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I'm thinking of emailing my ex boyfriend to see if we could try our relationship one more time. My friends are mostly telling me to forget him, but I can't without knowing if there's still a chance for us.
If I don't ask il never know, what should I do?
Im scared
I have a few questions...
1. How old are the both of you?
2. How long were you together?
3. How long have you guys been broken up?
4. What was the reason for the break up?
1. I'm 19, he's 20
2.we were together 16 months
3.we've been apart for nearly 3 months
4.he said he couldn't commit and he's not good enough for me
Well. Need more info.
How long were you two together before? Was it good? Why'd you guys break up? How'd you guys break up? How long have you two been broken up? Is there someone else in the picture for either of you?
Damn. A little late.
Hope you know the whole "i can't commit" and "i'm not good enough for you" is the male version of "i need more time" and "i have to wash my hair"
I don't think I would so much e-mail him to ask for another chance, does he ever make any contact with you? You don't want to come off as desperate and I fear that's how he would take it if you e-mailed him asking for another chance. And to go along with ISneezeFunny.. I can't commit sometimes also means... I can't commit to you
Rome and ISneeze are right. If the right person comes along, no matter who you are you will be ready to commit if that opportunity comes along. If you HAVE to ask so it clears you're head, maybe you shouldn't email him JUST to ask him that. Im sure you could figure out a way to just talk to him and gradually find this out.
You can ask. But don't expect anything. By asking, you could put yourself back to day 1 of the breakup if he doesn't say what you want to hear...
In fact, he could even tell you that he's with someone else. Are you ready to hear that?
That is true, even though 3 months has passed, getting something you didn't want to hear could put you back into day one. Besides if he is wondering the same thing I'm sure he would approach you about it. It really depends on who did the breaking up. If he broke up with you DO NOT ask him that. If that's the case it was his decision to end it, so don't waste anymore of your time on him. Live life for yourself.
Quit jumping from guy to guy, and back again.
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Get yourself together, and enjoy being single, and happy for a change. You don't need a man for that, but you do need to love yourself, more than you do and see what your doing to yourself.
Damn. Tal's the new sheriff in town.
He has a point though... Sometimes you need that one person to give that tough love. It opens your eyes and you think... Wow... I should follow that advice... And what was I thinking
Your friends are right. And so are all the people that posted before me. When a guy says "I can't commit" or "I'm not ready for a relationship" just add 'with you' at the end, and you'll get the real meaning.
You really should move on. If he said that he wasn't good enough for you, inyour head you should've said "you're right" and moved on, just like he did. Don't give him the time of day. Don't email him on his birthday, just let it go and find someone that actually deserves you.
I say do what you feel is right. If you feel you want to be with him now and you can't move on.. If he is willing to try again try again. If it all goes wrong at least you will know and then it will be easier to move on ?x
He told you he couldn't commit and wasn't good enough. So why after 3 months do you think he magically can commit? Have you noticed that he has worked on himself, fixed any major issues, and has become a changed man? Save yourself some dignity and get on with your life. Stay away from men for a while. You need to love yourself... just because you're single doesn't mean you're unloveable or are any less of a human being. So go enjoy some "me" time. Good luck.
I know how you feel, really I do but I would not do it. If he says yes are you sure you really want him, be very very sure, or do you want to try to get over him and find someone who is better for you? But if he says no you are further back then before you emailed him and have to start a healing process all over. Let him come to you. I didn't and pursued my ex. It didn't work and he ended up saying I convinced him to be with me. That hurt even more then when we broke upQuote:
Originally Posted by Miss Sparkle
It's so difficult.
But if I go ahead with it, I'm fully prepared to be rejected.
It would just be good to get out my feelings and leave it at that I think.
I have got good things going on in my life at the mo.
Ive been short listed for miss hertfordshire 2008
I have a new job working with kids
But the problem is, I need affection, I think most people do.
I understand you all telling me to enjoy being single but I've never enjoyed being single
That's your problem right there Sparkle... While you say you want your ex, at this point in time you would take anyone, just to kill the lonliness. Believe when I say, I know how you feel. I was with my ex 2 and half years and now that she's gone.. It's like a part of you in gone. But before you can be back into a healthy relationship you must first be happy being by yourself. Are you going to miss that special someone by your side. Of course but you will be content with it.
Oh its not that, I miss him. I went out with a guy recently but dumped him because he wasn't right for me, so its not the fact that I don't want to to be lonely.
You don't need the kind of affection your getting do you?? It has lead you to a lot of confusion, and jumping from man to man. Is that what you want? You don't need affection, you want it, we all do. First you must love yourself enough to be a lot more choosy where you get it from, and how you get it. If you don't you will be used, and left behind.Quote:
But the problem is, I need affection, I think most people do.
