All right, let's face it. There are several threads on here about how to get over someone and the heartbreak you feel in the process. It seems that being single is not an ideal situation for anyone, and most, especially after a break up, are extremely afraid of the possibility of this. I would like to start a top ten list I have made of why it is AWESOME to be single, and why you should enjoy this while you can!

1. No complaining... my toilet seat is up at all times!

2. Watching sports. Believe it or not, I don't have to sit there an answer questions about what a freaking first down is!

3. No more expensive, and most often bad dinners.

4. If the 'Notebook 2' comes out, guess who doesn't have to see it? (ME)

5. No more waiting around while my ex sleeps until 12 or 1pm in the afternoon.

6. 'Sex and the City' is no longer my show of choice.

7. I can actually talk to any hot chick I want without feeling as if I am a pig.

8. I do not have to visit her side of the family, which treats me as if I am the devil.

9. No more expensive gifts for b-days, holidays and the such. Valentines day is OUT!!

10. No more watching the worthless kU Jayhawks play!!

I know it is not a question, but seriously, time to enjoy life for some of you guys and gals. What have you come to enjoy about being single? I know you can think of at least one thing you love now! Let it rip...

Good thread, I know when I was single I loved it. I took advantage of all my new found free time.

The free time is the best.

You don't have to "clear" your plans or "check-in" with anyone.

If you do something a little on the idiotic side, you don't have anyone else getting mad at you except maybe yourself or your family.

No awkward meetings with the parents and relatives...

No more picking up the bar tab at the end of the night for her AND sometimes her friends.

You get to meet NEW girls and make NEW friends with out feeling like a jerk (although hooking up with someone and feeling like a jerk after the fact occasionally happens... but, what if she took advantage of me?? LOL).

No talks about marriage or people coming up asking when you are getting married (I hated that) and feeling weird when you say that you're not getting married yet in front of her...

No more feeling like I'm walking on egg shells.

No more worrying about things I said and then apologizing over and over again and never hearing the end of it.

No more wondering why she is pissed at me when I didn't think I did anything wrong.

Umm, I know there is more.

Enjoy your time being single and HAVE FUN. Meet and date new girls or guys. When you are ready to settle back down again, then you have a choice to make with that new special someone. Practice safety and take the proper precautions with everything you do.

Awesome thread. =P Some of those didn't apply to me though but definetely a girl is such a money waster -__- I believe everyone agrees with that especially valentines day, birthday etc...

Kc, you can't have your toilet seat up all the time... you will fall in!

Very nice list. Thanks!

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No more feeling like I'm walking on egg shells.

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This is definitely unnecessary added stress. I definitely don't miss this one.

Not only do we have more free time, overall our mind is freed up a lot. So many less things to worry about and I agree, we definitely have more money at our disposal. We definitely could use the extra cash in this economy!

This is a great post!

1. My time belongs only to me.

2. Also my money!

3. I get the opportunity to start all over. Not just relationship-wise.

4. I get to go out and meet new women while not looking for commitment. It's fun.

5. No more staying in on Fri/Sat nights because of my ex's anxiety disorder.

6. No more psychiatrist visits with the ex.

7. Most important of all: Life has just become a whole lot more interesting!

After being in a relationship for so long, I almost pity all the people who are stuck in relationships, whether happy or not. Hahaha. Just kidding. But not really. ;)

The number one reason to be single...

The ability to flirt and play with ANYONE without the guilt of being in a relationship and feeling like you have betrayed someone.

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The number one reason to be single...

The ability to flirt and play with ANYONE without the guilt of being in a relationship and feeling like you have betrayed someone.

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That never really bothered me, it's the times I broke plans with the ex and spent my time friends who didn't like her that did.

No more TV wars.

What a refreshing thread. THANK YOU. Yes, there is life after a relationship!!

The best thing is I have the bed all to myself (and the closet)!

Total freedom without the check-ins.

You can make and change your plans without consulting anyone!

Great thread.
When single you also realise that you do not need to be in a relationship with somebody else to be happy!

You can do what you like, hang around with friends, do the things you want to do without feeling that constant pressure of having to be with someone. Freedom is great isn't it. :D

Great Thread KC!. Life is all about finding happiness within yourself... Once I am truly at that stage I believe only then would I be able to actually SHARE my life with someone else... and not make them my life!.
Single life is awesome.. you learn about yourself and you can do so many spontaneous things... like go on trips half way across the world, see things you would have never dreamt of and help people that are really in need... its all about self development :)

Forgot to mention... I can now watch "Family Guy" without being crucified. How can you not like that show?

