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  • Jun 5, 2008, 10:21 AM
    cfloveu
    "Forget me"
    Well I am 25Years old working for an Investment Banking company.
    It was when I was a student, doing my graduation.
    Then I just using Internet. Very soon I got someone who spoke to me sweetly. A Girl from Bangkok. We became close friends. And later after some 8 or 9 Months I expressed my feelings to her and said her that I am in love with her. She acccepted my love. We both loved each one very much. She was so caring and loving. She told me everything about her. I believed in all that she said.
    I used to bunk my school to chat with her on net. Got very less marks in exams. On weeekends I would enter the cyber in the morning and stayed there for 17 hours, speaking on net and reach my house late at night and get beaten from my parents for staying out for so late and never got food(she had internet connection at home and spoke to me from home). We shared this relation for about 3 1/2 years. I stuggled so much to live without her and without seeing her. Many a times I had shed blood tears thinking about the distance. But one day I decided to meet her. Searched a part time job and saved money. Worked for nights. Sacrificed my sleep and food for her.
    Then reached Bangkok (first time I had ever been out of my country). There was this shocking and heart breaking thing for me. She never meet me there. Nor spoke to me when I called her up.I even went to her college. I searched for her, asked people for her by showing her picuture, and asked them if she studies in this college. I even Slept on the road outside the college waiting for her.
    But she never turned up. While I was in the airport, I called her up. She only said "Forget me, sam".
    Had anyone had such a disaster in their life?
  • Jun 5, 2008, 10:37 AM
    BMI
    Can't say that I have friend.

    Ummm, perhaps you should consider what drove you to such lenghts for a girl you never met? The phrase jumping in too soon is an understatement here. Try not to confuse love and wow somebody likes me.

    Oh and next time think it ALL the way through before you travel the ends of the earth looking for little miss right... whom... you've... never... seen.

    Sorry,it must suck.
  • Jun 5, 2008, 10:41 AM
    danielnoahsmommy
    Sounds like she s hiding something from you. Perhaps she was trying to save you from hartach
  • Jun 5, 2008, 10:41 AM
    starlite1
    Hi CF,

    I am sorry that this happened to you. Obviously she is a cold, uncaring individual. What I suggest, and I know this is hard, is try and forget about her. The fact that she didn't even give you a reason as to why she called it off with you, is very unfair. You need to really look hard at what has happened, and know that you will find someone that will treat you with respect. I suggest you also get together with friends and go out and meet people. Maybe someone from your school?
  • Jun 5, 2008, 10:47 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starlite1
    Hi CF,

    I am sorry that this happened to you. Obviously she is a cold, uncaring individual. What I suggest, and I know this is hard, is try and forget about her. The fact that she didn't even give you a reason as to why she called it off with you, is very unfair. You need to really look hard at what has happened, and know that you will find someone that will treat you with respect. I suggest you also get together with friends and go out and meet people. Maybe someone from your school?


    I am no more in school now. I am working now. And am in the look out in this site for someone who has been cheated out. Because a broken heart understands another broken heart.
    I know she has cheated my pure and honest love. I stayed far from her but always felt her by my side. But...
    So I want to make a broken heart as mine now.
  • Jun 5, 2008, 10:50 AM
    talaniman
    You went through an awful lot to meet that voice on the other side of the computer, and sorry it was for nothing. That's love though, work your A$$ of and go through hell, and for whatever reason they change their minds.

    The Morale: Never give someone, more than you give yourself.

    Put that same energy into loving yourself, as you did loving that dream.

    Your results should be awesome.
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:03 AM
    starlite1
    Everyone here has been hurt, and all of our hearts have been broken. We are all trying to heal, it is so hard, I know. The best thing to do right now is talk it all out with us.
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:07 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starlite1
    Everyone here has been hurt, and all of our hearts have been broken. We are all trying to heal, it is so hard, I know. The best thing to do right now is talk it all out with us.

    Starlite : I did do that. Now all I want to do is look for someone who can be mine( a broken heart to be my heart).
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:16 AM
    starlite1
    I know, CF. And you will find that girl out there. You should take up a hobby, get an interest that you like to do (music, sports, etc), anything to get you out of the house and active. Once you do, you will start feeling better, and who knows? You may meet the girl of your dreams by being active. I would recommend not meeting anyone online right now though (not that you can't find someone nice), but I think if you are going to meet someone, you should meet them face to face. But first, you need to get out there, get into your hobbies, hang out with your friends, go out, and live life and have fun!
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:21 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starlite1
    I know, CF. And you will find that girl out there. You should take up a hobby, get an interest that you like to do (music, sports, etc), anything to get you out of the house and active. Once you do, you will start feeling better, and who knows? You may meet the girl of your dreams by being active. I would recommend not meeting anyone online right now though (not that you can't find someone nice), but I think if you are going to meet someone, you should meet them face to face. But first, you need to get out there, get into your hobbies, hang out with your friends, go out, and live life and have fun!

