My girlfriend and I broke up 3 days ago. We are in our early 20s. We go to the same school and have the same friends. The thing is, I made the ultimate mistake. I developed my entire life around her. I have a few friends (3 - 4) that I hang out with on occasion. But my day includes: classes, work, dinner with her, rest of the night with her. The days she isn't with me (when she hangs out with her friends) I am hanging out with mine. Truth is, she has more friends than me and she goes out more than I do... mainly because when she goes out, I have other things to do such as clean my apartment, laundry, go grocery shopping, other errands. So yeah. My bad on that.

In the 3 years we have been together, we have never fought. We have had small arguments here and there, but nothing big at all. No yelling, no hitting, nothing. We get along extremely well to the point her friends envy our relationship. Hell, her relatives envy our relationship.

The Breakup

The past week, she has been really stressed due to exams and competition (she is the captain of a certain team). So when she seemed a bit off, I just brushed it off. Over the weekend, I got a call from a (guy) friend of hers that she collapsed and was in the ER. I went there, found out she was just exhausted from stress. I took her home, took care of her, stayed up all night and made sure she ate, slept, etc. Next day, I take her back to her place, drop her off, and I went out to get some food for her. I come back and she is surrounded by her friends. No biggie... cept that she somewhat shafted me for her friends when I got back. So I left, I had things to do... but I don't get a call from her until 1am. This is very unusual as she usually calls me 3 - 4 times a day.. but again, I brushed it off... she just got back from the hospital. She's tired. She's around her friends.

Next day, I ask her what's going on... why things have been happening in the manner that it has. She tells me that she herself has no idea why. She has noticed that as well, but had no clue. She wanted to take winter break (which was coming in 2 weeks) to find out what was wrong, but now that I brought it up, she wanted to take a break. I asked, what kind? She said, the kind where we talk and hang out, but we're not a couple. I immediately thought, bad idea. I suggested that we break up. So we break up.

Didn't sleep that night.

Post break up.

Day 1 of BU (breakup), I find myself constantly checking phone/e-mail/etc. I don't call. I just check. I am told by my friend that she has at least 4 people with her at a given time... she is not allowed to be left alone. Apparently, she is a train wreck. I feel bad. I don't do anything. Later, I walk out of the lib and find her walking with a guy that I was suspicious of... and she knew that I was. I call her, and she explains that he's been assigned by a friend to walk with her... apparently they take turns walking with her. Fine.

I asked for a reason why we broke up. She said that she needs time to think. Someone should make a t-shirt out of that phrase. I've had bad breakups before. I know it sucks for a while. I expected it, but not during finals week. This f-ing blows. Can't study.

However, I am doing what sdjosh, samesame, mackenzie, etc are saying on here. NO CONTACT. I knew that. I don't initiate contact. Drives me crazy, but I do it.

Day 2 of BU. She decided that she is going to call me... everyday. She even said so. She said that she'll call me until I tell her not to. Ball in my court. Another t-shirt idea. I tell her that I will not call her. 4 hours later, I call her asking an innocuous question (I was curious to know the answer!! ) about her friend. That is all. We haven't talked since.

I hear that she's still a train wreck from my friends. Doesn't eat. Doesn't sleep. My idea is that she wants to take winter break to think about things. At this point, I'm hitting the gym. Working on me. I'm doing everything I can to stay busy.

I will see her two more times in the next week (1: mutual friend's birthday is this week... so dinner. 2: we are meeting up this weekend to give each other some stuff back that we've left at each other's places)

My question is...

What do I tell her about the calling me daily thing? Granted, I love the fact that she calls me everyday. I wait for it. When she does call me, I act like an a-hole and I am very cold/distant. But should I just simply say, don't call me? I was planning on not calling her at all. Maybe txting her on christmas to say merry christmas or new year's... but is THAT even wrong? Help?

Disclaimer: I just read the post... it seems like she's somewhat of a jerk... but really, I just don't have the patience and the energy to type every little detail about us. Trust me, we treat each other equally in affection and respect. She is very sweet. I want to say that I'm in somewhat of the same boat as everyone else here... cept that she just makes it clear that she wants to take some time off, only reason she didn't want me to wait for her was that it'd be unfair for me. So yeah.

