My boyfriend told my little sister about our first time having sex, is that weird? Should I be mad at him?

How old are you? Yes I would be very mad!!

Yes, you should be mad!That is something private between the two of u and should be kept between the two of u and no one else!

Not only should you be angry, you should actually dump him. First off, what happens between the two of you is personal and private. Second of all, how old are you, and how old is your sister? If your sister's young, then it's doing some potential damage to her, and giving her the idea that since you're doing it, then it's OK for her to do so.

I'm 21 and she's 15

First, define "told about". Did he just tell her you had sex or did he actually describe what happened. Either way this was a serious breach of privacy. But if he actually described the occasion, that would indicate s tendency towards perversion.

How old is your boyfriend and why did he give her this information?

Would your parents approve of him talking to her about sex in general?

I would be mad.

First thing that pops into my mind is he is getting her reaction to perhaps see if she wanted to have sex, but then that may just be me.

But no men do not tell others about their sexual activity, esp minors and the girls sister

I would be livid. He has no right to divulge that info to anyone, much less your underage sister.

He sounds like a young teen gossiping in the locker room. Not dating material, that's for sure.

I know you think that guys "talk" about having sex and things like that, and it's normal... but you have to realize that it's not "normal" at all.

If he genuinely cared and respected you, he wouldn't divulge that information out to anyone, and if anyone asked, he'd tell them that it's none of their business.

Sounds like he's got issue with what's appropriate and what's not and boundaries.

Warning sign number 1?

Not DETAILS, but what I said afterwards and stuff like how I snuck out to meet him to have sex. I asked him why and he said he thought his and my sisters relationship was close enough that she wouldn't tell anyone. That's not cool.

It's really not cool, and it's creepy. Who cares if she would or wouldn't tell anyone? It's your private life, and he has no right to divulge that info to anyone, much less a minor.

Have you asked him why he thought this was OK? Why would he tell a 15 year old about his sex life with you? What's the purpose? There is none. It's just plain creepy.

I know it's not OK. Just making sure it's not me, he's making me feel crazy.

Why a 21 year old would share their private sex life with a 15 year old is beyond me...

It's bad enough that he told someone about what you two do behind closed doors, but to a 15 year old? Your sister of all people? That's just ridiculous.

I never really cared for people who kiss and tell.

That's just me though.

Have you asked him what in the world he shared that to her?

I think I can safely say that it isn't you.

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I know it's not ok. Just making sure it's not me, he's making me feel crazy.

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It's not you. Not at all.

I hesitate to say the word, but I think most people are feeling the same. An adult that discusses sex with a 15 year old child, well, there are terms for guys like that. That's what's creeping me out. I wouldn't be okay with a guy that told anyone about our sex life, but a guy that shares it with a child, that's just wrong on so many levels.

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I know it's not ok. Just making sure it's not me, he's making me feel crazy.

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No hon, you're not crazy.

The Mother in me is coming out, and I would be very upset if a person was sharing such things with my 15 year old. My kids are still very little, however, being a Mother I can tell you that this doesn't sit well with me.

I see a red flag there.

It's up to you on how you want to handle it.

If it were me, I would be angry and confront him on it.

Forget confronting him, I'd leave him. It's not normal for a guy, especially 21, to share things like that. He should have the maturity and the respect for you to keep it private. It clearly shows that he doesn't respect you as a girlfriend in any way shape or form.

I did confront him. He says he thought my sister's and his relationship was better than that and that she wouldn't tell what he said.