    Starlite: Why not on this site. All people are not dishonest here. They know what love is and understand it. They have lived with it. If I get someone nice and loving on this site (who is being betrayed by some guy), will it matter to her that we are away and can't have relation?
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:29 AM
    liz28
    This story is so heart wretching and it so sad you travel outside your country to sleep on roads and search all over for her she was scaming you but it sad had to go there to find out
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:32 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by liz28
    This story is so heart wretching and it so sad you travel outside your country to sleep on roads and search all over for her she was scaming you but it sad had to go ther to find out


    I know how I have felt all these days and what I have undergone. But today, here I am looking for someone who have lost her heart and looking for a good and honest heart . Wish I get someone here.
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:39 AM
    starlite1
    It depends on the person. I see your point, but this is a site for people to help other people. Can two people meet on this site, start as friends and then fall for each other? I wouldn't doubt it at all. But, don't lose site that this is a site for support, not a dating site. If you happen to be talking with someone, and the two of you happen to hit it off, then that is great! But, you need to understand that this isn't a dating site. It is a support site first.
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:41 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starlite1
    It depends on the person. I see your point, but this is a site for people to help other people. Can two people meet on this site, start out as friends and then fall for each other? I wouldn't doubt it at all. But, don't lose site that this is a site for support, not a dating site. If you happen to be talking with someone, and the two of you happen to hit it off, then that is great! But, you need to understand that this isn't a dating site. It is a support site first.


    I would also be a support for someone who needs a support and someone would give me support because I need support.
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:42 AM
    BMI
    WHAT!?

    You mean I've been posting answers and questions here and there's little chance I'm going to get something from it?? Nobody told me that when I signed up!

    Just kidding, good post Starlight.
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:45 AM
    starlite1
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by BMI
    WHAT!?!?!

    You mean I've been posting answers and questions here and there's little chance I'm gonna get something from it???? Nobody told me that when I signed up!!

    Just kidding, good post Starlight.

    Thanks BMI... and... sorry ;)
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:50 AM
    damaged
    I agree with Starlite...
    We have come to this site not looking for someone to get in a relationship with, but to seek advice!. This is what this site is meant for...
    Like she said you may find someone and fall in love with that person but that's not the point... If it happens AWESOME, but we're here for support...
  • Jun 5, 2008, 11:51 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starlite1
    Thanks BMI....and...sorry ;)

    Starlite: I would tell you something. You never know whom would you meet and what that 'whom' would do in your life. Because there is always a special person in everybody's life. And you never know where you will find that special person.
  • Jun 5, 2008, 12:01 PM
    starlite1
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by cfloveu
    I would also be a support for someone who needs a support and someone would give me support because i need support.

    You have to offer support first, really share your advice, and your experiences, but do it because you really want to help people, not because you are looking for that 'special someone'. If that is going to happen, it will happen, naturally
  • Jun 5, 2008, 12:12 PM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starlite1
    You have to offer support first, really share your advice, and your experiences, but do it because you really want to help people, not because you are looking for that 'special someone'. If that is going to happen, it will happen, naturally

    I do advice people. There are so many people to whom I have give the best supportive advices
    1:how do I get her to open up?
    2:In South Dakota do you have to have your parents consent?
    3:I've told him I love him. By accident!
    4:I'm torn and don't know what to do
    And many more posts. And what I always advice them is to understand their love and stick to their true love. And advice them not to think from heart.
  • Jun 5, 2008, 04:43 PM
    talaniman
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search...archid=2850841,

    I'm confused as in your other post your married, and that's not the picture you paint here though. What's going on here??
  • Jun 5, 2008, 05:29 PM
    ajhastings88
    ?weird?
  • Jun 6, 2008, 04:23 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search...archid=2850841,

    I'm confused as in your other post your married, and thats not the picture you paint here though. Whats going on here?????


    I didn't understand your post. Who is Married ? I have never been married. Everything was demolished before I could reach the marriage level.
  • Jun 6, 2008, 04:24 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ajhastings88
    ?wierd?