She is confused, and its making you confused. It may be a simple as she is doing too much, and needs to arrange a lighter schedule, or she wants to move in another direction, or make changes. She sounds very popular, and I can see her being pulled in many directions and her collapse tells me she can't do it, physically, but she tries. So in all that she gives you up. If your going to go no contact, then stop taking her calls. Let her straighten out her own issues, so be unavailable for the small talk, and false hope.

Hi sneeze
Sorry for your predicament sounds very confusing , I have seen this so many times on this site. I would say she has been thinking about this for some time as they usually have. So I think best thing for you to do is do the NC as you say your doing , this means no phone calls , texts , messaging etc. If she wants you she knows where you are , but I believe you say , you can either have all of me or none. Put the ball in her court and make her choose. If you agree to the calling everyday thing you are just playing into her hands and that is she will have her guilt eased because you will always be there for her even though she doesn't necessarily want to be with you.

Read the link at the bottom of my signature to see the common downfalls of dumpees.

Makes sense. I figured as much, just wanted some confirmation. It is true, she is very busy. She's not very popular, but she's one of those "really nice people" that tries to please everyone, and for that, everyone loves her. Really, she's just nice to a fault.

Obviously, I don't want to "not talk to her" tomorrow at dinner, so I will. It's a very intimate dinner with just 4 - 5 close friends, and I'd rather not make things extremely uncomfortable. But I will just do small talk.

This weekend, when we are giving each other our stuff back, I will then talk to her about 100% no contact.

I am doing just fine. I have been making plans with friends and having dinner with them. I am able to study, although I get distracted every 15 min or so, I am chugging along. I am hitting the gym hard right before I go to sleep so that by the time I go to bed, I am completely exhausted.

She called me today just to see how I was doing. It was a 2 min conversation, and 1 min into it, she started to cry again. Made me feel like an , but I did OK.

I agree with both answers. She has been thinking of it for a while (roughly 2 months), and she is doing too much. We'll see.

My plan is: I will just do what I do, and I will let her think over winter break (roughly 1 month). 2 things can happen:

1. She calls me, she wants to get back with me. At this point, I will make a decision based on how I feel... not 100% sure I want to get back with her. Mainly because she might be wanting to get back with me for the sheer loneliness. I don't want that.

2. We both get over each other, and we move on. I'm OK with that.

I hope everyone else in this situation is doing all right. Wish everyone the best of luck.

Well you definitely seem to have your head around this pretty well. I wish you luck and keep us posted.

I agree, its time to move on, both of you.

Wow! You sound like a total delight! I love your t-shirt comments and the fact that you are really sticking to the NC thing. Now, if only I were a few decades younger...

@ Wondergirl: how old could you possibly be? Age ain't nuthin but a number... ;)

On a more serious note, as I mentioned prev, we have mutual friends. Actually, most of our friends are the same... they're just closer to her than they are with me... mainly because they're mostly girls. And girls stick together! Right. Anyway, went to coffee with one of them just to take a break from studying. Found out she's not doing too hot. Crying every hour or so, mentioning my name every 20 min in some story that's happened in the past.

Disclaimer: I don't want her to feel bad. This doesn't make me feel good. Some guys usually feel good about this, like YEAH, SHE MISSES ME! I don't. I'd rather her not be sad at all. I know how she feels about me. I don't need her to cry to let me know she's sad.

Anyway, I just ask my friend to take care of her and make sure she eats/sleeps/get her studying done. Nothing more I can do.

I just reread my posts. I got to make something clear: I miss her like hell. I'm a science major on a pre-med route... so I suck at conveying my emotions into writing. Don't get me wrong. I miss her. I think of her constantly. Regardless, I think I'm taking the right steps. My friend asked me, "Aren't you taking a huge risk by not calling her? She thinks you hate her because you don't talk to her."

I was at a loss for words when she asked me that, mainly because whatever answer I gave, I knew she would tell my ex girlfriend. I replied, "I don't hate her. I just need some time off. She needed time, and I realized that I needed time too. I'm taking this day by day." Hopefully that'll do. Seems like a political spin on the answer... didn't answer her question at all.

Anyway, I'm just writing here now because I'm bored and I'm tired of studying. Taking a break. How's everyone doing?

Well sneeze seeing as your asking I'm doing good , I've been there done that. But you really seem to have this under control , and good on you. It's never easy and you just need to read a lot of the posts on here to realise how many people are suffering. But hey once you've conquered this make sure you stay and help other people

I may be to old to understand, but listening to her friend may not be the most reliable thing to do, and it sounds as if your g/f needs a lot more than a b/f.

