This is a long story, so here it goes.
Background Info on me:
I have been in a long relationship (1 year 7 Months.) It was a bad relationship for me for many reasons, I stuck around way longer than I should. I was looking for a way out for a very long time. My way out came along when I knew I was going to be at an event with a girl I wanted to get with. For clarity we will call the new girl "HER".
Knowing I was going to be at an event later in the day with "HER" I broke up with my long term girlfriend that the morning of the event. Later in the day I asked "HER" out for the following weekend. She replied with an enthusiastic "Yes I'd like that".
Fast forward, we talked a few times during the next week leading up to the date.
We ended up spending going on 4 dates back to back and in one instance I spend the whole day and most of the night with "HER". Things were great. We both acknowledged how great things where. We went out with groups of people and we were always in our "Own little world"
Background info on "HER"
She just got out of long term relationship(1 yr) - with in the last month. She just ended talking with him after I asked her out. She is a very intelligent and logical person.
Things progressed and date #4 didn't end really, she stayed over, we held each other and talked till 5am and eventually feel asleep. We shared really personal things that we haven't shared with anyone ever before. It was great. We woke up the next morning and things got physical. We went all the way. I had to hurry to work afterwards I was late. She stayed and slept and picked up lunch for me. I met her at my house, I ate and we took a nap together. Things were great. She went home, I went back to work.
Which brings us to why I'm posting here now.
Enter the we need to slow down talks.
School is very important to her, she is a freshman. She is very goal oriented in school and she doesn't want to loose sight of those goals because of a relationship. I thought about this some and told her that I would support and help her achieve her goals anyway I could. I assured her that she could still be herself and be with me. I didn't want to change her because I like who she was.
Long story short,
She says she isn't ready for the serious relationship that she thinks we will be. She doesn't want us to be each others rebound. She wants us both to have time to get over our past relationships. She says she is more sure than anything that there is a future for us. She just wants the timing to be right. She asked me to give her two weeks with no contact. Then just be friends and talk for a few months (coincidentally in roughly that same time she will be home for the summer which is only a 15 minutes from me) instead of the hours away now.
Which I gave her, and she called me back in exactly two weeks. We spoke for about ten minutes, mainly me talking about what I've been doing. I made her laugh real good a few times so I think it was a positive talk. We did not speak of anything serious.
Which brings me to my questions.
I want to be sure she still wants to get with me.
I don't want to spend months talking to her still "hung up on her" if she has already ruled out a relationship with me.
I really want to be with her, I really like her(im fighting using the word love), and we connect on a level I've never felt before. I can see myself marring HER easily. We enjoy and excel in the same interests and yet we both have individual talents that keep us being our own persons.
We haven't spoken since she called two days ago. I don't know if I should call her or not. She is the one that asked me to ask her to make us exclusive. She is also the one that broke it off for all the reasons listed above.
I'm fighting calling her and asking her if she still cares for me, I'm scared of hurting myself more over her. Should I use her calling me back in exactly two weeks as confirmation of her still caring for me? My mind says Yes. My OCD says who knows and that I should ask her to define her feelings for me. I know she wants space so asking her will be pushing her. And I think she wants to feel in control of the tempo of the relationship. I'll gladly wait for her I just want to be sure she has more than just friends in mind for us.
So anyway I don't know what to do. I know the smart thing to do would be play it cool. Keep my confidence, cause I know we have what it takes to have a great relationship. But I think I'm OCD by nature and I am the world's worst at just letting things be and giving time. It's a constant fight everyday, to control that as she is all I think about. I know what I want and she (HER) is it.
What do I do? Should I call her back at the end of the week if she doesn't call? Or just wait for her to call regardless. An important note: when we were defining the terms of said "no contact" I told her I would wait for her I just wanted to know that she wanted me to. She would not admit to wanting me to wait, and said I could do whatever I wanted but she wasn't looking for anyone. That statement worries me.
AS time goes on I'll try to make this post more coherent for the readers. Thanks in advance for reading my pathetic tale of rejection!