I'm going to see him in a couple hours... he told me that he wants to make things better and start fresh and spend more time. So I had asked him if were going to do anything this weekend and he said yes.. well today I was talking to him and I asked to make sure, and he said no, and I got very upset after that. I don't get how he wants to spend time and makes things better if we can't go out this weekend.

What do I do, what do I tell him, I'm going to see him in a couple hours. How do I make him understand how serious I am about ending things if things don't change.

Try to be more serious and treat him in a way that hurt him a bit.. make him see the special thing inside of you and how lucky he is to be with u... u don't need a guy that shows off by telling he only has a girlfriend... if he doesn't hv time for you now! Then WN!!

Tell him you need a MAN.. that will strike him cold..

Isn't this the same woman who is going after a married man lmao... pretty pitiful to start if you ask me. He could have sex with her then go n do the same thing with you. But maybe you don't care about that.

If he is mαrried-- whαt the hell αre you thinking lαdy.. he won't leαve his wife for you αnd if he does α couple yeαrs.. mαybe months or weeks if kαrmα cαtches up to you he'll leαve you for αnother floozy

Dude, where did you guys get the idea of him being married, read the question I asked... then make a comment, thanks!@

Are you overbearing and clingy? Do you think perhaps that's the problem?

Lol I got the ideα from the previous guy.. like common once someone sαys "homewrecker" I'm αll in it---


Since well this is not you :)

Guys like the chαse-- αny guy cαn tell you thαt α 81 yeαr old or αn 18 yeαr old... find other things to do- go out to with friends, tαke α course [ cooking for exαmple], workout,--etc... be busy -- you αlreαdy told him you wαnted to spend time with him-- your job is done.. now its up to him to decide whether or not to respond... [ you cαn never mαke α mαn wαnt to be with you np mαtter how much you nαg or beg]

If he wαnts to be with you he will be, not only will you be doing some personαk growth but he will see you hαven;t lost your identity to him.. never do thαt-- he mαy be your world but don't let him know thαt or he'll be dictαting your αss --- its weird but when men know your bαsicαlly losing yourself in them they think they own you... I did thαt-- mαny women do thαt the result is αlwαys negαtive.. trust me.

Good luck to yα girlie<3

Okay well he's telling me that he wants to be with me and that he loves me and doesn't want to be with anyone else, he is saying, I'm sorry I've just been busy, and isn't making much time, how is it fair for me.
Why does it have to be on his time and his schedule, and can't just work with mine. How can I make him understand that

Like I sαid the only wαy your going to get your messαge αcross is getting involved in other things, get busy αnd he'll be the one worrying αbout it!-- you've spoken to him thαts αll you cαn do now you hαve to wαit till he gets the point--it mαy be α while..

Maybe you need to take a break. Don't call him or have any contact with him for a while, just as though you have officially ended it. If he confronts you about your sudden silence than you can confront him with the issues that are making you unhappy and, as another poster suggested, tell him to man up or it's over.

My only problem is I need to get something from him (has to do with finances and it already a few days late,) I don't know what to do

Go to his house αnd get it!

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This is right! Just get what ever it is you need from him but not a word about anything else. Right in and right out.

Reading your other questions, I wonder why your still in a relationship with this guy. It doesn't sound healthy or happy from the things you've written. I think you would be better off going to get your stuff, and finding someone who fullfills your needs better.

Things have really been great.. this is our first real fight and disagreement... its just this past couple weeks... and today we talked and he wants to make things work. He just wants met to cut down on phone calls when he's at work.. and I just want him to call and spend more time.. n he said he lvoes me and doesn't want to lose me.. so I don't know.. I want to but I'm still thinking I still have these thoughts in my head.

How do you trust someone again? Is it much or being pushy to ask for proof of things he does unti I fulyl trust him. Its weird I trust him, but I don't know if something he said to me about going out was a lie.. I just don't know if he'll lie to me about something where I can easily just ask this person.. idk

Hitch,
I'm a guy who used to never have time for my G/f's
I wanted to go Rip and raise hell with my Buddies and drink and party.. check out the Chicks and I didn't take my g/f cause she would cramp my fun.. plus I was worried one of the guys would hit up on her and I would lose my (Backup , something to do when there was nothing to do with the guys) Girl.. try telling him if he would rather Play with the boys then spend time with you then he can find something else to do when they had other things to do.. I assume you are both in yer early 20's late teens and this is normal behaviour for a late teen early twentys guy it was for me

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how do you trust someone again? Is it much or being pushy to ask for proof of things he does unti I fulyl trust him. Its weird I trust him, but I don't know if something he said to me about going out was a lie.. I just don't know if he'll lie to me about something where I can easily just ask this person.. idk

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Are we talking present or a past b/f??

Present.. see my new post,. trust...

Give him a break there are plenty of other guys to fuffill your needs and when he sees what he is losing he will wake up.. Like the other poster said you're his back up when the boys are busy...

I saw him today, was with him all day, we talked and straightened a lot of things out, and were going to be together tomorrow too and talk some more, he wants to be with me and make things better..

See my other post about trust.. let me know what you think

You sound clingy and desperate for his attention. Why do you have to call him all the time at work? Id get sick of you too. You seem to push and push and push until you get what you want. You'll just push him away!

Try staying occupied with other things if your clingy!

I don't think I'm clingy, if he can make time for other things and other people... y is it too much to ask for to call me and spend time w more

Ive answered your other thread as well. And as is said in that I don't see why you are with him You clearly aren't happy and if what you say is true he isn't really giving you what you want. You don't trust him and he pays little to no attention to you. Why be in a relationship like that?

Seems cut and dried to me. As hard as it may seem you should probably leave him and move on to a happy and healthy relationship once you've learned your lessons from this one.

And Grayson, I think the disagree was a bit out of line considering you actually agreed with me in a round about kind of way. Someone who needs attention and pushes and pushes and pushes is a pretty good explanation of clingy wouldn't you agree??

Cling definition
Intr.v. clung (klng), cling&#183;ing, clings
1. To hold fast or adhere to something, as by grasping, sticking, embracing, or entwining: clung to the rope to keep from falling; fabrics that cling to the body.
2. To remain close; resist separation: We clung together in the storm.
3. To remain emotionally attached; hold on: clinging to outdated customs
Clingy and desperate ARE two different things, she's desperate
She Craves attention her world is all about ME ME and his world is all about HIM HIM
It's unhealthy . She needs to move on and let the boys play while she finds someone to give her the attention

Skell's definition of clingy / smothering.

Asking someone to prove where they have been when they told you they were going to a family BBQ.

To me that is smothering and not giving me the space I need to have my own life. i.e. Clingy. If a girl demanded that of me I would be considering her clingy. But we are all different and I agree with you also Grayson.

Ditto Skell