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I may be to old to understand, but listening to her friend may not be the most reliable thing to do, and it sounds as if your g/f needs a lot more than a b/f.

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I'm not sure what that means... could you clarify?

She just called me this morning to see how I was doing. Again, I answered short answers, keeping the conversation to about a minute. My main point of the conversation is to let her know that I'm still alive, but that's about it. I can't initiate 100% NC until this weekend when we meet up to give each other our things back. Will keep update.

Friends mean well, but often don't know all the facts. They are often to close, and form opinions based on one side of the story.

Just found out today that she's been hanging with this one kid. It's that one kid that I was suspicious of before we broke up. Apparently they talk on the phone at night, text each other, and they study together. I know I'm not supposed to give a crap... but it's a bit hard to study when I think of this kid. I've asked her about him after our breakup, and she said that they're just friends. Just to give a profile of this kid... he's somewhat of a d-bag. Not just because he's spending time with my ex, but I've thought that before we even broke up. He's a bit moody (he'll text my girlfriend and tell her he can't make it to practice--she is the captain of the team) and then 20 min later, he'll text her and ask her if she's mad because he can't come. He's also flirty. I've mentioned my reservations of him to her when we were dating and after we broke up.

My question is... in my opinion, my ex wouldn't initiate contact with this kid. But she's nice enough that if he asks to come over to study, she won't say no. do I have the right to talk to her? Or better yet, should I confront this kid? Or better yet, do I have the right to cause physical harm to this kid?

The answer to all your questions is NO, NO, NO! Its none of your business, not your concern, and she doesn't need a knight in shining armour, to rescue her from herself. Nice try, but mind your own business.

Damn. I was really hoping someone would say YES YOU CAN HIT HIM. c'mon. At least a little bit? OK, what if he gives me a look that just pisses me off?

Just spoke with a friend of mine... he knows the new guy. Apparently, he's just very metro. Doesn't really have guy friends... mostly all girls. He's "that guy". Apparently sleeps over girls' places and nothing ever happens. So... yeah. Not really threatened by the kid, but just annoyed.

I broke NC. Not sure if this is a legit reason... but to me, it was. So she checks her e-mail at my place when she's here, and the comp does the "auto complete" thing where it types her e-mail addy in the blank. I didn't even see her e-mail addy and just typed my password in several times, and it locked her account. So I txted her to tell her the situation, and she said that it works just fine, and no harm done.

Then she called me, and she continued to try and talk to me. Asked me how my studying was going, how my life is, if I'm eating well, etc. also asked me about dinner tomorrow and where're we going, and how much is it going to cost, etc. I replied short answers.

She then asked me if her calling bothers me. At this point, I really don't want dinner tomorrow to be awkward. It's just 5 people. So yeah... any amount of tension will be noticed. So I told her that I'd talk to her this weekend.

We're meeting up Saturday morning, to have some breakfast, give each other our stuff, and just have a short talk about what's going to happen. I'm going to ask for 100% NC.

Kind of sucks. Day 1 was ridic hard. Miserable. Day 2, I was fine. Rough, but a whole lot better. Just today, I find out that this kid's hanging around a lot... etc. back to day 1... with a touch of pissed off-ness.

Spoke to a friend of mine... he's very unbiased, blunt. He said that when she says I NEED SOME TIME... SOME SPACE... it means there's another guy. But anyone who knows my girlfriend knows that there can't be another guy. Like, she's just... not like that... at all. I'm her first boyfriend. Ever. So I don't know. But then again, I'm biased. So tell me what you guys think?

Mostly girls. I want to know: when you tell a guy I NEED SOME TIME... I NEED SOME SPACE TO THINK ABOUT THIS... SOMETHING'S NOT RIGHT... CAN WE TAKE A MONTH OFF TO SEE WHAT'S GOING ON.. does that mean that you really have another guy? Or do you actually mean that sometimes?

In my experiences and from what I see on this board , the "want space" thing generally means she has thought about this for a while and if she can't give you a reason , well sorry yes the possibility of another guy is a real possibility. I'm not saying that's the case but yeah possible for sure.

