Breaking an addiction to a man.
Help! I'm a 36 year old woman with 3 kids ages 11, 6, and 5 months. My problem is with the youngest one's father. He lived with me for several months and told me he couldn't have kids so I wasn't taking birth control. When I came up pregnant, he tried to use the excuse that it couldn't be his but
I know exactly that it is. Later on, he bragged that he knew he was fertile and told me he was using me, that I was a run-through. I asked around and sure enough, he has a history of domestic violence, of using and abusing women, as well as several children that he denies. He seems to be sufferig from antisocial personality disorder. Anyway, he was dating other women when I was pregnant which he denies. Now,I know for sure about another woman that he is dating and he can't deny her because I met her. Problem is, he wants to have both of us at his beck and call. During the week he's with her but on weekends he comes to my house using the baby as an excuse but then he wants to fool around with me telling me he's through with the other woman. But just as soon as he leaves, he's back with the other woman again as though I don't exist. He does the same thing every week and it's frustrating me. I feel I am being played by an expert manipulator. I don't trust him at all and a lot of times I cave in because he makes threats to kill me, burn the house down, or kidnap his daughter if I don't play along with his game.
I feel I am addicted to him because I can't let go. He tells the other woman thst I'm crazy and that he just comes to see his daughter so sh doesn't get angry with him. She doesn't really know me andshe believes everything he tells her. He is a very good liar by the way.
I hate the way he treats me and I know I deserv better but he has some kind of hold over me and I want to be free from him for good. He doesn't do anything for the baby ut be mean to her. He even fell holding her one time because he was so drunk. How do I get him out of my life for good? Please help!