Ask Me Help Desk - Is it really that wrong to be obedient?

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

UPDATE:

Talking to my new therapist is wonderful. I see her every other school day!

She's wonderful. She's already figured out the roots of many of my problems!

That is fantastic! Good for you! I'm glad you're getting some good help. :) Keep up the therapy!

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

That is fantastic! Good for you! I'm glad you're getting some good help. :) Keep up the therapy!

Thanks Ohso!

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

Thanks Ohso!

You really deserve to be able to see someone that you can confide in. And it's wonderful that you can trust her. I'm glad things are starting to go well for you now. :)

The only thing I can't confide in her is exact reasoning for hating my dad. Except little minuscule things. Can you believe my privacy issues are from my father punishing me about something I wrote in my diary he read when I was 7?

I'm soooo glad you are getting help. Blessings EMOP

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

The only thing I can't confide in her is exact reasoning for hating my dad. Except little miniscule things. Can you believe my privacy issues are from my father punishing me about something I wrote in my diary he read when I was 7?

Your diary is yours, unless you were REALLY having issues as a small child, he has no reason to look at them. And if those things that he read were about him, then he should have thought about WHY you saw things that way instead of getting angry at you, because if it WAS about him, then what you word was caused by something HE did, and he shouldn't blame you for his actions.

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

The only thing I can't confide in her is exact reasoning for hating my dad. Except little miniscule things. Can you believe my privacy issues are from my father punishing me about something I wrote in my diary he read when I was 7?

I hope you become comfortable enough with her so that you share that information with her too. It will go a long way toward your healing.

One other thing that I want to add: If anyone chooses to invade your privacy, then you are NOT responsible for the way they feel about it. If they're going in and looking for dirt, they better be prepared for what they might find. Your thoughts and diary are meant for you unless you choose to share them. So whatever he read, it's not your fault how he felt about it, it's his.

He read about me hating him and me kissing my first girlfriend. Haha

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

He read about me hating him and me kissing my first girlfriend. haha

And you don't want to tell your counselor this because..

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

And you don't want to tell your counselor this because....?

I told her that! I just can't tell her exactly why I hate my father. At least not yet

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

He read about me hating him and me kissing my first girlfriend. haha

I guarantee that he was more angry at himself then he was at you. But he doesn't know that, and he'd rather blame someone else. You know what I would do?

If you do start another journal make the first page say something like this:
"If you are reading this right now, without my consent, then be warned that there's a good chance that you will not like what you see. This journal is for me to write down my innermost thoughts, and if you don't like them, that's not my fault. I did not write this journal for you to read, or judge me, or punish me. . So you make the choice, because if you do continue, and decide you don't like it, I don't want to know about it. I don't care how you feel about what I wrote down, because I didn't write it down for you. I am not responsible for how you feel about what you had no invitation to read. So think carefully before you continue, because once you read it, you can't put it back on the page and forget about it, and it will have been entirely your choice to impose yourself on my thoughts Use your judgement"

Haha Ohso, I got in trouble for disrespect for something similar in my last journal!

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Haha Ohso, I got in trouble for disrespect for something similar in my last journal!

A journal is your own personal thoughts and feelings. Your space should be respected by your parents.

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A journal is your own personal thoughts and feelings. Your space should be respected by your parents.

It is by my mother

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Haha Ohso, I got in trouble for disrespect for something similar in my last journal!

Disrespect? Is that a joke? They're disrespecting you by reading your journal. Screw that. They might be your parents but you DO have the right to your privacy. They can just get the heck over it. That's just childish. Just wait girly, one day you'll be moved out from there and can write down whatever you want_wherever you want, and they won't be able to say a darn thing about it. Disrespect - my a$$.

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Disrespect? is that a joke? they're disrespecting you by reading your journal. Screw that. they might be your parents but you DO have the right to your privacy. They can just get the heck over it. That's just childish. Just wait girly, one day you'll be moved out from there and can write down whatever you want_wherever you want, and they won't be able to say a darn thing about it. Disrespect - my a$$.

*hug* you made me chuckle Ohso!

They play the "I'm the parent" card anytime I say I want privacy

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

Disrespect? is that a joke? they're disrespecting you by reading your journal. Screw that. they might be your parents but you DO have the right to your privacy. They can just get the heck over it. That's just childish. Just wait girly, one day you'll be moved out from there and can write down whatever you want_wherever you want, and they won't be able to say a darn thing about it. Disrespect - my a$$.

