Ok, so there is this girl that that I'm in love with. I'm sure I'm just like the rest of the guys on this site in love with a girl who is'nt in love with them. It's OK though because I'm not actually going to take anyone's advise that would be stupid I've already made up my mind on what I'm going to do. I would suggest that no one ever ever takes suggestions, all that does is mess you up.

This girl is amazing and she is the one for me, I've been trying to get her for 7 months now, and I was'nt always the greatest guy to her, I'm still figuring her out. I know she's the one for me though, because when we talk we talk for hours no awkwerd conversations nothing uneasy were both comfortable with each other we even cuddled and I held her head when she puked a party and I've laid her down when I could have taken advantage of her etc...

A little while ago we went out, as friend and we boht had a grea time and she would'nt get the out of my car when I wanted her to, but I did'nt really want her to at the same time you know ? :P

So anyway, she told me were just friends but she's young, and she doesn't know what she likes in guys, and she's never really had a boyfriend other than this one guy... so I'm going to keep trying and eventually I will get it right.

I'm still working on that first kiss when she's sober :P

What is your point? Why post this? Since you think it is stupid to take advice I can't understand what exactly your point here is...

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Originally Posted by kctiger

What is your point? Why post this? Since you think it is stupid to take advice I can't understand what exactly your point here is...

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I think its ridiclous that everyone gives up on someone they really like.. or in my case love. Why would you do that? If you really love someone you give up on them?

How old are you man?

I don't doubt you're in love, but there's more to it than the emotions. Sometimes we have to let the people we love go because it's the best for them or ourselves. You can fight for someone all you want if you love them, but love isn't enough, despite what we're led to believe and what you want. Sometimes people don't fight to be with the ones they love because they realize it's better to be not be together, despite how they emotionally feel.

A line that concerns me here is that you're waiting for the first kiss when she's sober. Is she drunk that often? Do you even know who she is apart from BEING that way?

It's hard to let go of someone but don't dwell on her if she doesn't have feelings for you. You will only end up making yourself miserable for something that may never happen.

You're a "Gogether"... laughing

Love is a two way street, and right now you're on a dead end road.

You can't make someone love you, it's as simple as that. Try, who knows, she might change her mind down the road, but there's a very good chance that she won't.

To say that eventually you'll get it right, that's not certain.

I wish you luck, it sounds like you're going to need it.

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Originally Posted by lmnotok

how old are you man?

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Age really should not be a factor, in my opinion. If your fifteen or sixteen I can understand that whole love crap is just some little boy with a hardon learning about girls.
This is different. I had a, girlfriend of mine point out that you don't need sex, to be in love with a person.

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Originally Posted by xxariesxx

I don't doubt you're in love, but there's more to it than the emotions. Sometimes we have to let the people we love go because it's the best for them or ourselves. You can fight for someone all you want if you love them, but love isn't enough, despite what we're led to believe and what you want. Sometimes people don't fight to be with the ones they love because they realize it's better to be not be together, despite how they emotionally feel.

A line that concerns me here is that you're waiting for the first kiss when she's sober. Is she drunk that often?? Do you even know who she is apart from BEING that way?

It's hard to let go of someone but don't dwell on her if she doesn't have feelings for you. You will only end up making yourself miserable for something that may never happen.

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All right here's the deal bud, you obviously gave up on the girl that you liked. I think you regret it, you don't have to let go of someone, you just have to give them there space. What you are telling me is horrible advise, let go? Let go of what she wants to be around me, and she wants to talk to me... but she doesn't want to be my girlfriend(yet). I'm fine with that right now, I love her and I just want to be around her. Yea I'm attracted to her, but this is'nt no 16 year old boy with a hard on.

No we hang out everyweek, and someone's me and her go to party's and... who is she apart from?

It will happen, because I love her... and when she gets out of this phase (of not being attracted to nice guys) than she will realize that that's exactly what she is craving.

You seem to have it all figured out.

As for not letting go of someone. Well, if that person doesn't share your feelings, if that person doesn't come around to what you want, then yes, you do have to let that person go, otherwise you become a stalker.

