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Originally Posted by mmresd

First of all, it is not really clear what went down with the two of you leading up to him becoming "illegal", but the situation is out of your control at this point. He is in another country and has found somebody else and despite what he has said to you regarding his feelings towards you, you now need to move on and live your life. You can't sit around waiting for him to come back, or to come around, because life is too short to sit around and wait for somebody when it is not clear if there is hope for you as a couple. There is not just one person for everyone, so go out there and enjoy your life.

Good Luck,

Javi

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Hello,
Thanks for your reply! He became illegal after a two yr relationship his visa expired, it's a long story I have wrote about it in my other thread on relationships! He contacted me last week on I'm and he has problems with his family and left home, so he had no where to go. He slept outside his office until he had to go to work!
I asked him about his girlfriend he said its over with her, a week before he broke it off. I think he wanted simpathy from me as I always gave it to him in the past.
We spoke on the phone that night after almost a year of not speaking directly only on I'm, and he was feeling down and I spoke of the past the present and the future and said some emotional things about how I felt :rolleyes: but don't regret saying it as it was a long time and I needed to say certain things. But at the same time I should have spoke more of finding him a solution etc.. Not all about me and us!

Two days later I asked him how he was he said he was staying at a friends for a few days. I said hope things get better for you. He thanked me I said I could call him that night he said its not a good idea after our last conversation when I spoke of the past it made hm suffer! O well!
I'm just a bit sad now and miss him after talking to him it was like he was right here in front of me. I know its unrealistic as he's in another country and not a lot of opportunitys there.
I was thinking of sending him a mail saying I hope he's OK and found a more permanent solution! That's all!?

Thanks again!

Umm, I don't think you should. Give him some space and let him make his own choices, if he wanted to talk to you then he would, and it seems like he doesn't (at least for right now) so stop pushing stuff on him. Just let him be and if he talks to you great but if he doesn't it would be better that you have already started to move on with your life.

Good Luck,

Javi

Just can't let go, can you??

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Just can't let go, can you???

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Hi Talaniman,
How are you?
I guess not! I think its just plain love and how I still feel about him! Hes also going through a hard time and I just wanted to give him a bit of support, but at the same time happy that he turned to me still remembering I was always there for him! And now he's gone cold again, but can understand he hasn't a situation to talk, I was probably too much but that's just me I can express myself about anything very freely and openly go straight to the point, but brief without regret no point in hiding thoughts and feelings . At same time I was supportive towards him, so I believe I did nothing wrong!

At the moment its not so easy for me, still waiting for replys for jobs as I don't have a fixed job yet. I'm lonely and friends are not always available. So I have a lot of free time and feel like things are not moving along swiftly but my patience is running out. I'm sure something good will arise soon in the mean time I tend to think about my ex, and get angry with myself for how things have turned out.
Well I won't dwell there's a lot worse than me in the world. Things can only get better...
Happy Halloween!!
Thanks for your comments!:)