You are right! WOW! Please tell me if I ever make you mad! Well said ohso:D:D:D

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*hug* you made me chuckle Ohso!

They play the "I'm the parent" card anytime I say I want privacy

I'd laugh at them. Just laugh and say "if you say so sir" because honestly, that's a joke. YES, you do have to obey and respect your parents to an extent, BUT, they have to show you respect too, this includes giving you your privacy. Really, when you can, you should try to move out. Maybe with a family member or someone you're close to. But only if you feel like it's the right thing to do, and you have the means to support yourself.

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You are right! WOW! Please tell me if I ever make you mad! Well said ohso:D:D:D

LOL! Well you know, I call it like I see it. :rolleyes:

Last time I called dad sir, he punched me

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Last time I called dad sir, he punched me

Then don't do that. We don't want you punched. OR, if he does do that, call the cops. Seriously. High tail it out of there and find a phone where you are safe, call the cops, and the child protective services. That's wrong on SO many levels for him to do that to you. And I'm guessing you're about half his size too. I hope that if you do get the guts to call the cops, he stays there for a while, maybe someone will punch HIM. I sure hope so.

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Then don't do that. We don't want you punched. OR, if he does do that, call the cops. Seriously. High tail it out of there and find a phone where you are safe, call the cops, adn the child protective services. Thats wrong on SO many levels for him to do that to you. And I'm guessing you're about half his size too. I hope that if you do get the guts to call the cops, he stays there for a while, maybe someone will punch HIM. I sure hope so.

I want him to get the cell with Big Bubba... Yeah I am about half his size. I'm a bit chubby, but I'm still just a 5ft girl. He's a muscular 6ft man

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I want him to get the cell with Big Bubba... Yeah I am about half his size. I'm a bit chubby, but I'm still just a 5ft girl. He's a muscular 6ft man

I sure hope he gets the small cell too, that way they have to squeeze in there NICE and cozy-like. I hear they don't get many blankets either. Bubba might get cold and want to cuddle. I know that's bad, but really, Karma will take care of it. I'm serious though, call the cops if he hits you again. Although, I really don't want you to wait until you're hurt again.

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I want him to get the cell with Big Bubba... Yeah I am about half his size. I'm a bit chubby, but I'm still just a 5ft girl. He's a muscular 6ft man

Let the police take care of it.

The plan is, he raises a finger in harmful intent against any of us, including the dog, I call it in

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The plan is, he raises a finger in harmful intent against any of us, including the dog, I call it in

Do it. I'm serious

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Do it. I'm serious

That's the only way it's going to stop!

I plan on it Ohso. I want to hit those buttons then smile as they carry Daddy away to the car with the pretty lights

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I plan on it Ohso. I want to hit those buttons then smile as they carry Daddy away to the car with the pretty lights

Make sure you have a way to be safe from him as you call, because chances are that if he's angry enough to hit you, he's angry enough to disconnect the phone and go after you once he knows what you're doing, so have a plan to protect yourself and family.

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I plan on it Ohso. I want to hit those buttons then smile as they carry Daddy away to the car with the pretty lights

Might be nice to have a nice photo of him being led away in handcuffs.

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Might be nice to have a nice photo of him being led away in handcuffs.

I'd hang it on my wall

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I'd hang it on my wall

That might be too much. But a photo would be a sweet little memento.

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That might be too much. But a photo would be a sweet little momento.

Ohso, I'd look up at night and think "My family is safe forever" and sleep soundly

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I'd hang it on my wall

HaHa! Take him one to hang on the wall of his cell! SAY CHEESE DADDY DEAREST!

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HaHa! Take him one to hang on the wall of his cell! SAY CHEESE DADDY DEAREST!

I wouldn't want to visit him. When he's out of my life, I'm cutting all ties

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Originally Posted by xXxEmOxXxPrInCeSsxXx

I wouldn't wanna visit him. When he's out of my life, I'm cutting all ties

Good for you ! You will feel a thousand times better about yourself!

You know what, that would be a very comforting thought.

I'm smiling!

Thinking of dad, yet smiling!

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I'm smiling!

Thinking of dad, yet smiling!

I feel it!