Can we get some female perspective on the joys of being single? I'm not sure, but most of the comments seemed to be from a guy's perspective. I really need a girl to put some Joys of Being Single. :)

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Can we get some female perspective on the joys of being single? I'm not sure, but most of the comments seemed to be from a guy's perspective. I really need a girl to put some Joys of Being Single. :)

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Feel free to add to this... I know I was kind of throwing the ex under the bus, but I also am a realist... there are things she probably LOVES now that she doesn't date me... :D

Personally, I love being single, but as a female, it's about the power to choose. Men have that too but it's so nice to not have any attachments.

No one to pick up after.

No mother to pretend to like/tolerate because she is the most important women in a man's life (most of the time.)

No feelings of jealousy and wondering what is he thinking?

The toilet seat is always down! ;)

No planning the dinner menu for the week.

No additional laundry.

I can stay in my pjs ALL weekend long, if I want to.

LOTS of free drinks when I go out. :D

Overall being single is empowering. You are answering to no one except yourself.

KC man I feel bad for you. You actually had to watch the jayhawks. I am glad you are out of that mess!!

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Can we get some female perspective on the joys of being single? I'm not sure, but most of the comments seemed to be from a guy's perspective. I really need a girl to put some Joys of Being Single. :)

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Here it is from a girl, my joys of being newly single after an 8 year relationship:

-No dirty underwear on the bedroom floor
-The bathroom stays clean
-I don't have to account for my whereabouts
-When I get a phone call from a male, I don't have to give a detailed explanation of how I know him and the context of our relationship
-More time for friends
-New first kisses

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Here it is from a girl, my joys of being newly single after an 8 year relationship:

-No dirty underwear on the bedroom floor
-The bathroom stays clean

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Wait a minute... you're a female and you keep the bathroom clean?? I have got to meet you!! ;)

Yes Justy- the toilet seat is always down!

I can date/flirt different with guys without worrying about being "caught".

I can sleep in whatever I want. Because NOBODY feels like wearing lingerie EVERY night!

I can skip a day shaving my legs.

I can have popcorn for dinner.

I can talk on the phone to my girlfriends without him assuming I'm talking about him.

No pretending that I like his friends.

No pretending that I care about his brother's big game.

Or pretending like his baby cousin is cute.

Or having to wear 4 inch heels on date nights

No having to be Betty friggin' Crocker.

Sometimes I like to shower alone; just get in, do the job, and get out.

No feeling like he's snooping looking for old cards or letters from exes. Which I don't keep. Which is why it's really annoying.

Aside from picking up my son from daycare, I don't have to come straight home or deal with being grilled as to "What took you so long today?"

I don't have to hear "What's wrong with you? Are you on your period?" just because I don't feel like talking. Guess what, sometimes us ladies want to come home, crack open a beer, and chill out without having to 'talk about our feelings'!

Whew. That was a lot. :o

I love the not being questioned about that time of the month! I absolutely can not stand the minute I have an opinion that is overly vocalized then it must be that time!! Why can't I just have an opinion.

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I love the not being questioned about that time of the month!! I absolutely can not stand the minute I have an opinion that is overly vocalized then it must be that time!! Why can't I just have an opinion.

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Must be that time of the month... :rolleyes:

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Must be that time of the month....:rolleyes:

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You have no idea... so watch your step, MISTER! :p

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Must be that time of the month....:rolleyes:

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Don't start nothing KC! :mad::p

Oh my gosh, I'm certainly not single and I love my husband more than anything but I can tell you the things I miss about being single.

When I was cleaning up the house I was only picking up after me, took 1/2 the time it takes me now

I didn't have toothpaste all over the mirror in the bathroom- I still don't know how he does that.

I didn't have dirty socks and clothes all over the floor and under the bed.

Dirty laundry was sorted by which load it was going into in the wash.

There weren't dirty dishes/glasses or pop cans all over the house.

I could do whatever I wanted for dinner, didn't have to ask anyone what he wanted for dinner

Just to name a few. I realize they're almost all based on him not picking up after himself. Lol

Thought of some more:

I can paint my bedroom pink if I want to. Hell, I can do whatever I want in decorating the whole house. (No more red-neck, tacky singing fish on the wall at Christmastime)

I can cook whatever I want for dinner or NOT cook at all.

Less dishes and laundry. (This may be reason enough to stay living alone forever)

The wet towels actually dry because they get hung back up!

