My girlfriend and I of three yrs have recently broke up In the past Month. She left almost all her things with me when she moved out. Laptop,Ipod all her clothes... etc. Why does she not want It? She says she does but when she calls she talks about our relationship. I have asked her many times to come get It. And when she does she takes 2 things at a time. Keep In mind she Is the one that ended this relationship. Its like she keeps It here for a reason... maybe Its me?

Give her a month to get it, if she doesn't dispose of it.

Maybe she doesn't want to see you in person, which is totally understandable and expected. She might not want to relive the negativity that comes with breakups. If you don't want to throw away her things, you can always drop them off at her doorstep without having to encounter her. Or, if you're feeling especially generous, mail them to her.

She can always have a friend pick them up for her.

Put it in a storage under her name, call her tell her she has 30 days before they start charging her to take it out of storage

Ipod and laptop-hmmm.

Give her a call, tell her that you understand if she feels uncomfortable about you being there when she wants to come get her things and offer to drop them off at her current residence while she is away, or offer to leave it with a friend so that she doesn't have to continually take trips over there to get it.

I always feel that if a relationship is going to end in my life, I want to leave it being humble, and respectful. Even if you broke up on terrible terms (cheating, etc.) if you show that you are humble and supportive of the decision, things can go smoothly, and if you still want to be with her, at least she knows that at the end of the day, when she sh*t hits the fan, that she has nothing badly she can say about you or the way you have acted.

In re-cap, I say pack her things up securely in a good bag or something, offer to drop it off to her or at a friends (whichever is most convenient/comfortable for her.)

The girl is doing this to try to hold on to you because she don't want you out of her life. If she calls you and not talk about getting her stuff but wants to talk about your relationship, then that's extactly what it's. Getting one or two things at a time shows she is only trying to prolong it.

Send her a notorized letter, make a copy for yourself, and send it to where she live or send her an email and keep it, in case its needed, and give her a 30 days notice. This way you'll protect yourself in case she decides to call the cops or take you to court.

She doesn't want to move out.

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Put it in a storage under her name, call her tell her she has 30 days before they start charging her to take it out of storage

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I don't know how it works there, but here you have to show ID to get a storage unit, and you can't put it in other people's names.

Nah, around here it's done really easy. Because a lot of people are using the free month, take there stuff out then go back and just write a different name on the paper you fill out

For whatever reason she is stalling, and holding out hope, that things will change, and you'll take her back.

If you don't want that, then box up her stuff and drop it off, and no more conversations about a relationship. Make your feeling very plain and simple.

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Originally Posted by cuzindave96

Its like she keeps It here for a reason....

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The reason is probably that she is using it as an excuse to keep talking to you. Maybe she feels that breaking up with you was a mistake and wants to have a valid reason for calling or coming by.

Same crap here...

My ex refuses to send my stuff back to me...

Yea she pretty much doesn't want to let you go.. I mean its obvious... she still wants to be with you. She probably just broke up with you to prove a point or something. Or maybe she was unhappy if you guys were having problems and wanted to show you hoping you would try to fix it. But now your just telling her to come get her things so obviously it didn't work lol. So now she's trying to drag this out so that she has time to try and get back with you.

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Originally Posted by Starz N h3artz

Yea she pretty much doesn't want to let you go..I mean its obvious...she still wants to be with you. She probably just broke up with you to prove a point or something. Or maybe she was unhappy if you guys were having problems and wanted to show you hoping you would try to fix it. But now your just telling her to come get her things so obviously it didn't work lol. So now she's trying to drag this out so that she has time to try and get back with you.

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What about my relationship?
I was in a LDR for a year and four months... my girlfriend (now ex) said she'll send my stuff back but she won't mail it to me...

Damn it

If you want to ask a question of your own, you need to make a post of your own. Thread-jacking is rude. We would love to answer your question, just don't use someone else's thread to do it.

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Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma

If you want to ask a question of your own, you need to make a post of your own. Thread-jacking is rude. We would love to answer your question, just don't use someone else's thread to do it.

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I'm not thread jacking.. I'm in the same boat as the OP

Asking a question in someone's else's question is thread jacking. Post your own question. You are actually in the opposite boat. He wants his exes stuff out, you can't get your stuff from your ex...

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Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma

Asking a question in someone's elses question is thread jacking. Post your own question. You are actually in the opposite boat. He wants his exes stuff out, you can't get your stuff from your ex....

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I want my ex stuff out too...