I understand you all telling me to enjoy being single but I've never enjoyed being single
I know how you feel. You want someone to hold you, kiss you, lay next to at night. It makes you feel good. But know that in time you will have those things in due time. In the meantime, enjoy hogging a bed to yourself, go out to dinner with your friends, be good to you, pamper yourself, be your own boyfriend so to speak. Have fun with it. Maybe single won't sound like such a bad thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Miss Sparkle
Of course he isn't right for you. You can't be missing one person and date another. It just doesn't work. I tried but I realized I need to heal and be comfortable with myself before I can start a relationship. If you have hope of getting back with your ex in anyway, I'd say leave him alone for awhile. Let him miss you without you constantly reminding him that you're still there. No guy wants to be bugged by an ex, we have to miss you. Guys make choices out of impulse, we rarely think things through. Then we regret them after awhile and try to fix them.. If he wants to fix it, he will come to you
I told him how I feel and like I expected he just wants to be friends.
Im upset obviously but now I know there's no chance for us to get back with each other I feel more ready to move on and find someone new and better who deserves me. I don't want to be in a relationship which is going nowhere where I don't get unconditional love.
If I'm totally honest, I've been single for nearly 2 months now and I'm starting to get used to it. I have more time for myself and my friends.
I don't miss being squashed up on a single bed with my ex!!
I feel ready for change now.
Id love to find someone special but I'm not going to go out and look for him, he can find me for once!
This is guna sound a little silly but, most of my friends are in relationships and quite a few of them are engaged. In a way I feel a bit left out, why am I the single one? It makes me think there's something wrong with me because I couldn't keep hold of a man!!
Im 19 and I should have found someone by now, I'm quite scared il be a spinster! My mum predicted that I would be and she's right about most things!
19!! Wow.. If there's something wrong with you, I'm definitely a lot worse.. 21 and I'm single.. I'm loving it, not having anyone to answer too, yeah the nights are long and I miss my ex, but it all goes away eventually and that's what I keep telling myself.
I just imagined myself being at least engaged by the time I was 20, I'm 20 in August so there's very little chance of it happening. But I'm not guna date any losers just to find a potential husband!
Why get engaged so early? You only live once, these are the best years of our lives, don't waste them worrying about what age you're going to get engaged and married. It will happen I promise
I'm very doubtful at the moment, but it may happen. I don't seem to have much trouble attrating men, but the ones interested generally want sex straight away whereas I prefer to wait a good few months. They can't handle that and run away from me!! :(
Then they aren't good men... Sex is nothing to base a relationship on.. Very rarely do one night stands last into marriages
I respect my body a huge amount, which I don't think is a bad thing, but a lot of men I meet don't. But at least I never sleep with random losers!!
Is it hard?It is but I'm passing trough the same thing and I think that you should really focus on the fact that the couple is divided.Sure you could try and tape the relationship but it would never be one piece,it would just be two pieces taped together.If the fault was his,next time will be worst,and plus he will treat you like some girl that will forgive anything and do more and more bad s.If he refuses,you'll make a loser out of yourself,if he accepts you will still be a loser only you will not know.Anyway,just don't do anything stupid like forgive anything,I've done it so I don't recommend it to anyone.Trust me,angels live in heaven and heaven is far far away girl,definitely not on this world,don't get fooled by "I'm sorry,I was wrong,I won't do it again...".IF LOVE ENDS,MAYBE IT ISN'T LOVE AT ALL,YOU JUST MADE A MISTAKE!"
Well watever it is, it's over now. Im guna move on. Ive wasted too many of my tears on him
That is better.I don't know if the next will be better but good luck with the next one!
Itl take a bit of time for the pain of the split to go away, but I know itl get better. I told my ex how I felt and I thought itd put back to day one of the break up, but it hasn't. I feel stronger and ready to go out and show the rest of the world what I'm made of. I won't lie and say I'm over him, because I'm not but I will be in time... I hope :)
I just got an email from him!! I'm so angry now. Hes listed why he broke up with me. It's stupid things like going to bed at different times and not talking to his friends enough, the friends that didn't bother talking to me. And loads of stupid tiny things that couldve been sorted if hed said something. I hate him
Don't even feed into him... Don't reply to the e-mail. He obviously sees that you're getting stronger, so he wants to break you back down. It's a sick game, they think they have control and once they start to lose it, they immediately panic to do anything to gain it back.. Ex.. Emails or of course... Stalking
I don't know if it's a good idea for me to delete his phone number and email so I'm not tempted to call him. I always text him when I'm drunk
Definitely delete then... When I get drunk I used to have that urge too. So I deleted her number from my phone address book, and her e-mail as well. Plus drinking with friends helps you not want to text because they punch you
Yeah my best friend definitely would. I feel so sad now I've read the email, I was feeling positive today but now I'm right back to the beginning
Next email just delete... You know his games, don't play.. Or E-mail him back and politely tell him.. Please do not email me anymore, thank you
If you still have his phone number and answer to his e-mails,then you are very low right now.A weak mind always does things in a certain manner that allows others to take profit of it.Be strong.Think that you have to rebuilt your life so down with the old in with the new.If you do not put everything behind you will end up at his mercy.You are better than this,you should be proud of yourself because you can live without him or any loser whom thinks that he owns you.Live your life free of tears and crying for dam s.You heard about Tiesto,whale JUST BE!(lovely song,goes to my heart)
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