Is there a chance of me getting back my girl?
I know this has probably been asked on this site 5000 times. My situation is a little different and I also just need someone to talk to. Being a 32-yr old dude makes it tough--I can't really talk to my guy friends.
C and I met about 17 months ago. I asked her out, we went out on a few dates. She had fun, but wasn't totally into me. Decided she wanted to be friends. We became better and better friends. My crush on her never faded. Then about 9 months ago, we went on a little weekend getaway and hooked up. We began to date more seriously. We became exclusive about 6 months ago. Spent a lot of time together and our lives became intertwined. We rarely fight, we always just have fun. But she told me last week that she thinks I am really more of a friend. That she doesn't think she is in love with me. That there is no chemistry.
I avoided talking to her all week. Finally texted her and saw her today. Its clear that is in a lot pain too. We were both holding each other and crying for about an hour. She said she is sad because its tough when we had so much to do, so many things in common. But that she thinks she is making the right decision. That she wants to move on.
My thought is that if she is that upset, maybe she really is in love with me but just doesn't know it. Don't you think? I think part of the reason she didn't quite feel the love is because I came on so strong and I was so in love with her. I didn't "play the game" I didn't let her chase me a little.
She wants to continue to be friends... but only after I give her a couple weeks to adjust. Then she thinks we should do dinners and play Tennis (as we used to). She will call me weekly. And she will be happy to hear from me but she doesn't want me to call daily, as that will be too painful and it will prevent her from moving on (she said this).
What I would love to hear from you guys is this: Should I move on or hold on hope? It really does sound like she loves me. We always had fun together and we were a great couple. She told me that at times she just didn't feel like hanging out with me though. That's a bad sign. Perhaps a little time apart, some distance will make her realize that she is still in love with me?
Sorry for the loser message... I feel like a loser, but I am just so sad. I can barely control myself. I started taking anti-depressants. Paroxetene. I don't know how I became such a loser...