"I will always love you". Is that just BS when being dumped?
Hello folks,
I've broken up with my girlfriend about 2 months ago. Background here:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...me-214728.html
In any case we've been moving on with our lives. It's hard of course but I think I'm doing rather well. However I am irked by one thing. When dumping me, she has told me that she "loves me" and will "always love me and appreciate what I've done for her" and thinks I was "amazing to her". OK, that's good. However what irks me is that she seems to be removing all (public) remembrance of me. Basically removing any pictures she has posted of me. Removing any comments by me or about me on her social networking site. Pretty much anything related to me publicly anywhere. She has slowly done this over the 2 months. She first removed the photos/comments which explicitly look like where we are a couple (us hugging, etc) which I totally understand. But recently, she has removed more benign photos of me (me just standing there or me hanging out with her friends). Even comments like "hey, what's up" have been removed. It appears she wants to remove all traces of me. It bugs me because I look back on the relationship and look positively on it and still look somewhat positively at her and hope for the best for her. I even still help her out a bit here and there (I don't need to contact her to do this and she knows I do this and says she appreciates it so much and will try to repay me someday). Now for someone who says she still loves me (as a friend), thinks I'm great, etc... it seems weird that she seems to not want to have anything to do with me. Maybe what she told me is a bunch of BS? Which is making me think that I am being stupid for still thinking positively about her and still helping her out and wishing the best for her. We keep minimal contact (mostly she has sent the occasional short text or e-mail to see how I'm doing and I will respond) so it's not like I pester her. I'm actively looking to move on (date others, etc). It's just that if she truly wanted to be friends like she was looking for in the beginning, it seems strange to not want to do anything with me. Am I looking too positively on her and all that "I will always love you" comments was just her trying to let me down nicely? Am I being a sucker helping out someone who doesn't even consider me a friend anymore?
I could be blamed for firing the first salvo so to speak when I first removed her from my "friends" group initially since I was upset. So maybe I'm just being hypocritical? May have done that but I still have memories and photos on my site because I still look back positively... anyway I don't know...
Any insight is appreciated. Thanks
Opportunity to date someone new. But should I give one last try with the ex again?
Hello,
I've broken up with my ex for over 2 months now. She basically wanted time apart to reflect and concentrate on her new career and we ended up deciding to end it as I could not sit around and wait and hope she decides to come back to me in who knows how long.
(full story here from an old thread: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...me-214728.html)
I always held out (small) hope that there might be a chance we get back together when thing settle down in her life even though we are moving on from each other.
I have begun to get active in the dating scene again and now have a few opportunities. However I still felt that I had some special chemistry with my ex that I don't know if I can find with someone else. So I was entertaining the though of contacting her and just re-asking if she still is happy with ending the relationship... maybe hinting that this our last chance to try rekindle the flame so to speak, before I completely move on from her life and start trying some of these new dating opportunities.
Is this just stupid thinking? I think it probably is and I should just move on already...