire that is making you seem so needy. If I were you I'd check that ASAP, and by Check I mean find out why, and dispel it. And no it's not because of her that you are needy, that my friend is deep with in.) Huh, almost poetic... na not reall.
Peace and kindness be with you.
P.S. The idea that other women will know her better then you is based on an assumption that women are all the same, or at least enough to tell you from very little info what your GF is thinking/doing. In Cognitive social theory this is called a Cognitive Defficency. Like having tunnel vision for yourthinking. Be careful with that, as it is most deffinatly deconstructive in any relationtship.
We've been together for about 6months now so sarah I should leave her alone but what I don't understand is why would she tell me that she misses me a lot and loves me if all she's doing is ignoring me
People need time for themselves and alone. Just chill out, go for a walk, or hang with your friends, play video games, this is your time to do what you want use it wisely! :p:D;):cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by Eng299
Well you've already tried calling her and texting her many times. If I had a boyfriend like that I'd have more reason to be ignoring the calls. Nestorian is right you need to keep yourself busy- your girlfriend is!Quote:
Originally Posted by Eng299
Why be the one waiting for her phone call all sad and worried? I bet she's smiling and having fun.
Sarah
How has she not answered your texts or calls in a week but you talked to her the other day?Quote:
Originally Posted by Eng299
Give her the space she needs... it's always good to keep yourself busy so you aren't always waiting on them. Sometimes being always available to the other person, catering to their needs, etc, can come off as unattractive after a while.
First we as men, must show that we are confident enough to handle life with or with out the woman of our so called dreams . They want their own freedoms and our abilities to show we can handle certain requests as men .
When we loose it at this point then they have power over us . Six months has not been that much of a life time commintment, even thoug it can feel as though it were 5 life times. Don't loose yourself bro . Maybe she didn't deserve what you had to offer her.
You don't have a relationship, and have allowed yourself to think you do. That's why your threads were merged, for the whole story to be seen.
Don't start any more about this girl, or they will be deleted. Questions still??? Ask them here.
I am very very confused, this whole thread merging thing is very helpful. 4-5 different threads about different problems.
I'm with you on that buddy this conversation is too hard to keep up with.Quote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
The times that I've been ignored by a girl I'm dating, it usually means there's someone else in the picture. She ignores you, so you ignore her.
Your be better off alone. Too many problems and confusion. If you can't sort them out then "how do you expect someone else to?"
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