No more "Where were you when I called?" UGH. I hated that.

I can Google anything I want without worrying he's going to overreact if he checks the history

I actually am in a relationship now. But I was married for 12 years!

(I replaced the singing fish on the wall with the divorce decree! )

Friend4U178: Yes, I really did. You're not too surprised I learned my husband wasn't quite the catch

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Friend4U178: Yes, I really did. You're not too surprised I learned my husband wasn't quite the catch

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LOL... maybe you were throwing out the wrong bait ;)

I guess I'm happier not having to worry where he is or what he's doing plus watching my step to see if I'll do something he won't like.

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I guess I'm happier not having to worry where he is or what he's doing plus watching my step to see if I'll do something he won't like.

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hellz yes. You got all the freedom now. Lol I'm doing nc too and sometimes its so hard but I got tons of free time now for myself and I can do anything I want. Sometimes freedom feels good for a change =P

I'll throw my hat in the ring on this one:

#1. Being able to take a shower while drinking a beer.

#2. Not having to Tivo the Cubs game because she wants to watch Lifetime.

#3. My thermostat stays on one setting... no more up and down.

#4. Not having to remember to take the "adult movie" out of the DVD player before she gets home.

#5. PORN!

#6. I can keep a keg in the refrigerator.

#7. Watching the Bears on Sunday while drinking beer and eating cheese out of a can.

#8. The phrase "today on Oprah" is no longer mentioned in my house.

#9. Potpourri, scented candles... you won't find them in my house.

#10. Boxers are now acceptable dinner attire.

I notice that most of the "joys" people have listed here are, strictly speaking, the joys of not living with a significant other, rather than joys associated with not having one at all.

I've felt for a long time that the ideal relationship/marriage arrangement would be separate living quarters in the same neighborhood. So many issues would simply disappear if all the tedious negotiations and compromises over things that don't really matter became unnecessary.

I feel like if we're going to come to loggerheads, we should at least do it over something more significant than the state of the toilet seat, or who is more inconvenienced by whose kitchen and laundry habits.


"Society is commonly too cheap. We meet at very short intervals, not having had time to acquire any new value for each other. We meet at meals three times a day and give each other a new taste of that old musty cheese that we are." --Thoreau

"And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cyprus grow not in each other's shadow." --Gibran

No more "one week" of hell every month... YOU KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT!!

I also can leave my television on the NFL Network 24 hours a day to stimulate my mind... no changing the freaking channel to watch the three dumbest blondes I have ever seen (Girls Next Door)

Okay here it goes:

To be able to pause and breathe at your own time and space

To remember who you are and what your values, morals and respect are and to stick to them

No more rushing around like a headless chicken getting a thousand things done for him

All the money I earn is mine and mine to spend and save for my future

To be able to go and book a holiday or a weekend get-a-way in a jiffy- and off I go!

To be able to play loud music at 6am in the morning when getting ready for work and to use your hairdryer without him groaning that you are apparently disturbing his sleep

Never to clean the bathroom mirror as there is no more toothpaste splattered about!

Nor pick up after his mess

To be able to walk, smile, chat and flirt with guys and not feel guilty

To plan your day, week as and when they come, without justifying your reasons

To go shopping and buy things for you that you like, rather than what he likes for you

To feel innovative about your future- what will it bring?

To re-address your goals and aspirations in life and to make a better future for you

To finally feel EMPOWERED! – Yes it does finally come…slowly but surely it is coming- oh dear- haha!

@KC: I liked watching Girls Next Door... for obvious reasons. Actually, I liked watching most of the shows the she watched, with the exception of the Lifetime channel. That channel makes all guys look like wife beating D-heads. No wonder, women never trust us...

America's Next Top model is also not one of my favorites. The women are nice to look at, but watching 9+ episodes in a row is a killer!

Her watching habits superseded mine 90% of the time, but I really didn't care. It gave us something to talk about, which was nice.

The only way I could watch Girls Next Door is if it was on mute. If I hear Kendra (sp?) laugh out loud one more time in my life, I will cut my ears off!

LOL!! Yeah, her laugh is REALLY annoying...

Today I just woke up at 1:30 pm without having to wake up at 9 am to keep her company -___- and I feel well rested and ready to start my day =P not tired and wanteing to sleep all day =P

Having to babysit her at a bar was always a HUGE drawback to going out with the ex...

Now I can just babysit myself!

My vote for the Number 1 reason...

No more fighting for the covers all night long. :D