My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years.he still has a picture of hi ex on his myspace page but not one of me.:mad:he thinks I shouldn't be mad.what can I do
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years.he still has a picture of hi ex on his myspace page but not one of me.:mad:he thinks I shouldn't be mad.what can I do
Communicate with him and explain why it bothers you.
Sounds like he has a problem letting go of the past, unless the picture is from a vacation and of something he likes(ie a mountain or monument)
You have been dating him for three years and he doesn't have one picture of the two of you together on his Myspace? Is that what you are saying?
I too thought that 3 years together would warrant a picture, especially if he has an ex girlfriend represented. Also, why doesthis bother you after 3 years? After acouple of months I'd be questioning it, let alone years.
I think it's rude on his part and insulting. If he cannot understand why this may upset you he is full of it, I think it's pretty evident to everyone why one would be upset.
Talk to him, or put an ex boyfriend up and remove him. Us guy eh! How dare they try to get away with something I've never been able to get away with!
Yes he finally took the picture off and put some of me on there,but he got really mad at me and told me to shut up and drop the subject.but now I wonder why it took him so long to do itQuote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
If I date someone for three years and they still don't have pics of me on their social networking site, I would start questioning their motives... just me.
This is the sole reason why I decided to share my myspace page with my fiancé, it saves these stupid fights.
Here's a fun fact for you guys. 63% of all relationships(24 and under) end because of something that originated on myspace.
While it is strange he kept a picture of them on there, you may have pushed his buttons by coming off the wrong way in approaching the issue. If someone comes at me hostile, I am going to strike back hostile.
On Facebook, my ex still has all pictures of us with captions like "That's my man... what a stud... blah blah blah". The instant we broke up I deleted every picture I had of her and blocked her for well over a year.
I don't see one of her current boyfriend and they've been dating for over a year. She has told me and her best friend whom I'm now roommates with, that she pretty much doesn't like her boyfriend. I know she's keeping him around because she's afraid to be alone.
You have every right to angry, it's disrespectful.
Slapshot, while I agree she has every right to be angry, perhaps the communication didn't go quite as well. She has gotten the pictures taken down, and now she doesn't want to drop the point. As a guy, I would be getting angry too. Maybe I'm wrong, but if I had just done something that I was asked to do and then was still getting questioned by it I would start getting ticked
I think she has a bigger point of being mad at why it took him 3 years to do this... maybe I am wrong, but clearly this should have been rectified a long time ago, and shouldn't have been an issue in what is now a long, emotional relationship that both parties have obviously devoted a lot too.
Kc, I agree. Why wasn't this issue solved before you two became an item? When my fiancé and I first met, and had separate myspaces, I wouldn't dare have a picture of my ex, and she didn't have one of her ex either. Neither one of us had a picture of our previous partners. When my ex and I broke up, that night I had the pictures down and in a bag. Done and Done!
Maybe he didn't notice. Okay, okay, I know, after 3 years he didn't notice? But really, some people don't spend a lot of time on MySpace, he may be one of them and just forgot that the picture was even there.
Either way, you got what you wanted by yelling at him. I have to agree with Rome on this one, if someone comes at me with fists flying, they're likely to get punched!
Communication is key, that doesn't include screaming at each other!
Alten, I agree.. I am seldom on my myspace account anymore. My fiancé uses it more to keep in touch with family(she's from California) and I go on every once in awhile to deal with new bands and stuff like that. I don't even know what pictures are up on there anymore
Afer 3 years, a guy shouldn't have to be asked to do things like that. That's just common sense respect, and caring. Those picture should have been changed a long time ago. No excuses.
Maybe thats a red flag to pay attention to. That, and his reaction.
Umm... 3 years and still no picture?? Im surprised you haven't said anything sooner.. or he hasn't changed it sooner. This is not good not good at all. He's sending a message that he is not serious about you.
Myspace and Facebook = JEALOUSY! It's amazing how upset these kind of sites make people. When me and my girlfriend split I took off the pictures of us and the first thing she said was why did you talk our pictures down? OK, so he had his ex up there and not you. Don't get jealous over it. It's a dumb website used to waste up time. After 3 years I'm sure he truly cares about you. Don't let something like this get to you so much. Forget the past and move on with the future.
I haven't mentioned it since he took it down.we have never yelled at each other either in 3 years.I just ask him 3 times in 2 months about it and he didn't do anything.he said he just didn't have time but every day he says he is bored when he gets off work.but hedidn't have time.we have 2 children together so when we talkwe do it quietly.the oldest child is 18 months she wouldn't understand butwe still don't yellQuote:
Originally Posted by Romefalls19
Well, OK the guy f****d up.
Is there any more indications in your relationship that he lacks respect for you?
Maybe it was as Alty said, just a slip of judgment.. or maybe, like me, he just really doesn't care that much about these sites!
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Originally Posted by neverme
He gets on his myspace page everyday.any time I say anything bad about his ex he gets mad.but I was married for 7 years and I don't care what he says about my ex husband.he says I just like to disagree with her about the kids they have together. But later he will say exactly what I said and disagree with her too.but I'm not allowed to say it.
Look, as I'm sure you know, all bets are off when your talking to someone about their kids.
It cannot be easy for him to deal with animosity between you and his ex. I don't doubt that it's easy for you either, don't misunderstand me.
I'm a bit torn to be honest. It sounds as though he is trying to pick fights really, how did the relationship with his ex end?
She cheated on him.when we fight about the kids its usually about picking them up or dropping them off and its when and however she wants it to be whatever is good for her.even if I have something to do or plannedQuote:
Originally Posted by neverme
Was she controlling when they were together?
Are you less controlling?
It may be that your man needs to controlled in a way.
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