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Originally Posted by Steve1010

loook please. i rambled on and on because i thought u guys could identify what shes doing, one more time please tell me what u think.. i promise ill listen please.. anything to make myself feel better

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You forget about her, put the phone down, turn it off, turn off Facebook, don't stalk her and what she's doing.

Grab a book, or a movie, take a shower or bath, do something to occupy your mind and forget about her.

As long as you're stalking her, watching her, you'll never get past this, you'll drive yourself crazy.

That's what you do, it's the only thing you can do.

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Originally Posted by Steve1010

why does it make sense! she just added him as a friend!Q WHAT IS GOING ON HERE!

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I'll tell you. She knows you're monitoring her every single freaking move online, and she's doing this to hurt you. Got it? Clearly, you're texting and talking every moment you can, even after Wondergirl advised you not to. She knows she has complete control over you. Last night, she didn't have this control... remember? When you weren't answering her calls? If I were you, I'd stop looking at her Facebook and quit answering her messages... but you won't. You can't fix things the way you're going, but you can't resist being put down by her. Truly amazing, dude. You got all the advice you need. People are much less likely to talk you through this another night, only to watch you give in to her again.

Ren has it right.
She sees that you are keeping track of her and then when she thinks maybe you lost interest she tries to get you back in her web because she loves the control.
You are wasting your time.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

Ren has it right.
She sees that you are keeping track of her and then when she thinks maybe you lost interest she tries to get you back in her web because she loves the control.
You are wasting your time.

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Had to spread the rep NH, but right on.

Darnit, had to spread the rep for you too Ren. I agree.

OK I'm not going to answer her. No more.

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Originally Posted by Steve1010

ok im not gonna answer her. no more.

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Please, please don't. Go watch a movie, turn off your computer. Everything she's doing is to get a reaction from you. Turn off your phone, go meet a guy friend somewhere... do you have any guy friends?

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Originally Posted by Steve1010

ok im not gonna answer her. no more.

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Good... stick to your convictions... it's the only way...

I hope you mean it and don't change your mind 5 minutes from now.

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Originally Posted by liz28

I hope you mean it and don't change your mind 5 minutes from now.

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Me too.

Time to live for yourself, not her. Go do something, anything but watching her and waiting.

Hope you're hanging in there...

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Originally Posted by Ren6

Hope you're hanging in there...

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Well if he doesn't reply, it could mean he took the advice and is off the computer... but we'll see.. really hope this dude does the right thing..

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Wondergirl agrees: I remember saying something like that 400 pages ago...

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You did dear, but you were nice about it. Sometimes you have to smack them over the head with a tire iron in order to get them to listen. ;)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

You did dear, but you were nice about it. Sometimes you have to smack them over the head with a tire iron in order to get them to listen. ;)

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You young people get so rough sometimes. Lawdy me!

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

You young people get so rough sometimes. Lawdy me!

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Haha... what would you have used to knock some sense into someone who just won't listen to reason?

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Originally Posted by BlackVY

Haha... what would you have used to knock some sense into someone who just won't listen to reason?

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No dessert for a whole week?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

No dessert for a whole week?

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That only works on kids 6 and under dear. Just saying. ;)

Yes, I can be mean, but it worked, didn't it? :cool:

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

No dessert for a whole week?

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Hmmm... that might actually be more effective that a smack in the head, but depends on what's for dessert, and if I pull out the puppy dog eyes, will you cave? Lol ;)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

That only works on kids 6 and under dear. Just sayin. ;)

Yes, I can be mean, but it worked, didn't it? :cool:

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We HOPE it worked. What will be on the AMHD agenda for tonight, I wonder?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

We HOPE it worked. What will be on the AMHD agenda for tonight, I wonder?

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True. I do have more tools in my tool case. A claw hammer, a sander, a nail gun. The crowbar was just the first choice, there are other options. ;)

Oops, I just gave my plan away. Not good! :eek:

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

True. I do have more tools in my tool case. A claw hammer, a sander, a nail gun. The crowbar was just the first choice, there are other options. ;)

Oops, I just gave my plan away. Not good! :eek:

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And you've always seems like such a sweet and gentle young lady...