Patience is a virtue, and maybe it will work out for you, but don't count on it as a certainty. The only things that are certain in this life is death and taxes.

Good luck.

Wow, it seems as though you have the world figured out, but still don't have the girl. You post on here because you want to tell us we are "stupid" for following peoples suggestions.

You can read any story on here, especially mine. Yes, I got my heart broken by a girl and then gave up on her and our "love" and nope I don't regret it at all. Since my break up nothing but good things have happened to me, I even met a girl and fell in love, got engaged and am happier than ever. So don't come on here telling us listening to people's suggestions is "stupid" because our advice actually gets people somewhere while you're still sitting on the bench waiting for your girl to get tired of the players on the field and time for a replacement player. But don't worry you will eventually get your two innings of play before she puts you back on the bench

Please keep us posted as to your plan, as I for one, need some evidence of my stupidity, or your futility.

One of us will learn something. I wish you luck, I really do!

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Originally Posted by Inlove2009

alright heres the deal bud, you obviously gave up on the girl that you liked. I think you regret it, you don't have to let go of someone, you just have to give them there space. What you are telling me is horrible advise, let go? let go of what she wants to be around me, and she wants to talk to me... but she does'nt want to be my girlfriend(yet). I'm fine with that right now, I love her and I just want to be around her. yea I'm attracted to her, but this is'nt no 16 year old boy with a hard on.

No we hang out everyweek, and someones me and her go to party's and ... who is she apart from?

It will happen, because I love her... and when she gets out of this phase (of not being attracted to nice guys) than she will realize that thats exactly what she is craving.

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I'm a girl for one, and I never "gave up" on any of my boyfriends by letting them go.
And when a boyfriend has broken up with me, he didn't "give up" on me by letting me go. He knew it wasn't going to work and it would be better for us both.
Letting someone go is not the same as giving up.

I don't regret it because it was for the best, even though it hurts a LOT.

I meant to let go of trying to be her boyfriend if she doesn't want anything more than friends. If you want to keep being friends, fine. I was only stating that you'll be wasting your time waiting for someone that may never develop feelings for you and it would be healthier to put that energy into finding someone else that would be interested.

You can give her all of the space in the world, but you can't control her feelings. You can't pretend to know what she thinks just because you love her. So I stand by what I said.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

You seem to have it all figured out.

As for not letting go of someone. Well, if that person doesn't share your feelings, if that person doesn't come around to what you want, then yes, you do have to let that person go, otherwise you become a stalker.

Patience is a virtue, and maybe it will work out for you, but don't count on it as a certainty. The only things that are certain in this life is death and taxes.

Good luck.

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I don't have it all figured out... I would like to tell people that I'm great with ladies, but I'm not. Yea, I agree but she wants to be around me... I may come on strong and I make it clear I see her as more than just a friend, but she still hangs out with me.

I am counting on it as a certainty, this girl... and I know this sounds really corny, but... I know she's the one an it's meant to be... I've never connected with a girl the way I do with her... I just had a bad first impression I do believe :P

Seriously thank's for your support, I really wanted it. That was the main reason I came on here... after this is all over I'll probably be gone and you won't know how it worked out but until than :P

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Wow, it seems as though you have the world figured out, but still don't have the girl. You post on here because you want to tell us we are "stupid" for following peoples suggestions.

You can read any story on here, especially mine. Yes, I got my heart broken by a girl and then gave up on her and our "love" and nope I don't regret it at all. Since my break up nothing but good things have happened to me, I even met a girl and fell in love, got engaged and am happier than ever. So don't come on here telling us listening to people's suggestions is "stupid" because our advice actually gets people somewhere while you're still sitting on the bench waiting for your girl to get tired of the players on the field and time for a replacement player. But don't worry you will eventually get your two innings of play before she puts you back on the bench

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Your ridiclous, I seriously doubt you ever even played a sport, and suggestions... yours or anyone's are stupid. The only thing your doing is mixing people up and making them over think... obviously your not happy because your still on here talking about it

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Originally Posted by xxariesxx

I'm a girl for one, and I never "gave up" on any of my boyfriends by letting them go.
And when a boyfriend has broken up with me, he didn't "give up" on me by letting me go. He knew it wasn't going to work and it would be better for us both.
Letting someone go is not the same as giving up.

