Let me start by saying we have been together for 2 years on nov. 22, well we have been great together, but all of a sudden we started getting into arguments over stupid , I feel its because we got so use to each other, well we broke up a couple months ago because of it but I told her we would work things out and I got her flowers and a promise necklace that things would work out because I love her so much, we been together sense we were 14. Lost our virginity together everything! I do not care about any other women, well now its been about two weeks she said she needed her space, I am going crazy I been reading like Yahoo answers what to do, I just can't stand it, like at work all I do is think about her and I kept textin her and she said she needed her space, I can trust her not to get with another guy or anything because when I asked her she got pissed and said she isn't a slut, and I feel she wouldn't because even if we have sex too many times a week or so she feels used, there are just too many things going threw my head at this point, she won't call, I don't know, I am going crazy!! Deep down I know we will get back together and I just can't wait to be happy with her again I never want to fight with her again, I feel that if we did break up for good, that it would be hard for me to find someone else that I feel is RIGHT FOR me! I feel she is perfect for me. I want to work on things that I know I did that made us brake up, I got ed over be4 on women so I have trust problems sometimes, main reason for this space is because she said something about a guy that I know of a weird amount of times that day, and I asked her why she kept talking about him so much and she got real pissed and said I was not going to change and I don't know, I am changing the questions, I know what I have done wrong and on this break I have not been asking her tons of questions, I only ask questions when I feel there is something going on even though deep down I know there isn't, the guy she kept talking about has a g.f and her assigned seet in school is by him, I know there is nothing going on, please give me advise, I know things will work out but I'm just going crazy, mixed thoughts. Deepressed, just lately I have been somewhat whatever about so I don't push her away farther, thank you so much for reading, hope you have good advice.
Thanks: Jeff

space = not into you right now

Time is the only thing that will tell. You have to have the patience to let the time pass without trying to make things happen. Can you do that?

Ha ha you are learning quickly kc

The "space" excuse is an easy let down which means, I want to go play the field and let you sit on the bench in case I need to put you in a reserve spot when I run out of players.

Like I feel I can, I just go crazy thinking of her getting with another guy, even though I know she wouldn't I just feel like there is always that chance, I know she will call me soon hopefully, be4 she called me but I got a little tooo excited and might of pushed her away, she says she still loves me she just needs her space, I have so many mixed thoughts. And she is going threw a hard time with her mom and dad, and her dog got put to sleep, and found cat dead in the woods, I know she is going thew a hard time and I try to make her feel better, and I thought we were over but she told me she wasn't and got really jelous when I said there is something going on with me, I meant to say us and she FREAKED OUT saying what with another girl! And like got really pissed because this girl messaged me on myspace asking me to hang out with her and I said no, so she got jelous and said why don't u go her then blah blah, then I calmed her down saying I would never ever do that too her and have to interests in other girls.

She just wants to make sure she finds someone else before you do. Move on, if she really wants to be with you she'll forget about this "need my space" thing. But don't waste time waiting on her, she may never want to get back together.

It's the same old song and dance pal, read my post https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ke-280105.html but I'll be more then happy and try and help you. All all of us can really do is tell you to move on with your life and give her her space as its called, she'll either come around or she won't but you still got to get on man.

Well I feel like it will work out, and I think she does too she just needs time, we hang out and hardly with our friends, I am not too good at expressing my feeling I guess I get all mixed up, but I could tell when she got super jelous about another girl talking to me, and I know her inside and out, when I talked to her about another girl, she just gets jelous and hates it. Do you think its just a phase because trust me. she HAS phases!! She has some issues but I love her to death, no ones perfect. I think she is just going threw a hard time with school, work, family, and pets that had to be put to sleep and found dead. Do you think it's a phase?

You don't want to hear this but, only time will tell if it's a phase or not.

Yah, well I appreciate all of you for your advice, she works from right after school till nine, so wait till nine and see if she calls if not, hopefully tomarrow she does, thanks again!

Like I said, read my story pal https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ke-280105.html no one knows, anything could happen it could be 5 minutes from now could be years, could even be never but, I wish the best to both of you.

Everyone says that their situation is different. The fact is you need to prepare yourself for the worst. The sooner you do that the better it will be for you. You cannot imagine the pain you will be in for if you continue to bury your head in the sand. Believe me, I know.

Space means..

Yeah I'm done with you I'm moving on.. but ill keep you around, just in case things don't work out k.


