Should I worry that I am FZ'd?
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I've been talking with this girl I've met at church for about a month now. Mutual friends seem to think she likes me (she hasn't told them anything specifically about me), I get mixed signals. I was wondering how I am handling this/looking for tips + advice.
This girl is fairly shy and pretty religious. She has had a boyfriend before, but doesn't seem like she dates very much at all.
The good
- I seem to catch glances from her/she positions herself around me (ie sits next to me when we watch a movie in a group/always sits by me when we eat in a group)
- Always asks me if I am going to random xxx group event, invites me to random xxx group events.
- The other day I was talking to her best friend about her boyfriend and her friend immediately began asking me if I had a girlfriend. I said no. She asked if I liked anyone, I said maybe. Then she asked if I liked anyone at church. I said maybe to that as well.
The bad
- Last week I called her and mentioned I'd really had the urge to eat xxx for dinner that night, and ask if she was in the mood for it. She kind of danced around the question and pretty much finally said that it would be better if we could get a few people to go.
- A couple times when I called her (she was really busy) she took a few days to call me back
- When we part ways, I've never even gotten a hug until last night when I initiated one (it was pretty weak on her end) and she is a very huggy person.
We are def getting to know each other, and things are progressing, but VERY slowly. I'd like to keep getting to know her, but also avoid the dreaded friendzone. Other than some slight Kino and asking her to dinner, to be fair, I haven't made my intentions really known. The only Kino I've really done was yesterday when I'd randomly put my arm around her, rubbed her back gently and she didn't pull away, but didn't really respond back. I did play some wrestling types of fun + goofy games like that with her, and she laughed quite a bit + had fun, so I know she is not totally disgusted by me lol.
Thoughts/suggestions?
How to show that I like her?
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I've been having fun and dating several girls in the last couple of months (nothing exclusive) and have a few that I KNOW like me. However, this one girl I've been "hanging out" with on and off since really the end of October has really taken my interest (we've both been out of town a lot, so it's hard to get together).
This girl is pretty religious and on the shy side when it comes to dating and stuff, and I am not sure that she likes me more than just a friend. However, I get "vibes" from her that she likes me. IE her best friend being inquisitive out of the blue and asking if I have a girlfriend, if I like anyone she knows, this girl is always willing to hang out with me whenever I ask her and she is around etc... Amongst other "vibes" that I get
We've got to know each other, and I was hoping to take it to the "We are atleast both interested in each other phase" if that makes sense to anyone? I am by no means wanting to get down on one knee and profess my undying love to this girl or anything like that, but also want to begin escalating this or move on.
Any tips on the best way to do this without making things weird/awkward? This girl goes to my church so I'd like to keep things from getting weird.
I was thinking of asking her to do something fun this weekend and then on the way home telling her that her friend made it clear that someone she knows likes me and asking this girl if she knows who that is. Suggestions?
Further actions with current girl
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Hi all,
I got back with the girl I broke up with for a few days in January, and we have gotten closer since then. Things have been going well, but both of us have been busy with school but still make time to see each other several times a week. (We are both going to grad school, and are both in our mid 20's)
I really care for this girl, and would like to be with her for a long time, I am not talking marriage YET, but would like ton continue on with the course of things. However, she is still looking at most likely moving to find a job in a few months once she graduates, which would obviously put a damper on our relationship.
I am torn how to proceed with her. Half of me wants to spend more time with her and get closer to her, the other half of me doesn't want to waste anymore time in a relationship which will most likely go nowhere (if she moves)
Like tonight for instance, some of my buddies want me to come out with them and go girl hunting. I'd much rather grab dinner and a drink with this girl, but I feel like I might be missing an opportunity to go out and meet someone who will actually be sticking around. I've been in relationships in the past where the girl moved, or I held onto things for too long and I just wasted a lot of time.
I guess the right thing to do is to talk to her and let her know precisely how I feel. I feel like I've done that before, but her essential stance is that she has to do what is right for her (which I agree with). I am also a bit confused by her actions. Each of us have been in several serious relationships before, and both agree that this one is very good. The only fight of any kind we've had in ~17 months of dating is over her job situation and where she will be.
Thanks all