I don't regret it because it was for the best, even though it hurts a LOT.

I meant to let go of trying to be her boyfriend if she doesn't want anything more than friends. If you want to keep being friends, fine. I was only stating that you'll be wasting your time waiting for someone that may never develop feelings for you and it would be healthier to put that energy into finding someone else that would be interested.

You can give her all of the space in the world, but you can't control her feelings. You can't pretend to know what she thinks just because you love her. So I stand by what I said.

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She doesn't want anything more than friends right now. But I tell her all the time how beauitiful she is, and I make her laugh, and I ask her if she wants to hang out or something and she almost always says yes, but I never force it on her.

I stand by what I said, if you really do love someone, you don't give up on them.

Call me crazy, but I would rather live my life being her friend, than having anyone else.

You sound like friends and buddies. So its fun now, but trying to influence someone who doesn't feel as you do is a waste of time.

If your so determined to be with her, then stop playing at it, and assuming, and tell her the whole truth about your feelings.

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Originally Posted by Inlove2009

your ridiclous, I seriously doubt you ever even played a sport, and suggestions... yours or anyones are stupid. The only thing your doing is mixing poeple up and making them over think... obviously your not happy becuase your still on here talking about it

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Nope, I am not happy at all. I secretly miss my ex to pieces and pine over her everyday, she was the best thing to ever happen to me and I will wait forever until she decides that I am the one for her.

Okay, did anyone believe that? No? Good! Ha ha, the only thing that seems to be "stupid" on here is your brain. The sport advice was an analogy, do you know what that is? Or perhaps they haven't got that far in your grade yet. But hey, just for sh*ts and giggles, let's say I was talking about a sport, I played baseball for 17 years and hockey for 18+ as I still play it.

I am on here, to help others avoid the mistakes that I made when my ex and I broke up. I'm not here because I miss her, want her back or even think about being with her again. I have a terrific woman in my life who loves me, for me. She didn't make me "wait" or put me aside to decide if she wanted to be with me, much like your girl is doing to you. So before you are so quick to judge everyone on here without knowing their stories, make sure your find out the information. Your situation is incredibly typical and will end the same as everybody else's.

BTW for future reference, i.e. college papers. The correct spelling of people, is well PEOPLE

Awl Alten, you know you will always be the one for me ;-) ha ha!

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Awl Alten, you know you will always be the one for me ;-) ha ha!

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I'm not one bit jealous here, because my feelings are motherly, Romey..


I don't even worry about being called stupid by someone who cannot even spell and thinks he can read women's minds and knows exactly what is best for them. It takes two to make up a team in any relationship and it will take him time to realize this before he stops being opinionated and admonishing... features that will not raise his score at all.

So, I at least will not waste my time here on this one.

Night, Night...

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Originally Posted by Inlove2009

she does'nt want anything more than friends right now. But I tell her all the time how beauitiful she is, and I make her laugh, and I ask her if she wants to hang out or somthing and she almost always says yes, but I never force it on her.

I stand by what I said, if you really do love someone, you don't give up on them.

call me crazy, but I would rather live my life being her friend, than having anyone else.

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I think you've probably seen too many romantic movies. Nicholas Sparks perhaps? :) Bring on the world and I'll wait forever and it will end up all right? It doesn't actually work that way and you'll hurt yourself in the end.

I already talked about the giving up bit, and it being different than letting someone go, but obviously that didn't sink in.

In any case I do hope it works out for you, but that if she doesn't come around, I hope you eventually realize what everyone has said.

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Originally Posted by xxariesxx

I think you've probably seen too many romantic movies. Nicholas Sparks perhaps? :) Bring on the world and I'll wait forever and it will end up alright? It doesn't actually work that way and you'll hurt yourself in the end.

I already talked about the giving up bit, and it being different than letting someone go, but obviously that didn't sink in.

In any case I do hope it works out for you, but that if she doesn't come around, I hope you eventually realize what everyone has said.

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I made some moves on her today and failed. It's all good though because I'm just going to try in a different way until it works ;P

Does anyone else see a stalking charge in the future?