It goes like this.

We need space.. I have met someone else.
Stop calling me...


You feel like this is going to work out? Yeah... really? Umm no you don't.. because you would not be here if you did, so do yourself a favor and stop lying to yourself.
It does not matter how much you want it.. or how many promise rings you get someone..

There feelings are there own.. and if they don't want you anymore.. then that's it.. and (SPACE) is a bad sign.
Because you love her. And you don't want space do you? You want to talk things out and work with her as a team..
She does not want to..

Real couples that love each other. Workout there problems together.. leason 1 :)
Real couples that want to spend the rest of there lifes together.. normal don't ask for space when things get a bit tough.. (lesson 2)

Don't lie to yourself or give yourself false hope (lesson 3)


You can't imagen how many times. We have heard this girl is different and she is no like that..
Trust us.. we have all been there before and the best way to think about this.

Is to face its over.. and deal with your emotions.


Leave this girl man :) focus on yourself
We have all been there.
With our first loves

Its tough.. and probable will be really hard for you to get over it

But you will

With Stricked no contact!
And a strong will

OK well I am talking to this girl named marissa, and we have so much in common, and I know she has a busy life and like she says we can hang like every day so far this week and something keeps happening and it gets ed up, then she feels all bad and I don't know I am so confused, and now my ex keeps calling me saying she loves me and can't live without me, and like wants to get back together, and I don't want to because she put me threw hell for a month I tried so hard to get her back and she went out with this other guy and yeah, so I'm so fustrated, is it just by chance marissa is really busy and she really isn't meaning to do it, or is she like playing me, its so hard because when I talk to her she is so happy and she says we are so good for each other and ahhh I don't know, I know we will see each other by this weekend I am just depressed because our plans alwayssss gets ed up, and I know she cares about me because how she acts, and she calls me every morning and threw out the day and she leaves really cute messages, she is really busy all the time with her dentist job, and her cheer leading sport competitions, and college, what do you guys think? That's I really appretiate it, I am just soooo confused!

I can't understand this post properly. Could you write in full words please?

girls are busy :) in fact more so than guys.
she still talks to you. And all that.

I would not read too much into this or overthink anything. At this time as it is to early
just relax. And take it day by day

oh yeah don't go back with X :)

just be cool with this girl
I know sometimes you just want to say..

Yo! Why the hell are you not replying or spending time with me!?
I bet your off with someone else!
or are you just keeping your options open
you know what!

#%$#% YOU!


But lucky us that we can control how we act :) so its normal to think these things
just don't let them take you down so much.


make a weekend plan. Or something even if its just for a quick coffe.

Well we are suppose to go up north snowmobiling this weekend, hopefully that works out, I just get so worried because so far allllll our plans get sooo screwed up, I understand and I'm a reallllly relaxed guy, I am also just such a worrie worttt

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Originally Posted by TrueFaith

Yo! why the hell are you not replying or spending time with me!??
i bet your off with someone eles!
or are you just keeping your options open
you know what!

#%$#% YOU!.

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Ha ha ha! Exactly what you think.. then take a deep breath and say.. 'oh I don't mind. Sure whenever your free, I'm pretty busy with eh.. tom and the guys anyway'

LMAO

Haha yeah, it was sucks! She was in the hospital all weekend, and I was going to go see her there but she was sleeping all weekend so I can under stand that and didn't get out till Tuesday morning, then that night we were suppose to hang but she had home work to do, and today we were suppose to hang but she had to wait for her parents to get home because I don't know, I feel like she keeps making excuses kind of, she says she isn't but like I said I worry alottt. I don't know

Dude, just have fun. She is busy, and the most beneficial thing for you to do is to be busy as well.

I know it sounds like fairytale propaganda, but if it's meant to be it'll just happen.

It sounds like you're still involved with the ex somewhat, and are looking towards other girls for the answers. You got to be happy with yourself first. You're expecting this new one to make you happy. Just do you for now.

It sounds like she's very interested, just very busy and that she wants to take it slow. If you play your cards right, it could be a very lasting and meaningful relationship. Keep busy, keep away from the ex, and enjoy your time with her.

Just don't flip out about it and just have fun man.

