Is it possible to forget your first love of 6 years?
Hi all,
My ex of 6 years broke with me in mid June. He was my first serious love. The reason why we broke up was because he said that we are two very different person. Over the 6 years we have been through so much together, he was serving the army for two years but he could come out regularly but I wait for him faithfully. And then my mum passed away in an accident while I was away with him supporting him in some tournament overseas because he wanted me to go very much. I had a very tough time in school for 6 years because it is a very demanding course and got through it with a masters. And after going through a lot of ups and downs together I really thought that we will be much closer. But the thing is we have been drifting apart.
Over the 1 year, the quarrels been very intense, as there was a girl who was interested in my ex. And very proactive in pursuing him.
1) the girl would buy expensive gifts for my ex and he would except it,
2) She asked him to be her partner to attend a wedding dinner together. My ex doesn't know the bride or groom. And he did not even ask me if it was OK for him to go and he just came to inform me that he will be going. And we already had plans to go out on that day but now it has to be cancelled because of the wedding.
3) Both of them took a picture in the club with both of his arms around her waist, I was there at the club, but I was in the toilet when they took this picture.
4) she moved house, to be in the same estate as him and they are neighbours.
5) They will go out together with a group of mutual friends, who are my friends too, but whenever I know she is going ot be there, I will be damn pissed off and would not go and rather stay at home.
6) she sent him breakfast to his house at 6 am in the morning and I found out that he text her " thanks! you are the best! =)"
And after all these, my ex told me that I was paranoid, overly sensitive and conservative.
I asked my girlfriends around and they all told me that he won't be able to accept all these actions. And with him always accept her advances, it gave her the wrong impression too.
I was badly hurt each time... and I would cry alone... and feel upset... because I have gave everything up for him and always loving him unconditionally... and when my mum was sick, I still went overseas to support him while he was in some tournament and when I was back, she was gone. I miss her tonnes :(
When he was at his lowest point of his career, I was always there for him, encouraging him and all, even when his dearest dad gave up on him, I was still there for him. He just left me saying that we are two very different person. There are times where I found out things about him and the girl but I would just keep quiet and just swallow it to avoid quarrelling.
He ever told his best friend that he knows that if one day he has nothing at all , I would still be there for him. I hear it from his best friend.
He contacted me regularly for over a month after we broke up, but one day, he called me to scold me because of that girl. Apparently my best friend left a tagline on her Facebook saying that girl is a . But my best friend did not spell out her name (s*** L** is a ), and she took it upon herself thinking that it is her. And my ex called me over my office hours and scolded me, and trying to protect her. I was so badly hurt getting over my relationship and had to put up with his scoldings and even scolded my best friends. And since then it ended ugly and did not contact each other. Its been two months.
I miss him so much :( I miss the happy times we had :( what should I do?
I am starting to hang out with a new group of friends but somehow I still feel empty like something else is missing and cannot be truly happy.
I love him. And I am always hoping for him to return and knowing his mistakes.
Just when I thought I got over it.
Hey guys,
I broke up with my ex of 6 years about 5 months ago. I just came back from a long 5 week holiday. During this 5 weeks my ex has been calling me just to hear the ring tone of my fone to see if I am overseas or back home. He would call me several times in a day over the whole 5 weeks. I did not pick up or rather I was quite happy that its didn't bother me.
I just got back few days ago, he still calls and I think he knows I am back in town.
WHen I was back I heard from a friend that the woman who broke us up has been speaking ill of me. Saying how possessive, sensitive,petty and always controlling my boyfriend and that's why we broke up. But if you read my previous post, this very woman was the one who came in to stir in our relationship. I feel so affected by whatever she has been telling other people about me, because I swear I gave my best in my last relationship and I put in 200% effort as a girlfriend doing watever I could for my ex and he just didn't appreciate me. I have no regrets till this very day because I did what I could.
I am terrible upset and disappointment upon hearing such comments. And I am also quite irritated that my ex still persistently calls me and its making me feel vulnerable again :(
I really thought I was over this whole episode, but I am starting to feel upset about what happened and about our failed relationship. Its strange but I do miss him still but on another hand I hate him so much for doing this to me. Btw I remained NC with him for over 2 months. And only just last night I was so angry with the woman, I texted my ex to tell her to stop talking about these false stuff about me. And it was a pretty harsh text. There was no reply.
Guys what should I do... I really thought it was over... but I feel its coming back again... it sux