I was a bad boyfriend, now I may have a second chance
I dated my girlfriend for about 13 months. We spent some time getting to know each other over about 6 months before rushing into our relationship. After about 8 months of being exclusive I started acting up pretty bad.
I became really clingy and if I couldn't get her time I would make a huge fuss about it and cause arguments. Oftentimes when she was over my house we would be talking and she would tell me something about her friends or her work and because some of the people she is friends with and works with are younger there would be such a drama and even though I should have listened to her, I would get impatient and say that I was tired of listening to that rubbish. I also accused her for about a month about something which I had no facts on and heard through a rumour.
One episode which I really regret happened somewhere in the middle of that mess. I never drink. It was my birthday and some friends had taken me out and of course after a few drinks I was pretty drunk. She was unable to make it out for drinks because her she had been out of the country and her plane didn't land until later in the evening. She said she would come over to my house after I'd been with my friends and we could have some private birthday time together.
Anyway, she came over. She could obviously tell I was drunk and asked how my night was. I then shouted at her raising my voice very loudly because she was unable to make my birthday. I was completely out of order.
About a month after this she asked to take a break because she could not cope with me anymore. We took the break for two weeks and she came back. Of course I had no changed and we stayed together for another 2 months. I was still just as bad and she said she did not know what to do anymore. I stupidly told her I was not waiting around for her to make her mind up. She couldn't believe me. I was the cause of all these problems and I wouldn't wait around for her to decide. She told me it was over and to get my act together.
I left and over the course of the next week realised how I had destroyed the relationship, if you can call it that.
I started working on myself. I never contacted her over this time but she contacted me quite regular to see how I was doing. Its been around 10 or so weeks since the split and she says she wants to give things another try with me.
She came over to my house last night and we talked and talked. She didn't agree to go back out with me but just yet. She said she wants to see if my behaviour has changed first before she makes any decisions.
There was some talk of putting a rough time limit on it but I called against this. I don't want to say after a month of spending time together we'll make a decision to get back together, because if I act up again right around decision time, its going to have a bad result.
She said she won't be with me until she's seen a significant change. Its like we're going back to dating again.
I would love to have her back right now but this isn't an option for me and realistically Im not in a position to ask for that.
How can I prove that Im changing and I won't display those behaviours again?
Thanks guys.