Yeah thanks a lot, that does make a lot of sense and I deff. Do not have anything to do with my ex. I was at work and this morning she called me six times, I told her to stop or ill change my number, she is bi-poler, I spell very badlyyy, sorry haha

OK so I was just on stupid myspace, I am not a cyber "person" but I met this girl on there not far from were I live, and we been talkng for a while, and we have everything in common, like she is really picky, and I met everything that she wanted in a guy, we been talking and we were going to hang this week, she has full time job, and school, and cheerleading, we are both 18, now when we make plans it gets ed up, every time this week, its only been a week we been tlakin about it, and every time it gets screwed up, and yestorday I talked to her and she was calling me baby, and all that sweat stuff that I like, and I had to go and she said she would call me back later and she never did, and this morning she didn't call and she has been every morning, I know its probably no big deal because she has to use her dads phone because hers is broke, I just am so confused? I know this probably sounds CRAZY! Butt we have so much in common and when we talk we do nothing but laugh and she is so beautiful and everything, I'm sure she will call tonight hopefully, what do you guys think? Thanks

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You have only been broken up for a month, and you haven't given yourself a chance to heal enough. Sorry guy but your trying way to hard to have someone.

Take some more time for yourself, just you, and get some peace of mind, and learn to relax.

What do you think about meeting people on myspace? I met this girl on myspace and she is great! We have sooo much in common, we talk on the phone every night and in the morning when we get up, and she is coming over tonight, what do you guys think?

Myspace is a place to find and meet people.

You will get a better idea once you start spending time with her.

Are you concerned because you met her on myspace?

No not concerned, I was just wondering, we been wanting to hang out but every time we made plans something got screwed up, I am waiting for her to call now.

Well, if you don't have a problem with it... then go for it all the way!

Like I said, you will know more once you meet her if you would like to pursue things.

OK so, I met this wonderful girl over myspace, and we have not met yet, we keep trying so hard too, but keeps getting screwed up when we try too, and yestorday it got screwed up the fourth time we tried, because she hurt herself in cheer leading, WHICH I'm totally cool with I am very understanding and this whole time I did not even get a attitude with her and she cried because she felt bad, well today she called at 11:00a.m and said she wanted to go to the mall to get me a christmas present, and she said then she will come over, and she got my address for her gps, and I haven't heard from her sense and now its 10:40p.m, I just don't understand, I know she cares about me because she almost cries when she thinks I'm going to move on, and we have so much in common and we talk non stop on the phone be4 work and after, she said I was perfect for her, its just f'in with my head you know? What do you think? Should I worrie, I worrie a lot, she will probably call tomarrow morning, what do you think? Thank you so much..

Well let me see, she could be someone else playing games, laughing at how silly you are.

She could be a mom playing games

She would be a sex pervert that likes to stalk young boys.

Lol, that's not right. That's edd upp, I don't know because I have been talking to her a lot, and I don't know its just really weird because all the we have in common, and that I don't know, she took pics of herself and put them on there and t and like its not someone else, and drew pictures and sent them in the mail, I don't know, its just in weird because. Just talking to her I really care about her, we got really close, you probably wouldn't understand, lol

Really knowing and caring for someone you've never met in person? You're right I don't understand.

If this girl really wanted to come see you, she would have already.

Yeah I know it so confusing, we been talking sooo much for a while, like her myspace has me all over it and I don't know just reallly really weird? Its probably lame, but I don't care, how the hell do you meat good people then, online is stupid, in person, how do you meat new people, were?

Do you know for sure that she's single?

That's a very good point Kailee made.

Another thing. If you feel like you are being put on the back burner

Tell her that you don't like the way things are going
Because you sound fed up with it.

Talk to her in a calm way. And tell her that you feel you are being put 2nd to something else.
And that you don't need this typ of game playing in your life right now,
Don't be so nice that you get walked over.. show emotion
If something makes you angry or upset
Let her know. Not in a crazy smash the window way..

But in a normal calm way.. tell her. Hey this sucks or I don't like this.
Stand up for what you want in a relationship

Hope it works out for you

Regards

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You know, in all seriousness, after reading all of this you made me want "my space." You are being too anxious, too needy, too pushy! You are driving yourself crazy over these girls! You will only end up pushing them away with this approach, and you will end up hurt again.

It seems to me like you feel that if you aren't in a relationship, and some girl doesn't hang on your every word, and want to talk to you all of the time, that you feel lost as a person!

I think you need to take a time out. Get to know yourself. Learn to love yourself first, or you will never be happy with the way another girl treats you. Take a few steps back, and work on you.