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  • Dec 24, 2008, 06:11 AM
    kctiger
    Merry Christmas to the ex.
    So, for all that want to send a text and ask that question, I figured you could do it on this website instead, as it will only create confusion and break your healing process... I will start.

    Merry Christmas K. I hope you and your family have a wonderful and safe holiday season. I am a bit lonely this year without you, but I will make it through. Happy Holidays!
  • Dec 24, 2008, 11:58 AM
    Deicyde
    Hey man,

    I am feeling all alone as well.

    I wish the best to my ex and her family over the holiday season.

    It's to bad I can't tell her that myself, but it will rip me up inside to have any sort of contact with her.

    Happy Holidays KC
  • Dec 24, 2008, 01:24 PM
    kctiger

    Happy holidays to you as well Deicyde!
  • Dec 24, 2008, 01:28 PM
    TrueFaith

    Sod my X girlfriends!

    Merry Christmas to you guys! =)

    lets make The new year a Fun one!

    New year Old Past!
  • Dec 24, 2008, 01:29 PM
    411Help

    Merry Christmas ____, I really miss you a lot, I want you to come back to me! But I know you need your space and that's exactly what I've been doing. Oh, and, even though you're NO GOOD for me, for some reason I want you back.
  • Dec 24, 2008, 01:41 PM
    BobbyVandeyar

    dear ashlyn,

    a very merry xmas to you and your family. I hope everything is going good for you. You know I'm always here to help you out. Take care =] ilu

    Bobby
  • Dec 24, 2008, 01:48 PM
    loveyouall

    Dear ___
    I wish you a very Merry Christmas and all the best in the New Year!
  • Dec 24, 2008, 03:32 PM
    a la king

    Merry Christmas to you and the pets. I hope all is well.
  • Dec 24, 2008, 04:55 PM
    debdoes

    Hi __! I'm so happy that you are probably having a great time while today has been absolutely horrible for me. Oh, and by the way, happy 8 months (what should have been anyways)! YOU SUCK!! (Yes everybody, I'm very bitter!! )
  • Dec 25, 2008, 12:50 AM
    ThatGuy2
    Dear X,
    I hope you had a great time at the midnight mass, and that everything is going well for you. I wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas. :)

    -thatguy2
  • Dec 25, 2008, 01:04 AM
    SimpleguyJoe

    Haha I pretty much sent a merry Christmas to everyone in my ex's family but her. (I was pretty good friends with the entire family)

    Also a merry Christmas to everyone here. You guys are all a great bunch, who knows what stupid things I would have done or said if I did not wander across this site.

    And Debdoes it's OK to be bitter it's just another part of the process I guess. My "would of been" one year lands on December 23rd so it just puts a downer on the entire Christmas experience sense the same time last year I was having an amazing time falling in love for the first time but hey you just got to take the good memories and charish them and let everything else about them just move on from your mind so you can move on with your own life again.
  • Dec 25, 2008, 02:57 AM
    PurpLePassion
    Merry Xmas Babe :)
    Wish we would have worked out.
  • Dec 25, 2008, 08:39 AM
    magikman
    Merry Christmas J... I sooooo want to send this to you in a text, especially since it's only been 4 days, but I know that wouldn't do any good. This is my most miserable Christmas ever, but know that I'm with friends and trying to make the best of it. I wish you'd given given "us" more of a chance, but I know that by letting go we each can pursue what really makes us happy. Maybe you can realize what you've tossed away and come to your senses. Maybe not. Either way, no hard feelings.. Have an awesome holiday and new year!

    For everyone out there that feels alone - know that you're not. I'm with you too in spirit, and we will survive and move forward! Happy Holidays, or at least try! :)

    D
  • Dec 25, 2008, 12:12 PM
    debdoes

    I hope you are right wolfgang! Very selfish of me, yes, but I hope he is a little bit (ok, alot) miserable today. Watching couples together and stuff today is so unfair!
    Simpleguy, that's exactly it too... I remember all the good times and it's really irritating cause all of that was thrown away instead of being saved!
  • Dec 25, 2008, 01:25 PM
    jmw0713

    I got a phone call from my ex. She left me a voice mail wishing me and my family a Merry Christmas. I returned the call a while later. I wished her and her family a Merry Christmas as well. Then I asked what her plans were for New Years. BAD IDEA! She is going to be spending the week in Boston with her new BF, or whatever they are. I'm pretty depressed and pissed off right now.