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

And you've always seems like such a sweet and gentle young lady..................

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LMAO! You don't know me at all WG. That's so sweet. Gosh, blush, you, not so much. ;)

I'm kind when I need to be, but kindness wasn't working here, so I was mean. So far so good, it seems to have worked. ::crossing fingers:: :D

I hope he gives us an update. Next post will probably be a wedding announcement. Until the post after that...

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I hope he gives us an update. Next post will probably be a wedding announcement. Until the post after that.............

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If it's a wedding announcement then I'm seriously going to rethink giving out advice. :eek:

Sigh. It's time to wait and see. I hope it's worth the wait. ;)

My wedding is on the 17th of Oct... you coming?

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Originally Posted by BlackVY

My wedding is on the 17th of Oct... ya'll coming?

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To the land down under? You know I can't resist that offer. :D

Okay, we're hijacking the thread. I know, it's my specialty, but I'm going to pull the plug.

Back to our corners we go. :)

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Originally Posted by BlackVY

My wedding is on the 17th of Oct... ya'll coming?

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Congrats! That was my dream wedding date back when I was a teenager. A perfect autumn day!

What will the wedding colors be?

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

To the land down under? You know I can't resist that offer. :D

Okay, we're hijacking the thread. I know, it's my specialty, but I'm gonna pull the plug.

Back to our corners we go. :)

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Haha... true... sorry...

Well back to the poster...

So do you think this girl respects him? I think if he doesn't contact her for a while, she will get scared and maybe take the time to realise what she is doing wrong. She does need to sort herself out though... this is insane... and the messages she was sending him last night were really bad... really hope he gets through this...

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Originally Posted by BlackVY

Haha... true... sorry...

Well back to the poster...

So do you think this girl respects him? I think if he doesn't contact her for a while, she will get scared and maybe take the time to realise what she is doing wrong. She does need to sort herself out though... this is insane... and the messages she was sending him last night were really bad... really hope he gets through this...

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It's going to take more than Steve and AMHD to help her sort out what's going on inside of her. And to her, it's all normal.

Well, he does keep coming back to her when she treats him bad, so she never sees that she is doing something wrong.

Hopefully by leaving her alone for a while, she will realize some things...

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

True. I do have more tools in my tool case. A claw hammer, a sander, a nail gun. The crowbar was just the first choice, there are other options. ;)

Oops, I just gave my plan away. Not good! :eek:

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Got a seam ripper in there, Alty? :)

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Originally Posted by BlackVY

Haha... true... sorry...

Well back to the poster...

So do you think this girl respects him? I think if he doesn't contact her for a while, she will get scared and maybe take the time to realise what she is doing wrong. She does need to sort herself out though... this is insane... and the messages she was sending him last night were really bad... really hope he gets through this...

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Yah... I hope he gets through this, too. Truth is, he's probably madly texting her as we speak. He just wasn't hearing the advice. We've all been there, haven't we? Maybe everybody needs to learn on their own. I do wish the best for the young lad... from another Wisconsinite...

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Originally Posted by Ren6

Yah...I hope he gets through this, too. Truth is, he's probably madly texting her as we speak. He just wasn't hearing the advice. We've all been there, haven't we? Maybe everybody needs to learn on their own. I do wish the best for the young lad...from another Wisconsinite...

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Yeah he is probably txting her, saying he is sorry and he doesn't want to let her go. Yeah we have all been there and done that.. eventually he has to learn for himself it doesn't work. I just hope he doesn't get too hurt while learning this lesson...

Huh she's talking to that guy now. And said she doesn't like him but can talk

She said she's talking to him to piss me off and get me to leave me alne..

So you are in contact with her again? How else would you know why she is talking to him?

He messaged her and told her.

I don't know why. She said to piss me off so id leave her alone

Now she says she doesn't wnt me. And doesn't want me around

She says its scary because I'm so controlling