Dam friend4u178 - now you have got me worried. Isneezefunny you sound in a very similar situation to me - you can read my post - just search for it. Basically been going out with girlfriend for nearly 4 years, nicest girl in the world but I have the same worries you do. Like she is that nice I am worried she would not say no to some guy coming around in case she hurt his feelings. Anyway - about 2.5 weeks ago out of nowhere she said she needed some time/space to think about things because she is not sure about us anymore. We went out for dinner the other night, she said still needs time. I told her I can't just wait for her and I will get on with my life and I recommend going no contact. She got v upset about this, kept telling me she loved me every 5 seconds, wanted to keep my cloths so she could smell them and wear them. Makes no sense does it? I can't imagine her ever cheating/ being interested in another guy but I just don't get it all... maybe we never will!

Let us know how things develop.

You don't ask for NC, how rude, you DO no contact, but getting your stuff back is acceptable, and don't get talked into any arranged group thing. A no thank you, I have plans is sufficient. Start looking after your own long term interests friend, that's what matters.

So if she calls, don't pick up? That's even ruder, no? Do I suggest that we don't talk? How do you approach someone for NC? I'm not calling/txting/e-mailing her unless it's absolutely necessary but she is calling/txting/e-mailing me.. . so now what?

Its your phone, let it ring. Why would you announce your intentions to heal by going NC, to someone who has dumped you, and is making your life hell by wanting you to be a friend? That's rude. That's exactly why you do what you must to heal, and leave her alone. She gave up the right to know what your up to when she kicked you to the curb.

The problem with that is, tal, is that she asks me if it's OK that she calls. So if I say, YEAH, GO AHEAD, BUT I WON'T CALL... and she calls and I don't pick up, that's a huge d-bag move. I'm a nice guy, or at least I'd like to think I am. You know?

So what's the advice here? Tell her not to call? Or tell her that she can call, but I won't pick up?

You remind her that the breakup was her idea, and that, in order to avoid emotional confusion, you want to make it a clean break with no contact. That means she doesn't call you, and you don't call her. She doesn't seek you out for conversation, homework help, whatever. You won't seek her out either. Both of you: No contact.

Yeah, that's what I was going for when I said I was going to ask her for NC. I guess I didn't make that clear?

Regardless, I will update on the dinner tomorrow. It shouldn't be too awkward. Although we are broken up, we get along great superficially. Then I'll update again after the Saturday morning.

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regardless, i will update on the dinner tomorrow. it shouldn't be too awkward. although we are broken up, we get along great superficially. then i'll update again after the saturday morning.

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This is what I would recommend. Don't even go to dinner. Celebrate your friend's birthday the next night or send him a card. That would would totally screw up the healing process being near her for even that length of time. I'm sure your friend would understand. I would stick her stuff in a box on her doorstep so you don't even have to see her. After all, is it really necessary to see her just to get your stuff? Don't even answer your phone when she calls. What all this communication does is humors her... it gives her exactly what she wants. Don't do that. If she can't give you the relationship that YOU want, don't give her the safety net that she wants.

Sounds very cruel to me mafiaangel - it is not her fault she feels the way she feels, I doubt she set out to hurt him.

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Sounds very cruel to me mafiaangel - it is not her fault she feels the way she feels, i doubt she set out to hurt him.

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I'm not saying she did set out to hurt him. I'm not saying she's a bad person. Dang. But there are times when you have to put your own heart, your own feelings, and YOU first.

Got to look out for number one. ;)

I doubt she is trying to intentially hurt you at all, she will be nice to you as a friend, but to expext a dumped partner to change gears that way is not realistic, so you must be responsible for your own healing. Yes that comes before being nice, polite, and broken hearted.

I understand what you guys are saying, I do. However, I don't think this'll be a setback on my healing process. If anything it'll def be a small one. We have a small group of 4 friends, pretty much 2 couples (well, it was back in the day). The other couple broke up, but they remained very good friends and found other people. We remained a couple until this past weekend. But we still hang out all four of us. So I feel that I can't just back out, mainly because my friend is leaving town due to a job. So I won't see her after tonight.

I will be all right. I doubt she's playing games with me in any way shape or form. I feel that she actually cares and is constantly trying to mend things between us, but I am just maintaining my distance.

I'll update after dinner.

Have a good time then.

Just got back from dinner.

