We are broken up, but why is she playing me?
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I just broke up with my GF of 5 years. Mostly good, some tough times, but we love each
Other. We are both type A personalities... it's wonderful, but our communication is really
Hard. I think we have to work much harder at it. The problem is, I realize this now! Help,
I mean, the cell phone is the worst invention when you are broken up.. just waiting to ring..
Anyway, 3 weeks ago she was freaking out about her bro getting engaged, and started
Asking about us.. etc... we had taken a break almost 2 years ago for 3 months. and I thought
It was headed that way again, so she was like, "well, I don't know what to do... anyway I said, let's end it, that's it... but I stayed over, and we spent the next day in the most amazing way... it felt better than the last month! Later that week, she was like, I miss you, I love you, and we had dinner that Friday. Then, oh yes, it happened. I called her, and she didn't return my call, and I panicked... I didn't yell, never do, but was like what's up? She was a bit cold.. anyway, that was 2 weeks ago. She obviously needs space, but is she done with me? I mean, after 5 years? And when I phoned her last Monday, left a message, she phoned me RIGHT BACK and talked with me for 20 min. I called her yesterday for dinner,
And she screeens her calls at work, but took mine. She said she'd call me tonight for dinner, but nothing... what gives? Sorry so long, but should I just leave her be, and create a distance? Right now, she KNOWS she has the power... or am I just being dumb
And can't see it's over? It seems like she's still there? If a girl is pissed and angry, woudn't she NOT talk to you, or be real curt?
Please help,. what should I do!? I really want to marry her!
She is answering my calls, but not following through
Hey All,
Am I not seeing the writing on the wall? Or is she genuinely confused? My ex (3 weeks now) told me the other day on the phone that she'd try to see me before she leaves for europe with work. She didn't call me, and I don't know if she's just being polite. Yet she
Said, "oh, we should see this movie with our friend" sometime... so it's not like she won't take my calls... so my question? Is she still interested if she is returning calls, or taking them... and she is going to europe next week for business, will this help her to miss me?
I haven't reached out to her since the other day, so as not to be needy... I know that is what I am... but how do I get her to come back? Is it best to hold out and not call her?
Girls what do you think? She's 27, I'm 39 and I feel like a crazy kid... or should I just let it go?
Do I return her things to her? She said hold on to them.
My Ex and I have been broken up for 5 months. Now... I ended it after a long talk... we had 5 years together, a lot good, a lot bad. (I was with a fiancée when I met her) and she hasn't been in touch w/ me... she was the one initially who was over the moon with me... I'm older than her... anyhow, she still has a bag w/ clothes and some items of importance... I told her 3 weeks ago I'd send them, but after asking her to meet for lunch to give it to her, she said, just hold on to it and I'll pick them up sometime... she is back at school, super busy etc... is she being sincere, or leading me on? Am I not seeing something? It's been a long time, and I know she has moved on, but I feel really hurt that she just up and ignored me..
Unlike her! Does she still have feelings? Is she avoiding me and why? I'd love to get back with her... help!!
Do you think she will take me back?
Hi,
I've been broken up with my ex GF for 6 months... we have hardly had any contact since then, I initiated the breakup, and have tried a few times to reach her, however, while
Polite, she avioded me... we had been together 5 years, with a break initiated by her about 2 yrs ago.. it lasted 3 months... and she came back to me wholeheartedly... I found out she dated someone briefly, and a close friend said she really didn't care much for him...
Anyhow, when we met, it was the strongest chemistry ever... im 39 , she's 27... she fell for me instantly, and I her... she wanted to get married, and have a family... but, I had an ex who was in the picture... no cheating, but she is jealous... anyhow, we went on vacation twice and got along amazingly... great chemistry... so, she was getting freaked out since her brother got engaged, and he's younger.. she wanted to know if we were on the same page etc... but she seemed to want to break it off, I sensed it... anyway, now I recently went to see her at her work... she was surprised, but pleasantly welcoming... she had a concert to go to, but she asked if I'd like to walk with her to her friends apartment, her and the girl are best buds... anyway, great converstation, and I found out she is going to be working at the office building right NEXT to me! Starting next week... so we'll see each other I'm sure... and I asked her if she was seeing someone, and she said, yes... it was the same guy from a few years ago... I thought that odd, but a girl I know said he might be easy for her, a rebound, no effort... I asked her if it was serious, she was like, "i don't know, it might be" and we kept walking... she didn't ask, so I told her I was seeing someone... she was SHOCKED, by her face, but was like, "oh great..."... how long? I told her a few months... she said, how's it going ? I'm like OK... but there's only one you... and she said right back, well, there's only one you! And she said, our relationship had a lot of good times, and I said yes it did... so... we parted at the subway, and she reached out to fix my windblown hair, and we hugged... the next day, she stopped by my work, to show me photos of th concert from the prior night... (she really did have to go to her new job to sign papers, which is next door... )
Sorry so very long... question: I still love her, and never wanted to breakup... do you think she is gone, or is there still hope after all the ups and downs? And if so, what do I do to win her back? Or if not, should I just let it all go? I really love her... but she has been avoiding me for so long... now, we will be separated by a buiding no more than 20 feet away...
Help please!! Thank you all and god bless you!!