Originally Posted by Matteus
Ok, i know im harsh sometimes with my posts, but im someone who doesnt care so much about the feelings of the others, mostly when they are victims of themself. Im tough and i come right to the point, without thinking about the conseguences. but, sometimes this is the best way, to not let him make any kind of decision, bad or good, about the ex factor. Who says that his reactions didnt ruin the relation? Noone can guarantee it. Maybe the girl was not worth, maybe he was not worth. Sometimes people just dont like too much attachment from their partner. He did something the last months, good or bad, doesnt count. Now after the breakup, he must do the opposite of that thing. He was too attached to her before the breakup? After, he should stop it. but that doesnt mean, hate her, go to the NC, and everything everybody here is telling him to do. He was her option, and she was his priority. he can manage his position and change the tables, if he can. She should be an option in his life too, and his priority should be his problems and his life!
Anyway, in his case, i dont think he is someone worth, again and again. I just read the post about he harrased her, etc, and i dont see anything we can change in him. he is a controlling, manipulative, abusive person, stalking, end of the discussion.