We usually just drive in 1 car, but fortunately, I had an errand to run so I met up with them at the restaurant. Dinner was fine, kept it very shallow talk, the entire group just joked around and talked like nothing ever changed. I talked to my ex VERY little. She asked me how my life is, and I just told her it was fine. I wasn't cold or rude, but I wasn't super sweet either.

We went home in separate cars, and I just talked to my friend (who's leaving). Found out that my ex has an irregular heartbeat... had to go to the hospital again... now has a heart monitor. I just simply asked my friend to keep an eye on her, take care of her, but that there's nothing I can do on my end, but to keep me posted. To be honest, right now, the dinner... her being sick... wasn't anywhere near a setback. I have now separated myself from being the ex, and just being someone who heard that she is sick. So I felt fine all throughout dinner, and I feel fine now.

As I said, we're meeting up Saturday just to give each other our stuff back. I'll update then.

Heading out to the lib.

Update:

So, what I'm about to say JUST happened. I did not force any of the following... coincidentally all fell into place.

The news of our breakup spread like wildfire among our friends and through a quarter of the campus. Few guys, interested in my ex, were happy, but were threatened by my friends (I didn't know about this until now). Few girls who were interested in me, began to call.

So far, I have tonight's dinner and movie planned with (we'll call her SUE). I am meeting my ex tomorrow in the morning to give her back her stuff. I have tomorrow afternoon coffee with DANIELLE, and dinner with JULIE. What's going on? No clue. Is myself esteem straight up in the clouds? Absolutely. Am I taking it slow? Very cautiously. Is it too quick to do this? In my opinion, yes. Too soon to date... but not too soon to just hang out with a few people. We'll see where all this goes.

I told my friends NOT to threaten other guys anymore... but now that it's done, I think most of them are just plain scared. Regardless, I'm walking away.

Side note: tonight, after dinner with SUE, I planned on studying with a mutual friend of me and the ex. Apparently, she is not in her best health condition either, and my ex called me to talk to me about the friend's condition. That's all.

Will update tomorrow morning about the meeting. Will keep updating about the others.

I'd stick to no contact at all. Nothing, nada, period. Even on Christmas or New Year's. She needs a break so give it to her. Don't allow yourself to be made to feel guilty about it. Take some time to think and reflect. You may come to find that this relationship really isn't right for you after all.

Glad your going to take it slow, Casonova. Your healing is the main thing. But as you say being out among people (pretty people), is a way to just have fun and show you there is life after a break up HEHEHEHE! Have fun , but stay focused.

Update.

Somewhat of a setback.

Two things:

1. please don't judge me. However, something happened last night that I'm feeling... a bit... unsure of. Dinner and movie with SUE went extremely well. Great conversation, we clicked well together, etc. we get back to my apt (she parked at my place and we went in my car)... and she gets to her car, and her tire's flat. At this point, it's 3am. She lives a good 45 minutes away. So I tell her, why don't you spend the night here, and tomorrow, I'll fix your tire in the morning and you can leave. I swear I had NO intentions of anything happening. I was going to offer her my bed and I could sleep on the couch in the living room. I walk into my apt, and there's a party hosted by my roomie. There're people in the living room. So, we end up in my room. By this time, it's near 4am... I have to meet my ex at 10am... SUE has to be at work by 9am. So we try to just go to sleep. I offer her under the covers while I sleep on top of the covers... you may call me a pansy or a wuss, but I didn't feel like getting into it. SUE and chat in bed for a while and we end up cuddling... one thing leads to another... yep. Damn.

In the morning, we end up having "the talk"... she asks what we are. She knows about my situation... so I tell her that there's no way I can be in a relationship at this moment. She says she didn't expect us to be in a relationship... just wanted to know where we are. I told her that I found her attractive, that we click well, and that I'd like to continue to spend time with her, and I meant it. She took it extremely well. She went to work, I went to breakfast.

As of right now, I genuinely had a great time with SUE. But I'm not sure if my feelings are from loneliness or because I genuinely like her. So I told her exactly that. She understood, and said that she appreciated that I told her the truth. We'll still talk/hang out.