    I should have NEVER asked. It was hard enough returning her call. Now I got to deal with this pain. Hopefully it will pass soon.
  • Dec 25, 2008, 02:09 PM
    kctiger

    You will be all right JMW. I refuse to even touch the "New Years" plans with my ex. That is better left unknown to me... don't sweat it man!
  • Dec 25, 2008, 02:58 PM
    jmw0713

    I know I will KC. I just don't understand why I even ask about stuff like that. I know the answer is never anything that I want to hear, or should hear... but I do it anyway and pay the price.

    Bring on the New Year, because this year blows!!
  • Dec 25, 2008, 03:04 PM
    kctiger

    You can keep slamming your head into a brick wall... one day you will truly realize the brick wall always wins... I have done exactly the same thing, asking about stuff I know I don't want to hear, only to feel the pain over and over... bring on the new year!! I am, however, not looking forward to New Year's Eve... oh well.
  • Dec 25, 2008, 03:07 PM
    jmw0713

    Me neither really. I just want to start fresh. Hopefully whatever I do New Years Eve, that my ex will not creep in to my head.
  • Dec 25, 2008, 05:08 PM
    Dare81

    Merry Christmas B----.
    I hope everything is okay with you and your family.
    Dare
  • Dec 25, 2008, 05:46 PM
    electrons

    Oohhhhhhhhh, I hate this feeling, I have been here doing all that I can not to call or text. Here goes,

    I miss you sooooooooo much babe, even though I am not there, I hope that you are having a wonderful time, whatever you are doing. I wish you were with me
  • Dec 25, 2008, 11:40 PM
    grindin
    Merry Christmas to Crystal and my 2nd family and to all her loving dogs. By the way she just broke up with me 2 days ago. Lol a girlfriend for 5 years. And I'm going to be strong about it.
  • Dec 26, 2008, 12:10 AM
    ISneezeFunny

    To my ex(es)

    Thanks for the christmas wishes.

    Stop calling/texting/emailing me. Seriously. It's been a year. Get over it. You lied to me. I will not get back with you.
  • Dec 26, 2008, 01:48 AM
    SimpleguyJoe

    Debdoes, but that's the point it was good and fun and lots of good things and memories came from it. But in the end it's kind of like a theme park... High admission for afew thrilling moments but behind every one of those is a lot of bordom. But guess what, even though you left, you will still go back to a new one somewhere else and you will make more good memories. Remember it's not about the destination or making things work but how you made the trip.

    Also to JMW. New Years won't make any problems go away it's just changing a number. If you want to start fresh, start now at this minute when you read this message. It is a choice on whether you let those kind of things really get to you. It IS a cognitive choice to think about your ex so just stay distracted!

    Last but not least to KCTiger I think we all know how hard that pesky brick wall is. But then again our fractured skulls heal and become stronger so I guess it's good in the long run.
  • Dec 26, 2008, 07:31 AM
    jmw0713

    Joe you're 100% right. Thanks for the advice. I was doing really good... but yesterday set me back somewhat. I know that this will pass soon. I have many plans over the next week with friends, so I know I will be OK. It just sucks that ANY of us have to go through this. But you know as they say "No Pain. No Gain". Granted I brought this round of pain on myself by still caring... but I definitely learned my lesson.

    Thanks to all you guys and girls who are here for people who are going through these diffucult times.

    Happy Boxing Day!
  • Dec 26, 2008, 04:24 PM
    Romefalls19

    Dear _____,

    Merry Christmas! I hope this year has been as happy for you as it has been for me. I am happy you found someone to drag to those Martha Stewart shows, buy you the expensive crap that got used for a week, and dealt with your own insecurities. This year was amazing for me! I met someone who loves me for the person I am, not who they pictures in a fairy tale book. Please stop calling and texting me about how this or that reminds you of us or me. If you feel the need to do so, please mail them to my new address at:

    I don't care Blvd
    Moving On, NJ 08505

    P.S. Please tell your boyfriend to have his girlfriend stop texting me about starting a new relationship.
  • Dec 28, 2012, 06:21 PM
    Giam
    I realize the topic wAs in 2008. But never mind we're in 2012 and I feel the same as you people 4 years ago. So

    Dear K I was thinking about you and thought I'd say hello! I hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday season... So Happy Holidays and all the best in the New Year!
    Hope all is good:) I still can't understand why it didn't work out and why your always on my mind!

    Dear S,
    I will miss you forever and especially on this special occasion it's the first christmas without you and I can't believe you haven't even call or text. I feel bitter but a part of me knows that your on the NC because you can't stand to hurt me anymore. I will always love you. Merry christmas wish you the best and happy new year may you find love this year even though it will kill me. But God is good and he'll send me someone too;). Love love love forever Gia M.

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