I thought wrong and am lost.
This is going to be long and anyone that responds will be greatly appreciated.
I would like to start by saying I think my girlfriend has an emotional disability. Everyone I know from girls to guys has agreed with me on this one. I believe she might be bi-polar. She goes from ecstatically happy to infuriated to depressed and back in the span of a few hours. Now I don't know if this is causing it and I'm not sure what to say to her to get her to go to the doctor. Any way on to my real issues...
This probably sounds lame but this is my first girlfriend, I met her at 16 and am now 18, we've been dating for 2 years and everything was amazing... of course we have our little nit-picks and pointless arguments but who doesn't?
Now all of a sudden she brings up that she wants to "experiment" with other people. Yes, we were both virgins and yes we are not anymore. We were both our "firsts". She said its not exactly that she wants to have sex with other people but that she needs her "space". I completely understand the need of space and respect the fact she needs it. But is screwing around with other people considered space? I also understand the "curiosity" factor. Example: I see girls at work that I fantasize about but I keep it to myself. Its my thing and bringing it up to her would make things worse. Her on the other hand has NEVER kept anything from me and I say this with the most confidence. She says she feels guilty about fantasizing while she's with me. I personally think its bull****, but what do I know?
I personally believe this idea of hers could prove good and help our relationship, but at the same time it could destroy it. I also feel I don't need anyone but her to make me happy... She says she loves me to death, would do anything for me, and all that, but how do I know if she's telling the truth? I don't believe her to be the kind of girl who could do this to me. She's way to sweet, innocent, and kind. She's been there for me through EVERYTHING! I personally have had a very rough life the past 2 years and was very luck to have stumbled upon her. She's bailed me out of hard times and has been there for me to fall on when I needed someone the most. I cannot see her doing this to me.
Yes our relationship has grown extremely fast and this is dangerous in some ways. It was kind of forced to grow this fast. When I say my life has been rough it HAS been. I've had deaths of family and friends, been kicked out multiple times, jobless for a good span of time, lost 2 cars, come close to doing time, and just plain being stupid. But no matter what I've done she's always been there. In return of course I can't get her many nice things because I'm broke, but I KNOW how to give my love and I do it. I don't think she actually realizes how much she means to me and how much I've given/lost for her.
I can NOT lose this girl. She is my everything, she's what's keeping me going. I've never met anyone like her and can honestly say I might not ever again. I know you older people might laugh at this and say there's a million fish in the sea, but this is the catch you only get once...
Is there a way to save our relationship by slowing it down? Is this a phase? Is she serious? Is she testing me to see if I'll actually go through with it and bang some other chick? I have no idea and need serious help. Any answers are welcome. If clarity is needed I will be more than happy to emphasize.