    Sorry? What you really meant?
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:07 AM
    Romefalls19
    I think it will be in your best interest to follow her direction and forget her. She didn't have the nerve to tell you she wasn't coming, so why chase her
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:12 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Romefalls19
    I think it will be in your best interest to follow her direction and forget her. She didn't have the nerve to tell you she wasn't coming, so why chase her


    True. But where do you think that I can get a true and honest gir(I want to meet her online). To prove my ex girlfriend that I have found someone who is true and loves me honestly.
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:28 AM
    starlite1
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by cfloveu
    I dint understand your post. Who is Married ? I have never been married. Everything was demolished before i could reach the marraige level.

    CF - Read this:

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/academ...sm-222716.html

    This is you??
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:34 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starlite1


    Ah! This one is what my friend did. He didn't knew how he need to log in all that. So he put his post to ask about his wife's career. Guys, I apologize for that. He is Sanjay and I am Rahul. Sorry for the confusion guys.
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:36 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starlite1


    Starlite, how you doing now. By the way what is your age?
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:51 AM
    starlite1
    Still wanting my ex back. Trying to be strong
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:53 AM
    damaged
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by cfloveu
    True. But where do you think that i can get a true and honest gir(i want to meet her online). To prove my ex gf that i have found someone who is true and loves me honestly.

    Why don't you go out, and meet some people instead of looking for a girl online?. You can make new "real" friends and maybe find the love of your life...

    & why do you need to prove anything to your ex GF?. I don't even think she cares!. Forget about her.. Your kind of obsessed & that's not healthy...
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:53 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starlite1
    Still wanting my ex back. Trying to be strong

    Can I see your picture?
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:57 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by damaged
    why don't you go out, and meet some people instead of looking for a girl online???...You can make new "real" friends and maybe find the love of your life...

    & why do you need to prove anything to your ex GF??...I dont even think she cares!!..Forget about her..Your kinda obsessed & thats not healthy...


    May be true. But still I want to make myself convinced with that. Are there any dating portals online?
  • Jun 6, 2008, 05:58 AM
    starlite1
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by cfloveu
    Can i see your picture?

    NO
  • Jun 6, 2008, 06:03 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starlite1
    NO

    Just wanted to see the amazing person who's been waiting for her love for long time? And just says "I dont want to give up".
  • Jun 6, 2008, 06:23 AM
    starlite1
    I don't have any pics of me. That is the reason I put the star up.
  • Jun 6, 2008, 06:29 AM
    damaged
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by cfloveu
    May be true. But still i want to make myself convinced with that. Are there any dating portals online?


    Convice yourself of what?. that you can find a loving, caring woman??
    I don't doubt it... maybe one day you will.. But is not as easy as you think...
    Do you think that by going on a dating site you will meet a person on the first day and you will fall in love?. U won't... It takes time!!

    Joing Eharmony or something!
  • Jun 6, 2008, 06:42 AM
    starlite1
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by damaged
    convice yourself of what??...that you can find a loving, caring woman???
    i don't doubt it...maybe one day you will..But is not as easy as you think....
    Do you think that by going on a dating site you will meet a person on the first day and you will fall in love??...U won't...It takes time!!!

    Joing Eharmony or something!

    CF - What Damaged is saying is 100% true. It takes time, and once you do meet your love, it takes work. ALL relationships take work.

    If you want to good dating site, go to www.eharmony.com; just like damaged said. You will have to pay $$ but, perhaps you may find what you are looking for.
  • Jun 6, 2008, 06:45 AM
    liz28
    I just want to add online dating sites have worked for some people but most of the time it don't. Don't just focus on that being your only way to meet girls, you have to leave the computer and go out and mangle. You took a chance already and interacted with someone for over 3 years you don't want to go through something similar again or I agree with the above if that's your thing do it locally and don't drag the meeting and if they do then something not right.
  • Jun 6, 2008, 07:10 AM
    cfloveu
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by liz28
    I just want to add online dating sites have worked for some people but most of the time it dont. Dont just focus on that being your only way to meet girls, you have to leave the computer and go out and mangle. You took a chance already and interacted with someone for over 3 years you dont want to go through something similar again or I agree with the above if thats your thing do it locally and dont drag the meeting and if they do then something not right.


    Let me try some dating sites, probably those sites which do ask for $$$$$. Locally I have not tried yet. Whoever I find good and charming - are engaged. So better looking for a person who have been betrayed and is looking for a good and solid relationship. Not a relation 'where you find the man being changed and apparently you change the man.'

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