I agree, stalking is the road he's traveling, it first starts with a sexual harassment charge because he "tries those moves" and fails so he keeps pushing.

It's okay, I'm sure one of your parents will bail you out.

I want to say this is the first post on this site I've read that actually had me rolling on the floor laughing, this kid is a straight pimp and I quote from him, "we even cuddled and I held her head when she puked a party and I've laid her down when I could have taken advantage of her"

Good luck with making moves.

Altweg: yes I totally do!! He is class a stalker material!

Dude seriously you are one hopeless kid in denial! Or you're actually just jerking our legs... I really don't know which, but for your sake I'm hoping for the latter.

Hehe maybe you should read the book: he's really not that into you and kust translate it to SHE is really not that into you.

Oh wait, whoops my bad now I have joined the ranks of the stupid advice givers... not to metion the stupid advice takers... I really don't know which is worse.

But as mary Roach would say; HEY if you want your heart to end up in tiny tiny pieces (not to mention in a tiny tiny box), well whatever... beggers can't be choosers after all.

LIfe Cahnges Man: omg ROTFLMAO from your post that is ;) love it!

I was in the same situation when I was in 10th grade, I tried to get with the same girl for three years. I did the same thing you did, tried EVERYTHING and tried to find ways to get her to love me. This is a waste of time.

Trust me. Once a woman puts you in the friend zone, it is almost IMPOSSIBLE to get out of it. Your only hope is to try and act like a hard azz or be a prick to her, because you said that she is in a "phase" and she won't ever go for you as the nice guy. Nice guys finish last in HS, sorry.

I guess I am way to nice to her... I think that if I'm nice to her, and I be her friend right now that she will eventually like me... I waited 8 months why not wait 8 more... and 8 more after that?

I've got enough playboys and lube to last me years :P

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Originally Posted by Inlove2009

I guess I am way to nice to her... I think that if i'm nice to her, and I be her friend right now that she will eventualy like me... I waited 8 months why not wait 8 more... and 8 more after that?

I've got enough playboys and lube to last me years :P

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OMG, that's mature, NOT! Get on with your life already. Stop hoping that she'll come around, she probably never will, and then you'll have wasted your life for nothing.

The fact is that statistically speaking, stories like yours don't usually have a happy ending. If you want to set yourself up for loss, well, that's your choice, but if you want the truth, then listen to us.

We're all a bit older than you, wiser, been there, done that, wrote the book. You can either listen to wisdom, or learn the hard way. The choice is yours, but don't come back here 10 years from now crying about your wasted life waiting around for a girl that will never be yours.

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Originally Posted by Inlove2009

I guess I am way to nice to her... I think that if i'm nice to her, and I be her friend right now that she will eventualy like me... I waited 8 months why not wait 8 more... and 8 more after that?

I've got enough playboys and lube to last me years :P

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Dude seriously... have you tried telling her that you like her? That seems to be a better way of getting her IF she's interested, which she doesn't seem to be. I don't know how old you are, but come on, like altenweg said you are wasting your time and it really would be a shame to wast your life on someone who has no interest being with you. 8 months... a long long time to be pining...

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I guess I am way to nice to her... I think that if I'm nice to her, and I be her friend right now that she will eventually like me... I waited 8 months why not wait 8 more... and 8 more after that?

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She may like you, but will never, ever, be your g/f ever, in life. She may even get tired of seeing your face around the place.

I waited 8 months

Why not wait 8 more...

And 8 more after that?

Insanity- doing the same thing over, and over, and expecting different results

Example- Talking to someone for months, and hoping she takes you back.

Stuck on stupid- See above.

Well, I was just having dinner with a few girlfriends last night. While discussing how we treat boys that we are not interested, one of them said this

"Well, i like keeping them around, it makes me feel good. I mean they know they can't get me, but they stay anyways. it makes me feel really good that they want me, even though i don't want them"

On top of that, she'll do confusing things like, clinging her arms on the guy, giving them hugs, and etc etc.

In other words, she enjoy toying with other people's feeling LOL, I hope your girl isn't doing that to you.