Thanks amicon - without you especially I would have never got over this horrible person treating me so badly, so thank you so much. Its easy to type but please understand how much I do appreciate the time yo take to offer help and advice. Xxxxx

You're very welcome! :-) x

Thank you for being such a nice person, you for one have given me hope that there are still some nice people out there in this world xxx :)

I am so happy for you, Louise.You go girl! Stay strong ad vent to us.

Thanks sully 123 :D:D:D

Thanks sully123, don't worry it's the TWO WEEK MARK!! And I'm feeling gooooooood :D:D

Il never ever contact him again, I've learnt my lesson and no I have no desire to understand why he used to treat me like scum. He is an idiot and that's why he did it. I know him and he will wonder when I will coming running back asking him "why do you treat me this way"? Well he is going to have a big shock this time when he don't hear them words ;););)

Your last post is great! I wish you the best of luck!
Hang in there :)

Thanks carrotalker, I will lfor sure hang in there, I realised 2 weeks ago that there are a lot of people worse off than me. A lot of people on here I think need to realise this point that are having problems of there own xxx

Hi everyone - just wanted to give you all an update, I turned my phone on today and my ex has text me asking me if I rang him last night!! Do I reply and say no or should I just ignore the text and pretend I never saw it, I'm thinking of opting for the latter one

Any help would be appreciated, I just don't understand, he told me to leave him alone after I told him not to contact me yet he still has my mobile number in his phone. I don't have his number anymore but recognise his number.

You ignore it Louise.
Don't get drawn back into the gameplaying.
NC-remember?

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Originally Posted by amicon

You ignore it Louise.
Dont get drawn back into the gameplaying.
NC-remember?

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Hi Amicon - why do you think he text me that when he said 2 1/2 weeks ago that he wanted me to stop texting him which I did?? Its just so confusing, surely if he didn't want me in his life then he would have deleted my number??

Louise, don't care, please, why are you even giving him a thought? You are so strong, donb't give in now, you will be back to square one. You are so better off without him. OMG stay away, please!

He is trying to get you to play his stupid games again-dont worry about his twisted reasons.
Stop thinking about the sad sicko!

What you should do is ignore him and feel happy that he is out of your life.

Thanks sully and amicon - don't worry I deleted the text and I won't reply, I've come too far too go back, I know he don't care really - I'm just a little game to him to pass the time when he is bored and that hurts :(

Don't let it hurt you Louise. I admire you for being so strong, we are all here for you. Vent to us, that is all you need.

Don't let it hurt-he's not worthy of your pain.
Take care and enjoy your weekend. :-)

L try and not let it get me down but its so hard :(

He just walks back into my life whenever he pleases, he sent me a really nasty text saying to go away and stop texting him after I had told him not to contact me again. I hurt his feelings by telling him to never contact me again I know that for sure. Now after telling me too f%%k off and stop texting him he turns round and texts me?? I just don't understand what he has to gain by this? :(

He can only hurt you if you allow his actions to hurt.

Tell yourself that its pointless trying to figure him and his actions out.

Keep telling yourself that because that is the truth.

Thanks Amicon - I had all my head straight and was starting to move on and was doing so well with it all. Ive not contacted him for 17 days ish now and didn't really think of him much.

I feel that if I don't text him that he will just carry on texting me until he gets his way, I just wish I had never met him, I hate it that he plays me and his girlfriend off against each other :(

You don't text him.
You stay strong and don't break NC.

Just a quick update, I woke up this morning with a missed call on my phone from my ex, I knew if I didn't reply to his text that he would phone me to see if my mobiles on, that's his little game x

Speak to your network provider-they can block his number as he is a nuisance caller.
And continue ignoring him.
Stay strong.x

So you don't advise me to text him and politely tell him to leave me alone.

Why has he still got my number when he wanted me gone

No more texts,calls or any kind of communication.
Again,don't buy into his attempts at playing games with you.
Ignore,ignore and ignore.

Absolutely not! What to get more aggravated, and get back to square one. It's over and you have moved on.

Repeat after me, Ignore, and delete!!

I have deleted the call and I will pretend that I never saw it - like I say I've come too far to play more of his games, he won't like me ignoring him but I need to think of me for once. He has made his choice and led in his many beds

Remember, you don't care Louise what he thinks. It's about you and you only. Everyday you will get stronger. Later on down the road you will look back and say what was I thinking.

I so hope your right sully123, at the mo I feel used and taken advantage of. I know and finally understand that I can only be miserable if I let him and that will never happen again. Im a lot stronger now that we have not been in contact with each other for nearly 3 weeks.

Thanks for all your words of advice, I'm going to follow them and keep strong!! :)

It just makes me angry that he tells me to stop contacting him and then texts and calls me as he pleases. Grrrrrrrrrrrr

Well grrr-but your anger is wasted on the j**k-save your feelings for somebody who deserves them.

Thanks amicon - I've come on leaps and bounds the past 2 weeks, I've been in touch with old schools friends, planning a holiday and generally looking forward to a fuller happier life.

p.s I can't believe I woke up to snow this morning - what a shock xx

Just wanted to keep you all informed as I haven't been around for a while, my ex texted me the other day and was calling me all these horrible names like a slag, whore, etc and said that I need to get myself down to the std clinic?? All because he found out I was with someone else now. I just don't understand? He says he don't love me and for me to stop calling him but then a few weeks down the track I get abuse like this. It really hurt me and set me back a lot, why would he call me these nasty names when he knows deep down I don't sleep around

Louise,you really need to do something about blocking his number.

You're perfectly fine for weeks then you allow his BS affect you again.

Ive said it before,I'll say it again,ignore the jerk.

Il try amicon (I didn't contact him for ages) and thought I was OK being friends but obviously not, he told me he loved me etc etc and I thought yes we can be friends and it will work out, then I get the texts (whore,slag etc) if he don't love me then why be bothered if I'm with someone else?

Il just ignore them and carry on xx

Expecting truth from a liar, is like using a spoon to dig a hole. Doesn't make sense nor get the job done.

What I don't understand is why you let his surprises through texting upset you still. You know he has the morals of that spoon I just mentioned?

Thanks Tal, I don't understand why he has this power over me, even though his words mean squat as he lies all the time I think everyone likes to be told they are loved even if he may not mean them.

The hurtful thing is that he called me a , whore, slag etc, even in anger would you really call those names to someone that you supposidly love?

I rang him yesterday to say stop contacting me and he was just nasty calling me weird etc, I said look why do you text me eh... do you love me? And he replied I thought I did and then said yes... I think I do yes?? Whay kind of an answer is that

You are a sensitive, emotional lady, I get that, that's why we are here for you to vent to.

>cyber hugs<

Yes,hugs from me too Lou-remember Jeremy Kyle?:-)

Count your blessings,you've got a good life.

Louise, stop calling him back. You come so far, and for some reason you let this idiot bother you. Stop giving in to him. Vent to us, instead. He doesn't love you, he enjoys abusing you and tormenting your mind. Stop allowing it. Enough is enough. Stop dialing this crazy man back. You deserve better.