Ex needs space but still calls
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Hello, I am new to this, but really need advice. I dated a girl for 9 months (distance, 4 hour drive), we were desperately in love, sex was the best ever for both of us, the only problem was I am the smothering type and was always available. She then said she needed space. I gave it to her. Within two weeks she was visiting me more than ever and everything was great again for another 3 months. Then 6 weeks ago she moved to a new city (5 hours away). We were going to see how things worked out, but when I visited she had already made up her mind it seemed, even though we cuddled and we kissed, things did not progress (I reverted back to my smothering ways when she moved, always asking about other guys which caused a lot of fights leading up to the visit and after). Despite the fights she still called 3-4 times a day. Recently she started seeing and hooking up with another guy. We both said mean things to each other. Then I decided to tell her I don't want her anymore and don't want to talk to her for a long time until we can become good friends without feelings (she really wants to be friends). I've also let it be known that I'm hanging out with another girl (she does not know it is just as friends right now). Days have gone by now, and she contacts me in various ways (AIM, Text, call). I have been ignoring them. The truth is I want her back because I love her company and her sexuality, should I continue to ignore her contacts? If I really want her back how do I go about doing this? Is this guy really a threat? She has always told me I was not her type but our relationship lasted twice as long as any other one she's had and she is the type that always needs a guys attention. What do you think? Thanks
Ignoring ex's calls.should I be?
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Hey everyone, I'm back. A lot has changed since the last post (linked above).
We had a bad fight 4 days ago, she kept saying she doesn't love me anymore, I'm not her type, she can't see herself with me in the future, she wants her ex, blah blah blah. To say the least she really hurt me. After this I just stopped talking to her, made her miss me? Ever since then she's called mutliple times per day, I do not answer, but no messages are left. Yesterday she IM's me on AIM, and says "just wanted to let you know that I made those things up to piss you off, and I never used you." I did not respond, and I thought since she got this off her chest the calls would end. Wrong, this morning she called again. What is going on? I am trying to move on, as you all said I should do.
What I want is to move on, date other people, see what I like and have the possibility of finding her again in the future. She really hurt me though by saying the things she did (even though they weren't true). I know she is in a new place and just does not know what she wants, but I'm sick of being so available to her. Should I keep ignoring her? Does this make me more attractive to her? PLEASE HELP, I am dying to talk to her!