My ex-girlfriend wants me to man-up. Wat should I do?
Me and my girlfriend were together for 7 months and she broke up with me saying that she felt my world revolved around her. This is true cause I stopped doing a lot of things I loved cause she didn't much care for it and started doing things she only loved to do so she felt like she didn't want me to be just like her. She said she started dating me cause I had a life and had interests and now she felt I had become a male copy of her. She wants me to be the guy she started to date in the beginning. She's 18 and I'm 24 and we are already best friends. I tell her everything and vice versa.
So when she asked for the break up I was really hurt. But agreed with it. And we are already still talking and hanging out as friends. I did of course reduced the amount of phone conversations from like 5 or so a day down to like a phone call a day. Cause I want her to feel like I have started sorting myself and focusing on my work, which I have started doing... I don't talk about the relationship with her either.
She told her friend that she would definitely take me back if I continued being focused like this. The thing that bothers me is just after we broke up I asked her if and when we were going to get back together... and she said she doesn't know how long she will need... anyway this was about a month ago...
We have been apart for a month now. She has been really put off by my behaviour when I got drunk two times during this month cause her dad is an alcoholic and so was her ex. She told she wants to be with someone emotionally stronger than her. Anyway I promised her I wouldn't get drunk anymore and things have been going great.. we talk a lot and have a lot of fun... and I asked her if she would be interested in casually dating again... but she told me she's not ready yet... she needs more time... so what can I possibly do to improve my chances with her and get her back with me?
My ex acts like she wants me back, but tells me she's not ready?
Me and my girlfriend have been broken up for a month and a half now cause she felt like my world revolves around her and that I lost myself and she wants me to go back to the way I used to be when we first started anyway... anyway I followed the advice on this site and started doing this for me and not just to get her back... I started to focus on my work and what I wanted to do with my life... we didn't have a period of NC cause we stayed friends and hung out pretty much everyday.
... I feel really good about myself now and feel back on track... but there is a bit of a problem... my ex is responding really well to all this and has been getting closer and closer to be day by day... she started hugging me and calling me more often just to see what I'm doing. I started to make the changes for me and not for her... but I'm seeing that its having a really positive effect on her... anyway yesterday we were chilling out alone and ended up kissing for the first time in a month and a half. And it was great... anyway after it was all over.. she was really affectionate with me and told me that she's not ready yet... and I was like its fine with me... and we haven't talked about it since... but today while we were in college alone she was really really couply with me... like cuddling and stuff. So what I want to know is... wat do I do now? I mean do I continue and be couply with her until she feels like she is ready? Should I tell her to stop?. im kind of at a loss right now... any help would be really appreciated! I do want her back... but dono how to go about doing it.