2. breakfast with my ex began when she got in my car (she doesn't have a car). I pick her up, and I notice that she's wearing her heart monitor. This may sound like a sob story, but you got to place yourself in my shoes. Here's a girl that you've dated for roughly 3 years. I've seen her literally EVERY DAY she was here at school and at least spoke on the phone when she wasn't at school. She lost at least 5 lbs in the past week, looks weak, and is sick. Now, if she had cheated on me, I wouldn't have given a damn (yeah, I'm a bastard)... but she didn't. We broke up nicely, so I couldn't help but feel worried. We go to breakfast, we keep light conversation, etc. halfway through breakfast, she lists off symptoms. I'm a pre-med student and have kept up with medical things relatively well enough to know that she's showing symptoms of pregnancy. Now, I use protection every time, but even then, there's always a chance. She says that it was the first thought she had... and that she took a test; it turned out negative. She says she'll retake another one in 2 weeks. That's a doozie.

Also halfway through breakfast, she begins to feel sick, so she goes to my car and lays in my car while I box everything up and pay the check. I drop her back off, and I help her get her stuff into her room, and she wanted to talk to me. Our conversation... in a nutshell... was this:

- she still has the same feelings for me before we broke up
- she says that I did NOTHING wrong
- she's not sure about anything
- she knows she wants to be with me, but not sure if she wants a relationship right now
- she wants a break, but knows it's unfair for her to make me wait, so that's why we broke up
- she will let me know when she figures out what she's feeling
- she says that she'll understand if I find someone else

I believe everything she says. She had no reason to lie to me, and she's the type to be absolutely honest about everything. She's never lied to me, even when she knew it would hurt my feelings. We say our goodbyes, she says that she'll try not to contact me, but when she figures out what she's feeling, then she will to let me know. I tell her that I'm OK with that... and I leave.

Setback. I am now at work. Everyone here may tell me that I was an idiot for going to breakfast. But I felt that I had to. At least to say goodbye to her, to give her her stuff back, to get my stuff back, and to get a clearer explanation. I feel better knowing. It's almost like a kid wanting to touch the stove. It's a lesson learned, but it's a lesson learned the hard way. I'm OK with it.

Today was the last time I saw her. I won't see her again until mid jan when she comes back... if I see her at all. It's me time. I got a gymming partner (gunther... really, his name is gunther, and he's puny. I love it) I got a running partner (my dog). I picked up a new hobby (I'm RE-learning how to play the piano) and I'm also learning ASL (american sign language). I've re-established my contact with most of my old friends, and I am staying busy. I hope everyone's doing well. I'll update within the next week after finals to see how things are going. This week's going to blow... hard.

Btw, I love your writing--all your adventures and comments about them. I especially loved the comment about Gunther lol. I feel like collecting your posts and submitting them for publication to Cosmo or a young adult magazine. Actually, the more I think about it, the more likely it sounds, but I would need your permission first, of course

If your ex is pregnant, whose baby is it?

Well, as of right now, there's a VERY small chance that she's pregnant. VERY VERY VERY small. But it would be mine. 100%. I have no doubts in my mind. As I said before, she is very honest with me to the point that she tells me if a guy hits on her. Once, one of her good guy friends flat out told her that he liked her and that he would be better for her than I would be, and she told me this, and then apologized to me for any chance of her leading him on; she didn't lead him on, and she didn't even flirt with him, but she apologized to me that she wasn't able to pick it up more quick. So yeah.

oh yeah, update:

so I call up my friend (the friend that is moving for work... we had the dinner for her). She is VERY rational, logical, and is strictly unbiased. She's the one I turn to for advice. This is our "game plan". She said there are two things that can happen:

1. my ex comes back in jan and tells me that she wants to get back together. At this point, I will gauge my feelings for her, and also bring up some things that may need some changing if we get back together. I will also bring up our future, and see if anything's there. Dating without a future is like memorizing as many digits of PI as you can. Why do it? There's no point, and plus, it doesn't help you at all. If there is a future, if her reasons for the breakup are legit (and by legit, it doesn't mean that I have to like it, it just has to make reasonable sense in my head... it can't be something like YEAH, I JUST WANTED TO SEE WHAT IT'D FEEL LIKE TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE... ), and if I feel that she genuinely wants to get back, and I still have feelings for her, why not?

2. my ex comes back, she doesn't want to get back. She realizes that she just needs to be alone/independent. I'm OK with that. We both move on.

all this time, I will still hang out with my friends, and do my own thing. I'm not looking to date right now, it's too soon... and last night was too soon.

And what about Sue? Will both of you be OK?

I'm serious about submitting it somewhere. It could be a diary/journal type thing. Now, don't freeze up on me and change your writing style...